One of the things that makes many people uncomfortable when it comes to networking or meeting new people in social settings is not knowing how much conversation is enough, versus too much. A good guideline is five to fifteen minutes of general conversation. Much depends on the rapport you develop with the other person; are you comfortable and is the conversation flowing fairly easily? Or is it one of those "Oh, no, this is bad..." feelings right from the start? Pay attention to both the verbal responses and non-verbal actions of the other person. Is he answering you in one-word replies? Is she looking at you, or gazing around the room? Which direction are the shoulders and feet pointed? Is the other person fidgeting, as if he wants to be moving? Are her (or your) eyes glazing over? If conversation is moving along nicely, let it go and enjoy yourself; you are making a good contact. However, if things are not going well, it is okay to move along. Close the conversation courteously and in a friendly manner; just because you didn't make a personal connection doesn't mean you want to ruin the good impression you have (hopefully) made as you walk away. |
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Remember...
When it comes to the length of a conversation, go with your instincts... how do YOU feel? Is it something you are enjoying and/or learning from? Do you feel the other participant is, well, participating? There is no "time limit" on the length of conversations you may have in business or social settings. You are there to meet others, get acquainted and make connections. Some of them may take longer than others. |
