Hello
'We teach people how to treat us'
Personal transformation of any kind is not for the faint of heart. It's tough... no matter if it's a job search, career change, or new personal status. Transformation is about change.
Sometimes, the most challenging roadblock to manifesting sustainable and effective change can be your personal relationship building style in place prior to your own transformation.
And, what served you well up to this point in creating a network of relationships, may become one of your most troublesome limitations.
If you are not mindful of the need to develop new self-leadership behaviors and techniques, you might easily slip into familiar patterns with both old and new relationships that exacerbate the roadblocks.
Why is this so tough? It requires a relocation outside of your behavioral comfort zone that is disruptive to your 'norm'.
As the CEO of your own transformation, you are the teacher who must now teach those around you exactly how you are to be treated going forward.
Sounds grandiosely self-serving, I know, but if you don't take the pro-active lead on this who else will?
This is where we can all learn from effective leaders we have worked for, observed , or read about who have developed reputations for qualities such as being decisive, clear, focused, aware, engaged, and purposeful.
So, here are a few practical behavioral suggestions to help you begin to change the relationships around you to be more aligned with your transformation:
- Know your value
- Show your strengths
- Say everything clearly
- Pick up the phone
- Leave nothing to interpretation
- Stay on point
- Shed all distractions
- Guard your time
- Interrupt the meeting
- Make the decision
- Say no, more often
- Close some doors
- Trust yourself more
- Break the rules
And, for regular readers of The Second Cup:
If it is true that we teach people how to treat us...it's time to change the lesson.
Greetings!
