John S. Gordon - Business and Personal Coach

"You have the greatness and the power.  I just help you turn on the switch."

MARVELOUS MONDAYS

 

April 30, 2012 - Issue 171  

 

The 5th Regret-Suppressed Happiness

 

This is the fourth in a series on Regrets. Click here for issues 168, 169, & 170.

 

  
Dear ,

 

Welcome to Issue 171.  If you did not receive a previous issue, you may use the archive link below to view it now.  The mission of "Marvelous Mondays" is to offer an inspirational thought, a practical exercise, some humor, or a simple tip to jump-start your week and to enhance your life, business, outlook or relationships. 

 

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SUPPRESSED HAPPINESS

We have been discussing Bronnie Ware's book entitled, "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing." The fifth most common regret stated by her patients is "not letting myself be happier."  Here's what the patients said.

 

1.   Faked It. They pretended to themselves and others to be content and tolerated situations in their life.

 

2.   Fear of Change. That's why they faked it. They stayed with old patterns and habits, fearing to move out of their comfort zones.

 

3.   Impact. This caused a huge impact on their emotional and physical health.

 

4.   Laugh & be Silly. The patients all said they had stifled their silliness and playfulness and should've laughed more.

 

HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE

Not until the end did the patients realize that happiness was a choice which they chose to suppress.

 

EXERCISE

This week I invite you to reflect on the following:

 

1.   Have you been tolerating or pretending to be content and happy? Look at your relationships, your career, your boss, your staff, your company, your physical environment, your finances, your spending habits or the spending habits of others.

 

2.   Why have you been "content" to be stuck in this comfort zone?

 

3.   What do you fear about change?

 

4.   What conversation or confrontation do you fear?

 

5.   Do you really believe you are entitled to be happy and playful?

 

I regularly assist people by helping them see they have choices for (1) moving out of comfort zones, (2) facing their fear of change, and (3) claiming the happiness they deserve. Just email or call me and we can get started. It is your happiness. You are worth the investment in yourself!

 

I really look forward to hearing from you, and I will listen to you!

 

 

Happy Sad Eggs  

  

"How bitter a thing it is to look into happiness through another man's eyes."

-Shakespeare, As You Like It

JOHN'S BIO
John has owned several businesses and is an attorney who has practiced in the business and estate  areas.  In addition, he coaches business owners, executives, entrepreneurs, professionals, speech makers and presenters.  He also coaches persons who are determined to accelerate their careers and leadership skills or who are considering a career move or retirement.  John uses coaching as a tool in his leadership and business results based consulting.  He is also a life coach.

                   **John is currently accepting a few new coaching clients.**

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