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 Volume 3    Issue 9                                                                                      September, 2010
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In This Issue
Why do I want what I want?
The Calm Starts With You
A Moment of Clarity (video)
Archives
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How does Rally co-driving prepare you for improving performance in teams and executives?
Greetings!

I am a Rally Co-driver in several series in the Western Hemisphere.  You can read about my racing history at my rally website. When I am competing, it is my job to corral all the best performances from myself, the driver, the mechanics and any other members of the crew supporting us for the weekend.  As you can imagine, as in any racing, egos are strong, tensions are high, and the atmosphere is ripe for interpersonal conflict.
 
I have a track record of co-driving for racers of any caliber (National Champions to first event novices) and delivering results that exceed their expectations. 
 
For the rest of my living, I coach executives in leadership and team dynamics; teams in developing higher levels of trust, understanding and camaraderie; and individuals in making changes supportive of getting what they want in life.  In this arena too, I have a reputation for delivering results that exceed their expectations.

HDClarity is an e-zine for those wanting to develop more of that trust, understanding and camaraderie in their work environment, and their life in general.  A smoother running team is a more profitable team.  It get things done faster, for less cost.  If you'd like to discover methods for developing High Definition Clarity in your daily life, please read on.
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"And now the last question" said the rooster, "Do you always want what you think you want?" 

                                                                            Maurice Sendak
                                                                            (in Kenny's Window)
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Why do I want what I want?

Carrot
When we are infants, we learn to express our wishes very simply: We cry until we get what we want. "I want..." is learned early in language development. And when we are 2, 3, and 4 years old, our wants are simple and pure. We want food, comfort, hugs, warmth, love, elimination of diaper rash, etc.
 
But say you're now 35 and you want a BMW 550i--black with silver pinstripe and your initials on the driver's door. (Read more.....)
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The Calm Starts With You.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

                                                                            --Viktor E. Frankl

Confrontation

Have you ever been in one of those situations where tensions explode? What starts out as a minor distraction escalates rapidly to finger-pointing, accusations, and punishment? The "drama triangle" has multiple players in both the Persecutor and Victim corners, and all hell breaks loose.
 
Who's in charge? Who can stop this? (Read more.....)
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A Moment of Clarity (video): Finger Pointing or Fix the Processes?

Click on the Co-Driver above for video
Eixenberger/DeMotte
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Archives

August 2010 It's Who I Am, Conversation Openers,  Helmets and K/J
July 2010 Scorpion & Frog, Failure as Process, and Power of Conversation June 2010 Kick Ass, Shake It Up, Baby, Knowledge is Power
May 2010 Three Responses(Duplessis), Transition, Ho'oponopono & Science

April, 2010 Hope, Tiger/Eldrick, Horse's Ass
March, 2010 Wipe the Slate Clean, Failing Forward, Extraordinary
February, 2010 Getting out of the Triangle, Maybe-maybe not, Who Dat?
January, 2010 Drama Triangle, Blind Side, Summit Review
December, 2009 Red Conversation, Christmas 1914 Truce
November, 2009 Green Conversation, Hate, Jim Abbott
October, 2009 - 6th and 7th Gears
September, 2009 - 4th and 5th Gears
August, 2009 - 1st, 2nd, 3rd Gears
July, 2009 - Frustration, Cotton, Coaching
June, 2009 - Unlearning, Knower/Judger; Learner/Researcher
May, 2009 - Doubt
April, 2009 - Ho'oponopono
March, 2009 - The Sky is Falling
February, 2009 - USAir Fight 1549
January, 2009 - Let Go of the Past
December, 2008 - HDClarity introduction


 
"There is a clear and present danger.....when you are neither clear nor present."
 
Saving civilization (or your team) one conversation at a time,
 

Kim DeMotte, Corporate CoDriver
kim@corporatecodriver.com
www.corporatecodriver.com
(877) 245-8250