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"What's behind you doesn't matter"
Enzo Ferrari - explaining the lack of a mirror on his prototype Testa Rossa
Enzo Ferrari may have been a prophet when he allegedly
coined those words. There are numerous
self-help disciplines who advocate that we are today what we have become from
our past, our experiences, our parenting, and the decisions we've made based on
that history. And so it becomes
difficult if not impossible to change our ways without disconnecting from our
Are we obsessively on time?
Blame Mom! Do we whip our
children? Blame Dad! Do we have trouble dealing with money
issues? Getting ahead? Doing what we REALLY want to do? It's becoming increasingly obvious that
what's limiting us is our past...what's in our rear view mirror. Unfortunately, we live in the US
and even Ferraris manufactured for the US
market come with rear view mirrors. At
235mph, what, behind you can possibly have any importance? If you want to move in new directions at
speeds unheard of, then get rid of that rear-view mirror!
Eckhart Tolle (Power
and A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's
Purpose) is a proponent of living totally in the present to the extent that
he perceives anything in the past and anything in the future to be an
illusion. To Tolle, the present is the
only reality. Whoa! A little steep on the Zen curve, you say?
I attended a National Speaker Association Convention in San
Diego in 2007 and met Dr. Joe Vitale. Vitale was just publishing a book entitled Zero Limits where he outlined the Ho'oponopono
discipline he had learned from a Master in Hawaii
named Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. Here's an
excerpt from his book, Zero Limits
explaining how he was introduced to this fascinating discipline.
Two years ago, I heard about a
therapist in Hawaii who cured a
complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them.
The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to
see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient
When I first heard this story, I
thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing
himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally
It didn't make any sense. It
wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
However, I heard it again a year
later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho'oponopono.
I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was
at all true, I had to know more.
I had always understood
"total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think
and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of
total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what
anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people
would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.
His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew
Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to
tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he
worked at Hawaii State
Hospital for four years.
That ward where they kept the
criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The
staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward
with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was
not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
Dr. Len told me that he never saw
patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he
looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself,
patients began to heal.
"After a few months,
patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely," he
told me. "Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their
medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being
I was in awe.
"Not only that," he
went on, "but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and
turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because
patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today,
that ward is closed."
This is where I had to ask the million-dollar
question: "What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to
"I was simply healing the
part of me that created them," he said.
I didn't understand.
Dr. Len explained that total
responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply
because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the
entire world is your creation.
Whew! This is tough to swallow.
Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what
everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if
you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear,
taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in
This means that terrorist
activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't
like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except
as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and
to change them, you have to change you.
I know this is tough to grasp,
let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total
responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing
for him and in ho'oponopono means loving yourself. If you want to improve your
life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally
ill criminal--you do it by healing you.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about
healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients'
"I just kept saying, 'I'm
sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again," he explained.
Turns out that loving yourself is
the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve
your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone
sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working
on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the
nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently
saying, "I'm sorry" and "I love you," I didn't say it to
anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me
what was creating the outer circumstance.
Within an hour I got an e-mail
from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that
I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him
back. Yet, by saying "I love you," I somehow healed within me what
was creating him.
I later attended a ho'oponopono
workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly
shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.
He praised my book, The Attractor
Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise,
and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers
"What about the books that
are already sold and out there?" I asked.
"They aren't out
there," he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom.
"They are still in you."
In short, there is no out there.
It would take a whole book to
explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that
whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to
look: inside you.
"When you look, do it with
Imelda Duffy, an Irish
Psychotherapist and author of Into Angels
According to the Ho'oponopono philosophy, the
intellect working alone can't solve these problems, because the intellect only
manages. Managing things is no way to solve problems. You want to
let them go!
When you use Ho'oponopono, the Divinity, or
Source takes the painful thought and neutralises or purifies it. You don't
purify the person, place, or thing. You neutralize the energy you associate with that person, place or
thing. So the first stage of Ho'oponopono is the purification of that
Not only is that energy neutralized;
it also gets released, so there's a brand new slate. Buddhists
call it the 'Void'. The final step is that you allow the Divinity to come
in and fill the void with light.
Whatever is the OUTCOME of the energy clearing,
that's the outcome we need to accept. In accepting the outcome, we can know
without a doubt, that the 'Universal Manager' has the answer: the outcome that
We can't see beyond our own reasoning, which is
why the reasoning intellect alone cannot solve problems. When we can let go of
what we think; how we think it should be, we create a 'space' for the Source to
flow in and clean up - and sometimes the outcome is much more beneficial than
we could ever have imagined.
Who or what in your world gives
you constant grief? Who at your
workplace is your biggest antagonist? Perhaps
you are the cause. When we look at a poor street kid with metal decorations perforating his facial skin, his pants down around his knees and an attitude, is
that the child? Or is that our creation of that child? Surrounded by critics all day every day for
his entire life, he grows up to fulfill every expectation of a whole community
of folks who expect nothing more.
You have the choice to be
responsible, not only for what you say and do but what everyone else in the
world says and does. By cleansing your
past, throwing away the rear-view mirror, you can look upon the child and say
"I love you, I'm sorry", and cure yourself.
Get present. Today. It's your choice.
Power of NO, Corporate CoDriver