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Greetings!
I'm so busy writing a book for you that I'm neglecting this newsletter. So....
The main article this week is an excerpt from a draft of that very same book, Job Interviewers: Get Inside Their Heads. The sample is about asking an authority figure to do something they're usually not willing to do, and to ask it in each of the Four Colors. It's like getting the boss to break a rule. To make it fun, I set it up as a child asking a reluctant parent to hand over an extra cookie.
You won't have to wait long for the book. It's almost done and will be available through Amazon.com for digital readers. I'm so excited I can't stand it.
TV NEWS: Have you seen the new reality show called The Job? It premiered just last week. Look for it on CBS on Friday nights. It's worth recording so you can study it later. The whole show is a job interview. Pay attention to what the interviewers care most about, then pay attention to whether or not the answers from the contestants are responding to the values of the questioners.
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Mommy, Can I Have a Cookie?
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Note to all you Four Windows / Colors aficionados: In the new book Job Interviewers: Get Inside Their Heads, I don't want to spend too much time explaining Colors, so I use workplace names for the Colors: Gold is Careful. Green is Expert. Orange is Impulsive. Blue is Idealistic.
THE GREAT COOKIE REQUEST
You have been catering to other people's personalities and their values all of your life. For example, you might remember asking your parents for a cookie when you were about nine.
Let's say there was a one-cookie rule then, but suddenly you wanted two cookies. And let's pretend that you were the genius your parents hoped you would be.
To the Careful Parent: I understand the rule, Mommy. Yesterday I did not have a cookie because I knew you'd bake fresh today. I think you made the one-cookie rule to protect my teeth and overall health, am I wrong? If you want, I'll not eat a cookie tomorrow either. These cookies will only be fresh out-of-the-oven right now. Please let me have a second one now, okay?
To the Expert Parent: Look, I've monitored all my carbs today. They're less than 30% of my total calories. My total sugar intake so far is less than 8 grams. The oatmeal in these cookies gets me closer to the fiber goal for the day. The second cookie isn't going to kill me. I ask you, is it rational, really, to refuse me a second cookie?
To the Impulsive Parent: Mommy, the one-cookie rule is a stupid one when you consider that you're taking them out of the oven right now! Let's enjoy a few more -- you and me. I'll pour the milk, okay?
To the Idealist Parent: Mommy, I know you made the one-cookie rule because you love me. I'd be an idiot not to understand that. I love you too. (Snuggles up.) You know that.
Do you mind if we talk about these fresh, warm cookies? Where could an extra cookie fit in the big picture?
Now here's a challenge for you, dear reader: Combine all four of the above answers into one single petition that should work for most parents.
Here's a clue. Do your revisions this way. Start with the Careful response, then edit that same response with Expert values in mind. Next, edit that evolving text for the Impulsives. Finish off with values important for Idealistic parents. Do not cheat by cramming in too much. Still try to keep the request somewhat short.
Are you accepting the challenge? If so, send me your best effort and it will be considered for publication in the next newsletter.
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I wrote this article for the Christmas 2011 issue. If you' want an idea or two for your loved one this Valentine's Day, here you go.
We know to give presents that our loved ones actually want, and not what we want, right? It's probably hardest to buy stuff for people so different from us because we ourselves do not place the same value on the gift. For example, my very Orange adult granddaughter wants a new tattoo for the holiday. To begin with, I don't understand tattoos at all and certainly would never spend any money on one for myself. But that's the point of a gift, isn't it? It's a gift -- something truly valuable to the recipient.
Gold Gifts. Who is the traditional, responsible Gold person in your life? They like what's "right." Here's a partial list: tasteful jewelry and clothing, practical furnishings and utensils for the home, the next piece of a cherished collection, gift cards for the right store, or an intimate item that further bonds your relationship.
Green Gifts. Your rational, deep-thinking Green friends and family members like stuff for their minds: cutting-edge software, books, intriguing games, coveted resources, tickets to events around their favorite subjects and hobbies, and useful material things that keep life utilitarian and efficient.
Blue Gifts.Those idealistic, harmony-seeking Blue folks in your life may be the least expensive to shop for just because they can value "the thought" more highly the actual gift. Are you good at making things that you can custom-tailor for your loved one? Can you write something special? How about tickets to music, theater, and conerts? Flowers and arty things? Or a warm piece of clothing they'll always remember you by?
Orange Gifts. Truth be known, nearly everybody wants to get what Oranges want and usually get. Oranges just want to have fun. They want to enjoy personal freedom. So they get surprises, trips, the latest clothes, cool tools, exciting games, toys, musical instruments, vacation tickets -- well, you get the idea.
Here's my own take on gifting. The best gifts are given with no strings, no investment in the outcome -- except in the hope the gift will bring genuine joy -- however temporary -- to the recipient. Say what you will about the materialism of the day, underneath the colorful ribbons and enormous credit card debt is a desire to enrich the lives of others.
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Career & Life Planning Workshop
First Signed-Up, First Served!!!
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Jack Dermody has one hour of this free workshop. Come and join him!
Have you ever wondered whether it is possible to find a career true to your personal brand and purpose? How to turn job hunting into job getting? How to prepare for the different interviewers' personality styles?
You are invited to attend a workshop by three leading experts in the area of career planning. Regardless of what stage you are in your life, this workshop can inspire you and get results!
Time: 1:30-4:00 pm, Saturday March 2nd, 2013
Location: Waddell & Reed, 7001 N Scottsdale Rd, Ste 2035, Scottsdale, AZ 85253
RSVP to: elenazee@cox.net or 602-758-3905
Cost: Free. Snack and drinks will be provided.
1. Michael S. Seaver, CPBA, SPHR, MBA, Owner of Seaver Consulting, LLC
Topic Title: Finding Your Purpose...Unlocking Your Potential
Discovering and living up to your potential isn't something that happens to the lucky few. Anyone can gain a thorough understanding of self, create a plan that develops a unique personal legacy, and then follow a basic process to live that brand daily. In Michael's presentation, he will share inspiring studies and experiences that will show you that you can find your purpose too!
2. Richard S Deems, PhD, President, WorkLife Design
Topic Title: 3 Steps to Turn Job Hunting into JobGetting
Turning job hunting into JobGetting takes several steps:
Step 1 - Tell others the results of your work
Step 2 - Prepare a resume that invites a phone call
Step 3 - Follow the JobGetting Skills (tm) System
3. Jack Dermody, President, Speakers Resource Organization
Topic Title: Satisfy 4 Types of Interviewers to Land a Job
The needs, values, and strengths of job interviewers may differ radically from your own. "Satisfy 4 Types of Interviewers to Land a Job" is a tool for composing interview answers that demonstrate respect for all four types.
- Understand and respect the values of all four temperaments: The Careful, The Impulsive, The Idealistic, The Expert
- Learn how your own natural temperament can both help and hurt you
- Aim for a balanced presentation of yourself
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Sincerely,
Jack Dermody
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