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Sharing the Journey

A Year of Growth and Change

 

Issue 12: March 13, 2015
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Reflections and Sharing the Journey

 

Greetings!  

Thank you for joining me and a small community of buddies on this adventure. We will explore key principles of personal growth, combined with guided reflection and journal writing to make changes that lead toward healthier, happier lives. 

Go well!  
Pam 

Nuts and Bolts

When I initially developed the idea of Sharing the Journey, I was torn between offering material that applied broadly to a variety of life challenges, and getting into more depth with specific issues.  That dilemma is still in play as we spend a few weeks drilling into resources around healthy eating and weight management. 


 

Though that aspect of well-being is a priority for many of us, some are not working on it right now. I encourage you to stay involved and to continue journaling about experiences with goals that rise to the top for you.  "Writing to Grow" will provide a weekly review outline that applies to any kind of growth process.

What Does the Body Know?

It does seem to work for some people.  Maybe their childhood habits set a firm foundation for adult portion control and healthy preferences.  Maybe they have a different metabolic rate or biochemical reward system.  Maybe the ultimate insight about eating for nourishment and not for emotional reasons clicked for them, once and for all.  Some have never thought twice about eating as an issue, others have recovered from dysfunctional patterns and have even written books to guide others on the path.

 

I confess, however, that intuitive eating has not (yet) worked for me.  I have read the books and tried the exercises, but have never been able to maintain a healthy goal weight without conscious and sustained effort. Maybe it will click for me someday, but in the meantime I am not counting on it.

 

I was, therefore delighted to discover Gillian Riley's e-book, What Is Wrong With Intuitive Eating? (It's free if you subscribe to her monthly updates.)


 

In this quick read, Riley outlines the biological and psychological reasons for our tendency to consume more than we need to maintain a desired weight. Her longer books, Ditching Diets and Eating Less go into greater detail. (See "From the Bookshelf" below.)  

 

A recurring theme for Riley is the unreliable relationship between hunger and nutritional need.  We are not precision instruments for which hunger is a sign of genuine deficit in the moment. Nor do we have a fine-tuned internal meter that tells us when enough is indeed enough. Hunger is more likely to be a response to cues, such as the sight of food; or a function of habitual patterns, such as eating at noon. We often experience "full" only when we are on the brink of overflowing, and we may be even hungrier at the end of a meal than we were before we started.

 

In addition to the imprecise and misleading thresholds of hungry and full, we are influenced by the addictive makeup of the brain.  Certain "feel-good" neurochemicals reward a wide variety of behaviors, from eating to alcohol and drug use, exercise to gambling, shopping to sex. Addictive eating is driven by the urge to release those pleasure-generating substances, not by the body's realistic assessment of deficiency. 

 

Various theories cast light on the adaptive value of addictive eating over the millennia. According to one theory, our ancestors never developed an instinct for moderate eating.  Their food supplies were uncertain, and times of scarcity could be long and severe.  People who survived, reproduced, and passed along their genetic programming binged when the eating was good, buffering themselves against lean times to come. 

 

Another theory notes that the fats, sweets, and starchy foods needed for brain function were often in short supply.  Early humans therefore overdosed on those food groups whenever they could.  Like Montana grizzly bears up to their armpits in huckleberries, moth larvae, and pine nuts; they packed it away without counting calories or limiting grams of sugar per serving

 

Yes, we are part of nature.  Our brains and behaviors as a species have developed under conditions very different from those we face today. The year-round overabundance of food, prevalence of advertising and processed foods scientifically designed to trigger the binge reflex, sedentary lifestyles resulting from increased mechanization, and increasing prevalence of overweight-associated disease are signs of recent change.  Understanding, insight, and sustained effort can enable us to develop skills for navigating our complex environment. "Intuition" is not, for many of us, enough.

Writing to Grow

How is journal-writing working for you?  One tip I have used when hard-pressed for words is to journal as if I were writing to a friend.  Telling my story and sharing insights with a trusted and caring soulmate can be easier then writing to "the universe" or writing for myself.  It can be wonderful, with the right partner, to actually send the message and engage in dialogue on the subject of our concern. Writing that is directed to another person can, however, work for us if the message is never shared.


 
Weekly Review


 

What were some highlights of your week? 

  • I laughed out loud when...
  • I was inspired by...
  • I loved it when...
  • I feel deeply happy when I think about...
  • Etc?

What went well with your personal growth journey

  • What steps did you take in the direction you want to go?
  • What did you learn from successes, challenges, and setbacks? 

Touching base

  • How has your vision of success evolved since we began?  If it has changed, describe your long-term desired outcome in terms that work for you now.
  • What makes this change personally important?  How does it connect with your deepest values?
  • Are you more confident after working with a personal growth plan for a couple of months?  What strengths do you bring to the process of change?
  • What, again, were your top strengths on the VIA Survey?

Next steps

  • What 2-3 small actions will you take in the coming week?
  • How will you use lessons you learned to improve the outcome next time?
  • When, where, how will you review progress?
  • How will you celebrate and reinforce successes, however small?

From the Bookshelf

This week we are digging into the concept of intuitive eating, with focus on writings by English food writer Gillian Riley.  Her website is full of useful information about eating, with an emphasis on dealing with addictive urges.  (She has also developed resources for smoking cessation.)   Riley, Gillian. Ditching Diets and Eating Less

 

In addition to resources for healthier eating, I want to share an interview with sociologist Christine Whelan that appeared in The Washington Post online this week. It is a remarkably clear and concise treatment of how to develop better habits. Take a look. I suspect you will find something you can use right away.

Going Deeper

Check out my book on Wellbuddies website.
    Signed copies only $10, delivered in or around Missoula, MT.
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    Also available in paperback or Kindle formats on Amazon.com
 
 

Pam Gardiner
Wellbuddies Coaching
wellbuddies@gmail.com  
406-274-0188