Synergy Success e-Zine, February 2013



It's not your job to like me...
it's MINE!
~Byron Katie 




Greetings to YOU and a Warm Welcome to our strong community of high-achieving women who intend to thrive amidst the challenges of work and life while showing grace under pressure.


"What 'cha doing mommy?" Dani-Grace asked, as I began writing this. 


"I'm sending my friends a Valentine's Day message about how important it is to love ourselves, so we have even more LOVE to give everyone we care about."


"Oh, I can help!", she chirped.  A few minutes later she was back holding these precious signs (pictured above) and I just had to share these melt-my-heart snapshots!


This Valentine's Day I'm putting a fresh twist on the romantic phrase "Will you be mine" 

to ask an even more important question: "Will you be YOURS?"


If this questions sounds funny, or perhaps a little self-centered, I get it.  Many of us feel that focusing on ourselves is selfish.  So we shower TLC on everyone else, often at the expense of our own self-care. It's easy to end up resentful of the time and attention we are giving others that we are not even giving to ourselves.


Here's 3 Great REASONS You Deserve Your Own Loving, Supportive Attention: 


1.  You can't give what you don't have: As we all know,  at the Heart of truly Successful relationships is deep Respect, Love and Acceptance for the other person. Because we can't give away something we don't have, We must first cultivate Respect, Love and Acceptance within ourselves before we can offer it to family, friends, and clients/customers.


2.  You can't teach what  you don't know: We want to raise happy children who have a healthy dose of self-esteem, yet we sometimes put ourselves last and are self-critical.  Let's give ourselves the same support, kindness, and grace that we would  a close friend so we're teaching them by our own example how to love and accept who they are, even when they aren't perfect.


3.  You can't deal what you don't acknowledge: In order to catch the early warning signs of physical, mental, or emotional imbalance, we must be present to our bodies and paying close attention.  If there's a health concern that you've been avoiding, a boundary that needs to be set with someone, or a change that needs to take place, resolving this quickly and lovingly is the best next step.


Remember, to serve others in the highest way both personally and professionally

includes us, so let's crank up our self-care and cultivate greater self-compassion. :)


So How about it?  "Will You be YOURS" this Valentine's Day?



 Christina Kunkle, CTA Certified Life and Wellness Coach, R.N.

 "Resilience Coach for High-Achieving Women who want to thrive 

by building a life, not just a career." 

P.S."You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn't worked.
Try approving of yourself and see what happens." ~Louise L. Hay

Upcoming Events


February, 2013


8th, Friday

SOAR Heart-Centered Leadership Development Program starts 11:30-1pm

McAlister's Deli, H'burg


9th, Saturday

SOAR Heart-Centered Leadership Development Program starts 11:30-1pm McAlister's Deli, H'burg


13th, Wednesday

Dinner Meeting 11:30- 1:00 p.m. McAlister's Deli, Harrisonburg, VA
14th, Thursday 
Dinner Meeting 5:30- 7:00 p.m. McAlister's Deli, Harrisonburg, VA
14th, Thursday
"Beyond SOAR" Elite Mastermind and Continuity Coaching Call 8:00-9:30 pm
15-17th Fri thru Sun
Advocare Success School
Fort Worth, Texas
26, Tuesday
Classic Kitchens and Bath
"Heart-Centered Success" Series Kick-off "
8:30 -9:30 a.m.
27, Wednesday
Montessori School Seminar 5:30-7 p.m. "Creating a Restorative Lifestyle" 

Self-Care Affirmation


"The way I treat myself sets the standard for others."  

Christina's Story 


Click here to read about her life-changing transformation...

"From Fear to Faith".

What do YOU think of

Consider this question for just a moment:

How would you feel right now if you replaced society's message about how we should look with the belief that STRONG is the new SKINNY? What would you be inspired to do differently? This is our motto and why Garth and I are excited to offer Crossfit Harrisonburg to our awesome 


RISE, a methodist faith community, Is collecting personal hygeine items for those in need in our community.  The Rise & Shine Ministry is in particular need of the following:
-Tampons & Pads and other feminine products
-Toilet Tissue
-Diapers (especially size 4)

Katie Atkinson will be collecting items at both Synergy Success Circles, this Wednesday @ the lunch meeting and Thursday @ the dinner meeting. 540-578-0077

Are You Living by Default?

by Christina Kunkle


6 Silly Mistakes That Make Life
Tougher Than it Has To Be

"Things shouldn't have to be this hard!" I thought to myself, after zipping down the driveway with no time to spare, only to catch a glimpse of "0 miles to empty" on my gas gauge.


Wish I could tell you that I wasn't the last one to drive the car...but I was.


I could come up with some pretty good excuses, but truth be told, I hadn't stopped to fill up the tank. Period.


After a few tense minutes, I puttered into Exxon, humbled by the unnecessary stress I brought on myself.

"Every circumstance is a chance for you to practice being the person you truly want to be, right?" my inner mean girl snickered as I stood at the gas pump. Instead of playing the shame game, I simply chuckled, saying "yes, and that's why I'm giving myself some grace!"


Of course, ideally, we strive to live our lives mindfully: by design, fully present in each moment. But, in the midst of the everyday - as the pressures of work, family and other responsibilities build - it's easy to lose sight and end up in panic mode.


How about you?


Are you running on empty? Even while intending to be proactive, organized and efficient, are there times when you catch yourself making things more complicated by default?


If so, this list of "6 Silly Mistakes"may help you discover what is standing in the way of your claiming and manifesting the life you choose.  (Click here to read the rest of the article on my blog...) 


 Valentine Inspiration From My Heart to Yours!

 Click here  to enjoy Chris Rice's inspiring song


"Go Light Your World!"


Quotes to Cultivate Self-Compassion 


"If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself."

~Barbara DeAngelous 


I have an everyday religion that works for me. Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.

~Lucille Ball


You are Wonderful. Valuable. Worthwhile.Lovable. Not because others think so. Self-worth comes from only one place: self. ~Karen Salmansohn


Having a low opinion of yourself is not "modesty". It's self-destruction. Holding your uniqueness in high regard is not "egotism". It's a necessary precondition to happiness and success. ~Bobbe Sommer


You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love & affection. ~Buddha


Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.~Iyanla Vanzant


Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.~Dan Coppersmith


Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. ~Louise L. Hay


I was once afraid of people saying, "Who does she think she is?" Now I have the courage to stand and say, "This is who I am."

~Oprah Winfrey


The best things in life are yours, if you can appreciate yourself.

~Dale Carnegie


Self-care is never a selfish act-it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.

~Parker Palmer


Until you make peace with who you are, you'll never be content with what you have.~Doris Mortman


No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

~Eleanor Roosevelt


You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.

~Dr. Wayne W. Dyer


If we really love ourselves, everything in our life works.

~Louise Hay


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Hi, I'm Christina Kunkle, the founder of Synergy Life and Wellness Coaching LLC and Creator of the Synergy Success Circle.  My practice is dedicated to helping Professional Women squelch overwhelm and prevent burn out by promoting bounce-back resilience to stay focused, positive, & excited through challenges of work and life.  In addition to one on one coaching,  I facilitate keynotes, workshops, and retreats on topics related to Resilience and Work/Life balance. Do You know of a group that could use some inspiration and practical tips or are you curious about how coaching works?  Then I'd love to share with you what I believe to be  the most powerful tool for change on the planet! read more...                                                                    


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P.S. If you've tried all by yourself in the past to get on track and stay there, be assured you will not fail here.  Not on my watch.  No, not this time!  You'll have exceptional support, Private calls with me to answer your questions and concerns, as well as  encouragement via email.


Christina Kunkle, CTA Certified Life and Wellness Coach, R.N.

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