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 Volume 3    Issue 12                                                                                        December, 2010
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In This Issue
How to REALLY win.
A Toast to my Favorite Bad Guy.
A Moment of Clarity (video): Giving up on Serious.....Just for Awhile
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In this month's articles, you will read about how we sometimes automatically do what meets some emotional need rather than what takes us in the direction we really want to go.  

I had the distinct pleasure of being interviewed by Darlene Willman of Accomplish Radio last week....bear with her promotion at the front end of this clip, it's a good exercise in why I do what I do and what makes me tick.....if you really want to know what makes me tick!
Accomplish Magazine
click on the magazine to hear this interview
And four times a year I conduct a Clarity Summit for those wanting to delve into what's getting in their way.  I will be conducting the next one here in St. Louis on January 7 - 9, 2011.  Attendants usually take advantage of these Summits when they feel stymied, and can't figure out what's impeding their growth.  Click here to learn more.

"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In those choices lie our growth and our happiness.
                                                                                          Steven Covey
How to REALLY win.
Frustrated boss

Ted is the manager of a very successful business, and he's frustrated. Whenever he asks a direct report to take on a task, he finds that his expectations aren't met, even though he is certain there was mutual agreement on what would happen next. "We'll have an iron-clad agreement," he says. "But no matter what I say, I cannot get what I want." My answer surprised him. (Read on....)

A Toast to my Favorite Bad Guy.

Tony Soprano Toast

As you know, I firmly believe that our Knower/Judgers sit at the foundation of our struggles. These are the bad guys, holding our histories and rules and getting in the way of our ability to be who and what we really want to be. Yet without my K/J, Christmas just wouldn't be Christmas at my house. Here's why I'm raising a glass to the bad guy. (Read more...)

A Moment of Clarity (video): Giving up on serious...just for awhile.
Gabby in his Santa Hat
To view video, click on image above
OK.  We bust our ass 11 1/2 months a year....time to let our hair down and do what we REALLY love to do.  This is our 13 year old Border Collie, Gabby, totally in the Christmas spirit, about to do what he LOVES to do (note snack stimulus at the lower edge of the picture!).
How does Rally co-driving prepare you for improving performance in teams and executives?
I am a Rally Co-driver in several series in the Western Hemisphere.  You can read about my racing history at my rally website. When I am competing, it is my job to corral all the best performances from myself, the driver, the mechanics and any other members of the crew supporting us for the weekend.  As you can imagine, as in any racing, egos are strong, tensions are high, and the atmosphere is ripe for interpersonal conflict.
I have a track record of co-driving for racers of any caliber (National Champions to first event novices) and delivering results that exceed their expectations. 
For the rest of my living, I coach executives in leadership and team dynamics; teams in developing higher levels of trust, understanding and camaraderie; and individuals in making changes supportive of getting what they want in life.  In this arena too, I have a reputation for delivering results that exceed their expectations.

HDClarity is an e-zine for those wanting to develop more of that trust, understanding and camaraderie in their work environment, and their life in general.  A smoother running team is a more profitable team.  It get things done faster, for less cost. 

If you'd like to share some of these insights for developing High Definition Clarity in your daily and business life, please forward this email.
"There is a clear and present danger.....when you are neither clear nor present."
Saving civilization (or your team) one conversation at a time,

Kim DeMotte, Corporate CoDriver
(877) 245-8250

November, 2010 Managing the process, 5th stage of learning, 110% vs. process
October 2010 Avocados; VOTE; Temptation
September 2010 Calm Starts with you; Why I want what I want; Eixenberger
August 2010 It's Who I Am, Conversation Openers,  Helmets and K/J

July 2010 Scorpion & Frog, Failure as Process, and Power of Conversation June 2010 Kick Ass, Shake It Up, Baby, Knowledge is Power
May 2010 Three Responses(Duplessis), Transition, Ho'oponopono & Science

April, 2010 Hope, Tiger/Eldrick, Horse's Ass
March, 2010 Wipe the Slate Clean, Failing Forward, Extraordinary
February, 2010 Getting out of the Triangle, Maybe-maybe not, Who Dat?
January, 2010 Drama Triangle, Blind Side, Summit Review
December, 2009 Red Conversation, Christmas 1914 Truce
November, 2009 Green Conversation, Hate, Jim Abbott
October, 2009 - 6th and 7th Gears
September, 2009 - 4th and 5th Gears
August, 2009 - 1st, 2nd, 3rd Gears
July, 2009 - Frustration, Cotton, Coaching
June, 2009 - Unlearning, Knower/Judger; Learner/Researcher
May, 2009 - Doubt
April, 2009 - Ho'oponopono
March, 2009 - The Sky is Falling
February, 2009 - USAir Fight 1549
January, 2009 - Let Go of the Past
December, 2008 - HDClarity introduction