Give yourself a guide for 2011
The popular question this week is, "Did you make any New Year's Resolutions?" Most people don't make them, or if they do, they break them within a month or so. If you look at the language of resolutions you see a yearning for change. It can be hard to get rid of "bad habits," (junk food, avoiding conflict), so I'm taking a different approach this year:
The better we feel about our lives and the more consciously we live our lives, the less we will make bad choices. Think about which things energize and excite you and do more of that. Evaluate which thoughts, words, and actions drain you or make you feel bad, and do less of that. This is the formula for most of my clients' success stories. Now it's your turn to make powerful choices.
I evaluated 2010 and made 3 lists.
Completed projects and any accomplishments I am proud of.
From relationship building to work projects to great family time, I've been busy this year. I have analyzed which excited and energized me and thought about how I can to do more it. The ones that drained me or caused problems, I will make a big effort not to repeat or to find another way to go about it that won't be so draining.
In either case, I will let go of the items on this list and make emotional room for the new events of 2011.
Projects started and not completed or put on hold.
Incomplete projects put a drain on our emotions. They sit in the back of our minds and cause stress or dissatisfaction. I will make a decision about each item, with a timeline for completion on those I intend to pursue.
Projects or actions I have wanted to do but did not.
We all have a list like this: things for the house, things for us personally, business decisions or family events.
This third list can be where the procrastination or limiting beliefs lie. "I can't do that just yet- not the right time, don't have enough money, not sure how to go about it, don't have enough time or energy to tackle it."
If the project, event or issue is important enough, I urge you to look at why it hasn't happened yet and rethink your belief system. (This is a great topic for a coaching session, by the way.)
Lastly, I evaluated what thoughts and words support me- my inner voice. Mostly I tend to remember the negative self-talk, when I talked myself out of something. (Yes, even coaches have that nagging inner voice.) So I vow to God and my readers that I will write down 5 positive affirmations every day. (That is a resolution I am committed to, along with a monthly newsletter.) In doing this, I will celebrate who I am, what I am grateful for, and what I have been able to accomplish.
Now I invite you to join me. Evaluate 2010 and create a plan to make powerful choices for 2011.
I am offering a great way to experience what coaching can do for you: Pay $25 for a 45-minute discussion about your list to help you set some goals and get on your way in 2011. Give it a try, you have little to lose and so much to gain.
"Until you commit your goals to paper,
you have intentions that are seeds without soil."
-- Anonymous
Happy New Year,
Monica Leggett
203-209-5462
