As children we used our imagination without any judgement but as we grow up we are quickly conditioned to be "realistic". Stop day dreaming we are told. This means we cease using or limit the most powerful and creative faculty of the mind. Every invention ever created was first created in the imagination. Successful people succeeded by using their imagination. They imagined it first. It just didn't happen.
It began in primary school with sports and games in the playground then continued into High School; always finding it hard to match the performance of others. I'm sure that's where it began. It seemed like I was always the last to be picked for the soccer or cricket team and I felt like the only reason I was chosen was that the captain had no other options left. I always avoided competitive situations, even justifying it as a noble part of my character. 'Oh I'm not competitive' I'd say, as I slinked off the playing ground or removed from the environment or person.
We all have a belief system. For most people though, it operates at a subconscious level and not always part of their daily consciousness. When people are not consciously aware of their belief system they tend to be reactive rather than proactive. Decision making is difficult and they drift through life as a passenger rather than the driver.
A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.
There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.
The wake-up call...another familiar expression. 'That was my wake up call' someone says after the partner walks out, they are retrenched, the business collapses, have an accident or diagnosed with a life threatening illness.