When asked what tip I would share about the upcoming holidays, the first thought that came to my mind is "Less Is More". We all tend to take on too much during the holiday season and then drive ourselves crazy with the stress of trying to accomplish everything. But is it necessary? 

1. The office/work holiday party:  Here is an opportunity to get together with colleagues, not "talk shop", show everyone you are a member of the team, have a conversation with the higher-ups, and then make a graceful exit. Do you have to stay from start to finish? No -- an hour, perhaps two, is all that is needed. Then go home and relax. 

2. A family gathering: To help cope with those moments when Great-Aunt Mabel asks you (once again) if you have gained weight over the past year, or Obnoxious Cousin Carl once again lights the fire under the "discussion" of politics and ridicules your opinions, be prepared. Have some responses ready to go that will allow you to respond to the question/argument/circumstances but not start an uproar. For example: "You've gained weight!" ... "Yes, I did, and it tasted great!" Deliver your line with a smile, maybe a wink, and then make your exit.  

Rather than being pulled into a "discussion" that you know will go no where but downhill fast, step away; engage someone else in conversation, or help out with a task. If there is no escape, don't participate -- turn the tables and ask Cousin Carl about his thoughts. Finally, if necessary, arrive late and leave early!

3. For a host, remember that your guests are coming to see and spend time with you. Perfection is not required. So the windows are not sparkling; who cares? It's raining. You don't need THAT many options when it comes to food and drink; limit yourself to a few favorite items, offer a signature beverage and soft drinks, and enjoy yourself.   

4. As a guest, be a best guest. Be satisfied with what comes your way, don't request special accommodations because you don't care for something, help where you can, stay out when asked, and always RSVP and send a thank you note. You want to be invited back next year, don't you? 

5. Children. Our kids are growing up in a very self-focused society. Take time out to do something on behalf of those in need, with your children in tow. Let them see that there is more to life than material possessions. Spending time together and with others can be much more valuable than a tangible item.