1) Communicate:

• Silence will kill a relationship
• Lack of communication breeds apathy and mistrust
• Even arguing is a form of communication that shows you are still willing to fight for the relationship

2) Spend time together:

• Just the two of you
• Somewhere other than your home
• No cell phones
• Focus on each other

3) Put yourself in your partner's shoes:

• Make a list of what you do each week and ask them to do the same and then exchange
• Once you see all they do that you may not have been aware of, don't take those things for granted

4) Don't look back:

• Let the past stay in the past

5) Remember to obey the stop signs:

• Stop scoring points against each other
• Stop bringing up old arguments
• Stop thinking the worst
• Stop opting out of difficult situations
• Stop the insults - what you say in a moment of anger will be remembered by your partner in a calm moment

6) Practice Acceptance:

• A person's general nature will not change after you marry or commit to them
• Be aware of what they have had to accept to be with you

7) Try to keep your sense of humor:

• If you can't remember what you are mad about, forget it, and laugh

8) Put each other first:

• Don't complain about doing something for your partner that you would willingly and happily do for a friend, family member or co-worker

9) Don't sweat the small stuff:

• Learn what to let go of
• Focus on the positive

10) Submit to each other's gifts:

• If you don't need someone else's gifts, why are you in a marriage/committed relationship in the first place? Allow them to complete you.