Listening and Problem Solving Together
Here is a great success story demonstrating the benefits of parent coaching.
During the first week of Kindergarten, my daughter was coming home from school in a cranky and demanding mood. She was acting very wild and loud. Before receiving coaching from Cynthia, I would have gotten frustrated and angry with my daughter which would have made her more upset. I learned how listening to her emotions rather than shutting them down, gave her the needed release. Offering her my nonjudgmental support also created a feeling of connection between us.
I could tell that she was probably overloaded from the demands of Kindergarten. One afternoon when she was becoming particularly trying, I asked, "Is school a little frustrating?" She blurted out, "Yes!!! When I talk, the teacher says, 'Raise your hand!' When I raise my hand she doesn't call on me!" "That must be really frustrating!" I said. She breathed a huge sigh of relief when I recognized and empathized with her stress.
We were then able to problem solve together. We wrote down all of the names of the children in her class who needed to take turns talking! I told her that the teacher would probably love to hear what she had to say all the time, but that all the rest of the children on the list needed to have a turn too! She seemed really relieved to have been able to talk about her stress, and she seemed to understand a little more that everyone had to take turns in a classroom with 21 students and 1 teacher. She was so much calmer and more cheerful after we talked! Today she came out of school just beaming because she had gotten a prize for not losing any "stars" for talking without raising her hand!
Thanks, Cynthia, for your coaching on recognizing stress in my children and in helping me find ways to help them release that stress!
San Jose Mom of a 4 and 6 year-old
Each parent has different concerns which means that each parent needs different solutions. When I work individually, either in person or by phone, I first carefully listen to your concerns. I find out what has worked in the past and what is not working now. I make suggestions and you decide what to try.
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Upcoming Classes for
Fall 2010
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Free Introductory Classes What is "Relationship Parenting" and How Can My Family Benefit?
Explore a style of parenting that is based on building connection, influence and cooperation. Connection is the key rather than control.
Tuesday, Dec. 7, 11 am - 1pm
See side panel for testimonial from August class.
Upcoming Classes for Winter 2010
Complete list posted in December
The Special Mother- Daughter Relationship For moms of girls 10 - 15
Explore this unique and challenging relationship. Learn how to create closeness and separateness at the same time.
Date(s): 3 Thursdays, January 20, 27, February 3 in San Mateo
Also presented as a 1 night event at The Children's Health Council in Palo Alto on Date: Tuesday, February 15. Discipline and the Strong-Willed ChildFor parents with children ages 5-10 years oldDo you have a difficult time getting you strong-willed child to cooperate? Rather than ending up in power struggles, break this cycle and build cooperation. Learn how to bring out the best in yourself and your children.Date(s): In Spring at Kaiser Permanente
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