John S. Gordon - Business and Personal Coach

"You have the greatness and the power.  I just help you turn on the switch."

MARVELOUS MONDAYS

 

October 29, 2012 - Issue 197   

 

Conflict--Is This Your New Fiancé?

 

  

This the second issue in a series on Conflict. Click here for issue 196.

 How we handle conflict is part of our Emotional Intelligence, which has been the subject of prior issues.

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WHAT IS CONFLICT? 

The Academic Leadership Support defines conflict as "a disagreement to which the parties involved perceive a threat to their needs, interests, or concerns."

We know that conflict is part of life and human nature; yet we often view it as something negative and to be avoided.

 

 

ENGAGEMENT IN CONFLICT-THE BENEFITS TO YOU 

Are you willing to become engaged in conflict? By doing so, you can develop and expand your own personal skills, such as:

 

-Courage                                                          

-Creative problem solving                                    

-Open-mindedness                                           

-Flexibility                                                        

-Insights

-Positivism

-Listening

-Patience

-Forgiveness 

ENGAGEMENT IN CONFLICT-THE JOINT BENEFITS TO YOU & THE ADVERSARY 

By learning how to SKILLFULLY engage in conflict, you and your adversary can eliminate the following:

 

-Suspicion                                          

-Confusion                                          

-Speculation

-Resentment                                        

-Frustration

-Distrust 

 

By SKILLFULLY engaging in conflict, you and your adversary can achieve the following:

 

-A clear understanding of the issues

-Joint exploration of options

-Creative joint problem solving

-A resolution of the dispute       

-Avoidance of a repeat conflict

-An awareness for anticipating other conflicts

-Renewed mutual trust

 

HELP IS ON THE WAY

Dealing with another in conflict is sometimes very difficult. It is a skill to be learned and to be practiced, so in subsequent issues we will discuss proven techniques to help you.

  

EXERCISE

This week I invite you to observe any situations in which you are engaged in conflict and be aware of the following:

 

1.         Do you avoid conflict at any cost?

2.         What does it take for you to want to engage in a conflict?

3.         What emotions do you experience when engaging in conflict?

4.         Notice any conflicts and observe any benefits that come from the conflict.

 

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"Leveling the playing field can help resolve conflicts and allow for a win-win." 

-John Gordon

JOHN'S BIO
John has owned several businesses and is an attorney who has practiced in the business and estate  areas.  In addition, he coaches business owners, executives, entrepreneurs, professionals, speech makers and presenters.  He also coaches persons who are determined to accelerate their careers and leadership skills or who are considering a career move or retirement.  John uses coaching as a tool in his leadership and business results based consulting.  He is also a life coach.

                   **John is currently accepting a few new coaching clients.**

 

As a business and life coach, I have the skills to teach people how to manage and grow from conflict.  If you would like to discuss this, I am available.  Invest in yourself.  You are worth it!

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