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Why Clarity..... ....and why now?
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Greetings!
We can no longer fathom watching standard definition TV broadcasts. We HAVE to view our sporting events, National Geographic programming and late night comedy in HD -- High Definition.
HDClarity is an e-zine for those wanting to develop more trust, understanding and camaraderie in their work environment, and their life in general. A smoother running team is a more profitable team. They get things done faster, for less cost. If you'd like to discover methods for developing High Definition Clarity in your daily life, please read on.
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"If only you could sense how important
you are to the lives
of those you meet; how important you can be to people you
may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that
you leave at every meeting with another person.
"
Fred Rogers
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Eckhart Tolle's Three
Responses and an Unbelievable Race
Christopher Duplessis is probably the best two-wheel-drive
rally car driver in the U.S.
In a world of 300-horsepower, rock-star-driven, all-wheel-drive Subarus,
Mitsubishis, and Ford Fiestas, Chris normally manhandles a 130-hp front-wheel
drive 1990 Volkswagen Golf to 2WD championships year after year. I had the
privilege of co-driving for Chris in Colorado
for the rally that wrapped up his 2008 Championship.
Chris is the original "can-do" guy. As a result, he's always
winning-even when he doesn't. What am I talking about? First, I need to explain
Eckhart Tolle's Three Responses.
Three Responses In his work, Tolle refers to the Three Modalities of
Awakened Doing. What he means is that, no matter what you do, a successful
connection to an event requires acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm. If you're
engaged in any other way, you're not going to be happy with the results.
Many of us are engaged in other states during a task or
event. These include: - Anger
- Frustration
- Duty
- Shame
- Fear
- Retaliation
These modes of engagement are derived from your
Knower/Judger persona. In these modes, you are comparing what's going on with
some past rule or experience and finding the situation "needing adjustment."
You end up saying things like: "I'm angry because you didn't follow through."
"I'm frustrated because the tire went flat." "I have to finish college because my father says so." "The toilet
paper comes off the roll wrong!"
Sure, it's difficult to get enthusiastic about that flat
tire. But throwing the jack in frustration is usually not productive. According
to Tolle, "Performing an action in the state of acceptance means you are at
peace while you do it."
Chris's Gift Chris was tapped by 0-60 Magazine to pilot a 2010 Scion XD sedan that was hurriedly prepped for
running the Oregon Trail Rally. By prepped, I mean a roll cage had been
installed, and some pretty awesome Tein suspension was bolted underneath. Other
than that, it was pretty much off the shelf, putting Chris at a huge
perceived disadvantage.
Although the car was paid for by somebody else, it had low
power, an open differential (only one wheel pulling), and was not particularly light. Plus there were
lots of uphill racing sections on the course and Chris had a novice co-driver.
Other drivers would have looked at this opportunity (any
paid ride is an opportunity) but found fault with the car, the differential,
the lack of power, the hurried preparation, the inexperienced co-driver and
crew. They would have known they
weren't going to win.
In contrast, Chris spent most of the weekend in unbridled
enthusiastic engagement, laughing as he snapped the front bumper loose in a
high-speed water crossing, smiling as a rock punctured the floor pan, not
lifting the throttle corner after corner, blind crest after blind crest,
totally committed to the project, even though this car was not supposed to be a
competitive rally car.
Chris didn't win. He came in second to a turbo-charged fully
sorted out Ford Focus. But his 2010 Championship season is still intact with
only two events to go. And 0-60,
Scion, and Tein got their money's worth from Chris Duplessis because he doesn't
know how to respond to anything in a manner inconsistent with Tolle's Three
Responses. He chooses to respond with acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm. And
usually, he chooses all three.
Are you getting your money's worth out of you? Your people?
Your relationships? If not, perhaps you're not responding to situations in the
best way.
Next time you're faced with an issue that's about to set you
off, weigh the value of satisfying your emotional issues-throwing your jack,
yelling at your direct report-against the overall success of the mission. Would
one of the Three Responses serve you better? Chris and Ron and the 0-60 Scion (click picture to see a video) |
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Facing the Changes
Change is scary. Foundations are shaken. What worked before
isn't working now. It can be terrifying. The reason we get scared is because we look at transitional
periods from our Knower/Judger and "judge" the situation to be unsafe, out of bounds,
and hence, uncomfortable. Why? Because the K/J gets information from the past,
which means that you're comparing today to yesterday. Things aren't the same
and you no longer know what to expect. According to William Bridges, author of Transitions and The Way of
Transition, transitions occur in three phases: Ending, Losing, Letting Go;
The Neutral Zone; and The New Beginning. Let's look at these using some of the
concepts we have discussed over the past year and a half.
(1) Ending, Losing, Letting Go - According to Bridges, this is when
you deal with your tangible and intangible losses and mentally prepare to move
on. As Eckhart Tolle says, there are only three reasonable responses to any
situation:
1. Engage enthusiastically
2. Enjoy passively
3. Accept
We sometimes have difficulty seeing that the change we're staring at is
inevitable, such as with a death, divorce, job change, or a new edict from
corporate headquarters. Instead, we fantasize that life will go on as normal
and that nothing need change or be lost.
But it is what it is. Even if you look at the change through your K/J
viewfinder, you still cannot recover the status quo. Choosing to engage your
Learner/Researcher helps you see the data for what it is and facilitates
"letting go." The sooner we can accomplish this, the quicker we can come out
the other side.
(2) The Neutral Zone - For Bridges, this is when critical
psychological realignments and re-patterning takes place. It's all about
helping get you through the transition, and capitalizing on the confusion by
encouraging you to be an innovator.
Humanity only really connects when it explores doubt. When we all "know"
(from our K/J persona), there is little to explore. Everything comes down to
"you're wrong and I'm right." But in doubt, we can come together and research
solutions. In transition, the old status quo is defunct. How can we possibly proceed?
Asking the question makes the possibilities present themselves, sometimes quite
by accident when we are open to accept them. Sometimes we see possibilities
simply by plugging away at the problems.
One thing is certain: possibilities do not become visible until we have
entered this Neutral Zone using our L/R. The situation may be confusing. It may
possibly be terrifying. But we can't go back, because we've already let go of
our past reality.
(3) The New Beginning - This phase, in Bridges' work, involves
developing a new identity, experiencing new energy, and discovering a new sense
of purpose that makes the change begin to work.
When the foundations of past experience evaporate and the K/J is suspended,
we are left only with L/R skills. Filters get out of the way. Data we could not
see before becomes clearer. We are finally free to choose our direction based on our desires and the data at hand.
We all know of people who just packed up and chucked it all to start a new
life. They went through this process.
We know people who lost loved ones. They went through this process.
We know people who lost their jobs. They either went through or are going
through this process (some Neutral Zones last longer than others).
What transition are you facing? Is it of your choosing? Or was it thrust
upon you? Understanding the process can help you avoid some of the stress and
struggle. Realizing that letting go is a necessary component helps you let go.
Seeing that doubt and confusion are part of the process frees you up to explore
fearlessly.
When you can identify where you are along the continuum, you can see there's
a history of success in similar situations. And that helps.
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Ho'oponopono and Science
Here's a little gem for you more pragmatic readers.
The underlying premise of the Ho'oponopono affirmation (I
love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.) is that everything is
interconnected. We "get right" with the world by interacting with it from our
Learner/Researcher persona, connecting with an open heart and mind. But what
represents this overarching connectedness that Carl Jung called the Collective
Conscious and others refer to as karma? How can we see it, touch it, or even
know that it's there?
The idea that we are all part of a bigger "whole" has
existed in belief systems since before the written word. Somehow in our
mechanized, corporate-ladder-climbing, ego-centered existence, our
Knower/Judger has left little room for that possibility. Recently though,
science, our current collective K/J, has begun to move toward its L/R and
explore some of the evidence that frequently disproves its own "knowledge."
Suspend your own personal K/J for a moment and ponder the following:
On September 11,
2001, a global array of computer-driven random number generators
monitored by the Global Consciousness Project began to deliver more and more
non-random results. The probability of what was happening occurring without
some cause was less than one in a thousand.
The event has been described like this: "We are obliged to
confront the possibility that the measured correlations may be directly
associated with some (as yet poorly understood) aspect of the consciousness
attendant global events."
To make this perfectly clear, the output of digital devices
around the world, that only generate data using binary (zeroes and ones) were
affected by human emotion on a global scale.
If you're reading that from your K/J, you're probably having a tough
time.
This deviation from random didn't only occur on 9/11. It's
been witnessed with: - US Embassy bombings in 1998
- NATO bombings in Yugoslavia
in 1999
- A billion-person meditation in 1999
- Pope John Paul II's visit to Israel
in 2000
- Russian school hostage crisis 2004
- Indonesian earthquake 2006
- ....and over 300 other events
The figure below represents the
history of the formal hypothesis testing. It displays the cumulative deviation
of results from chance expectation (shown as the horizontal black line at zero
deviation). Truly random data would produce a jagged curve with no slope,
wandering up and down around the horizontal. The dotted smooth curves show the
0.05 and 0.001 probability envelopes that help to define significant versus
chance excursions.
The
jagged red line shows the accumulating excess of the empirically normalized
Z-scores relative to expectation for the complete dataset of rigorously defined
events. The overall result is highly significant. The odds against chance are
greater than a million to one. The Global Consciousness Project's leadership looks like the
who's who of the pragmatic scientific community. The website is hosted at
Princeton.edu. Open your mind to the possibility that what we do affects
everything else, and what occurs everywhere affects us. Hey! Collective Conscious! I love you. I'm sorry. Please
forgive me. Thank you!
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Archives
April, 2010 Hope, Tiger/Eldrick, Horse's Ass March, 2010 Wipe the Slate Clean, Failing Forward, Extraordinary February, 2010 Getting out of the Triangle, Maybe-maybe not, Who Dat? January, 2010 Drama Triangle, Blind Side, Summit Review December, 2009 Red Conversation, Christmas 1914 Truce November, 2009 Green Conversation, Hate, Jim Abbott October, 2009 - 6th and 7th Gears September, 2009 - 4th and 5th Gears August, 2009 - 1st, 2nd, 3rd Gears July, 2009 - Frustration, Cotton, Coaching June, 2009 - Unlearning, Knower/Judger; Learner/Researcher May, 2009 - Doubt April, 2009 - Ho'oponopono March, 2009 - The Sky is Falling February, 2009 - USAir Fight 1549 January, 2009 - Let Go of the Past December, 2008 - HDClarity introduction
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There is a clear and present danger.....when you are neither clear nor present.
Saving the planet one conversation at a time,
Kim DeMotte
Power of NO, Corporate CoDriver kim@corporatecodriver.com www.corporatecodriver.com (877) 245-8250
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