| The arrival of June can mean a number of things, and for many people, it means graduation. Next week, my husband and I will be attending two promotional ceremonies for our kids: one from elementary to middle school, and one from middle to high school. While they are not the "big" one, they are a milestone of sorts (we are soon to have three teenagers -- yikes) and they are getting us ready for the high school graduation we will face next year. It seems like just the other day ...
Here is some information to help answer questions you may have in regards to this momentous occasion -- no matter the age.
1. There is a difference between an invitation and an announcement:
- Invitations are typically limited in number and there are usually just enough to include the immediate family. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends ... don't be offended. While the graduate would probably love to include you, it is not always possible due to the size of the venue.
- The announcement is a way for the graduate (and/or parents) to share the happy news of accomplishment. Announcements are typically mailed out after the graduation ceremony.
2. If you receive an announcement, you are not obligated to send a gift unless you would like to do so. A card or note of congratulations would be appropriate and probably very much appreciated.
3. A graduation party can be a wonderful way to celebrate the occasion with family members and friends. While it is natural that there will be some divvying up of guests -- by age, relation, and interests, it is important for the guest of honor (and the host) to make the effort to connect with everyone present for a few minutes -- say hello, thank the person for attending, etc.
4. There should be no mention of gifts included with invitations of any kind -- it's tacky! If there are questions as to likes, interests or needs, guests may inquire when they RSVP.
5. So what are appropriate gifts? Cash is almost always welcome as it may be put towards a variety of uses. Gift cards are also a good option. For a soon to be professional, how about a nice pen or business card holder? Whatever fits your budget is what is appropriate.
6. Email and/or text thank yous just won't do it here; the graduate should send handwritten thank you notes for every gift received. Not only is it good practice for their upcoming foray into the work world and
job interviews, but it is also good manners.
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