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Click Here to view a short clip before reading article belowDoes treatment have to cost a lot? Addiction crosses all education levels-from Yale to jail. IQ has little
to do with it. Some of the lucky ones recognize the problem early,
swallow their pride, and seek help. The majority, though, are like me.
By that I mean they have an attitude-an attitude that says, "No one is
going to tell me what to do!" One person may need only a few counseling
sessions. Another might need a few months in a residential setting. Many
centers offer outpatient and intensive outpatient treatment as well as
residential treatment. Inpatient or residential treatment is one option, though it is the
most expensive. Even at discounted rates many families cannot afford a
28- day program. However, this isn't necessary for every drug-dependent
person. In fact, more than half of all recovering people didn't have the
inpatient experience. As I make this point, please bear in mind that
I'm not suggesting that inpatient treatment isn't beneficial. It would
be wonderful if this was available to everyone; but it's not. There just
aren't enough facilities for the demand. Even if there were, many
people can't afford it. Let's talk about a few other ways to begin recovery. Determining
which treatment is appropriate will depend on the drugs the addict has
been using, how much, for how long, and his or her level of motivation.
We will start with the simplest and work our way up.
Read more. . .
This article is excerpted (pg. 101) from the 2010 revised and updated book "Why Don't They JUST QUIT? What friends and families need to know about addiction and recovery."
Video clip excerpted from"The 10 Toughest Questions Families and Friends Ask About Addiction and Recovery."
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~ Babe Ruth
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Is Relapse Part of
Recovery? Addiction has been called a chronic relapsing disease. Relapse is when
the person in recovery chooses to try some controlled using again after
attempting to remain abstinent. We know that addicts/alcoholics can't
control substance use. If they could, they wouldn't be in this situation
in the first place. Relapse is one more failed attempt at trying to
control how much they are able to use.
Using a substance occasionally and in moderation isn't a problem for
social drinkers. But once someone crosses over to habitual and
uncontrolled use, there is no going back. Attempts to regain control-to
use alcohol or drugs socially and occasionally-are common, and these
attempts lead to relapses. Statistics show that approximately 90 percent
of those who complete treatment will have a relapse-sometimes referred to as a slip.
Five months after leaving treatment in April, I tried just one more
time to see if I could control my using. I went out with an old friend
and drank.
Read more. . . This article is
excerpted (pg. 187) from the 2010 revised and updated book "Why Don't They JUST QUIT? What friends and families need to know about addiction and recovery."
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Recent feedback from our readers (All feedback is posted with permission from the sender. We have changed a few details to protect their anonymity)
A brand new review from Author Sheryl Letzgus McGinnis (author of three books on addiction and also member of the Parent Advisory Board of the Partnership for a Drug-Free America). As the author myself of 3 books on drugs and addiction I'm quite
familiar with the lives of addicts and their loved ones. This book by
Joe Herzanek is one of the very best by far on this subject. The book is
easy to read, divided into sections so you can look for whatever topic
you're most interested in and go straight to it. But you won't stop at
one section or two or three; you will be compelled to read the book in
its entirety.
Written by a recovering addict, the book is insightful, informative
and truthful. There are so many standout sentences and phrases that it's
hard to select just a few but the following really grabbed me. The book
tells that addiction is primary, progressive, chronic, and fatal. It
is the "chronic" part that I wish every addicted person could come to
understand. "This means that the disease will always be with the
addicted person. There is no cure for addiction. With the right
treatment, it will go into remission, and it will stay in remission as
long as the person doesn't start using again ... it's not gone; it's
just not active."
Another critical part of the book that Joe exposes is the myth of
"having to hit bottom." Read more. . .
Once in a while, despite
our best efforts to package items effectively, one of our Free CDs will arrive
at someone's mailbox damaged. We received this email from one such woman, after
we sent her replacement CD, along with an additional surprise. Dear Judy,I ordered
and received the DVD "The 10 Toughest Questions" a few weeks
ago. I had watched it twice and was writing out the script (pausing
and restarting the DVD every few seconds and writing down every single
word Joe spoke). I didn't want to miss anything that he had to
say. When I received word from you that you were sending me a copy of it
as a "sorry", I was so excited, because I knew that your
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your newsletter, interviews, articles, and links. These are
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to reliable sources of experienced counsel and practical information
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a distance, waiting, and hoping that these resources will be valued
and implemented by their loved ones.--Linda S
Los Gatos, CA Below is
some great feedback from a subscriber who requested our free audio CD:I listened
to the audio CD over the weekend. It has so much packed into
it. It reinforces all that I must know. I am now 61 years old
and I graduated with the class of '67. In the midst of all that
craziness back then, drinking and taking drugs were never a temptation or part
of my world. I've had to search as quickly and earnestly as possible
in order to come up with information that will help equip me and
any other members of our family who want to work together to trudge through
this challenge. The CDs are such a compliment to Joe's book, because they
allow the listener to hear Joe's heart. He is kind and firm at
the same time. I plan to share the CD with others and listen to it
again myself. --Still
learning on the West Coast And another:In February when we became
aware of our son-in-law's alcoholism, I ordered a lot of books (about
15), some suggested by Al-Anon. I think Joe's book does the
best job of blending the moral and disease aspects of alcoholism. When we make choices that take us so far off the path of wellbeing, we
need help from those who genuinely understand and are
able to help us find our way back. You are
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Recent Radio Interviews
Prescription Addiction Radio (Tampa Bay, Florida) Click logo above to access radio website. Hosted by Larry Goldbom, The Prescription Addiction Radio Show is dedicated to the
thousands of families who are being or have been affected by the misuse
of prescription drugs.
Listen to Joe's interview from April 25
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Take 12 Recovery Radio (Portland, Oregon) Click logo above to access radio website. Recovery Radio and Positive Music. 12 Step Radio
at its best. Broadcasting 24 hours a day for the recovery community and
all 12-Steppers. Listen to Joe's interview with Monty May 7, 2010
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Listen Now! Recovery Now Radio (Madison, Wisconsin) Over
the past couple years I have taped various radio interviews. Among
these were several with a wonderful weekly show called "Recovery Now!" Host Ned Wicker and I engage in easygoing discussions covering a multitude of topics.
Jail is Not the End of the World! Chaplain Joe Herzanek has much experience with this topic as he has spent the last 17 years working at the Boulder
County Jail helping those struggling with addiction to overcome it. 30 min. Listen Now
Step 6: Ready to Have God Remove Defects Joe
Herzanek discusses Step 6 of the Twelve Step program: Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. A subtle but very key step in recovery. 30 min. (2009 show) Listen Now 30 min. (NEW 2010 show) Listen Now
Step 7: Humbly Asked Him to Remove Shortcomings Joe Herzanek discusses Step 7 of the Twelve Step program: Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. This step really increases the changes in a person's life as they move into recovery from addiction. 30 min. (2009 show) Listen Now 30 min. (NEW 2010 show) Listen Now
Detachment: Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone you love is to detach from them. 30 min. Listen Now
"Is There A Conflict Between Christianity and the Twelve Steps?" Joe Herzanek discusses the relationship between Christianity and the 12-step program of recovery and how they are related. 30 min. Listen Now (Click here to read all twelve steps).
Step 12: Staying Connected Giving back and staying connected are the key parts of the last step in the 12-Step process. How do you stay in recovery? 30 min. Listen Now (Click here to read all twelve steps).
A Summary of All the 12 Steps A quick review of each step and why you need each one to recover from
addiction and to avoid relapse. We've gone through each of the steps now, and this time
we review all with Joe Herzanek, author of "Why Don't They Just Quit?"
30 min. Listen Now (Click here to read all twelve steps).
Why Don't They Just Quit? Joe Herzanek discusses "Why Don't They Just Quit?" a book and DVD set he has developed to explain all aspects of drug addiction and alcoholism. 30 min. Listen Now
Ned Wicker/Host: Recovery Now! Addictions Chaplain Waukesha Memorial Hospital Lawrence Center Waukesha, WI
Read Ned Wicker's article "Recovering Addiction: Wrestling With Spiritual Issues"(click here)
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The Addict's Mom
We've recently discovered a wonderful group of women who have started a new group. Their creativity, drive and genuine passion for the struggling moms of the world comes from their own firsthand experiences.
Please take a moment to check out their organization, tell a friend and drop them a line to express your support.
"The Addict's Mom," is a group focusing on the mothers of addicted
children. The relationship between the mother and addicted child is
unique (not to diminish the experiences of other family members).
This group however, is dedicated to addressing the mother's pain but
more importantly, the commonalities of our experiences--thus illustrating
to the grieving mother that she is not alone nor is she unique in this
respect. One line posted on this site, one thought--can help change her perspective for the
better. To visit The Addict's Mom and read more...
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Just Love Her I recently finished a wonderful book by Trina Hayes that I'd like to share with you. This mom retells her journey of healing through her daughter's drug addiction and recovery--a wonderful story. ~ Judy Herzanek
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Ask Joe "How do I start trusting her again?"
Q Dear Joe:
My daughter is a recovering heroin
addict. She has lied to me about
just about everything for a long time and I am having trouble believing
what she says now. How do I break this cycle and start trusting her
again?
--Bethany
A Dear Bethany,
I don't have a lot to go on here (recovering
heroin addict) but I'll try. I do not know how long your daughter
has
been completely drug and alcohol free but if it's less than a month
or
more you have no reason to believe her.
I'm going to assume she is, or you strongly suspect she is-still
using or you wouldn't be sending me this email.
No one recovers
alone. Is she connected with a support group? Is she attending 12-Step
meetings? Does she have a sponsor? Is she meeting regularly with an
Addiction Counselor?
If it were my daughter I would tell her I want to be able to verify
her sobriety by talking to her sponsor or counselor.
Lastly, you
will know when she is truly committed to a new life of
recovery. She
will have a whole new attitude toward life. Between now and then be
cautious, very cautious--especially when it comes to money.
A great resource is: "Parenting Teens With Love and Logic" -by Foster Cline/Jim Fay
Best regards, Joe
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"Trust is an open door to more freedom, but it is
not a revolving door. When it is shut due to misbehavior, it isn't
easily reopened. It takes time and effort to crack it open again."
~Mark
Gregston
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We've added even more "Ask Joe" Q&A to our revised edition of Why Don't They Just Quit?
Read more "Ask Joe" excerpts on our Blog:
Should my husband "back off?"
I'm worried that he may never recover.
How can I be supportive and forgiving when I am so hurt?
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