15 THING I'VE LEARNT NO.11 

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Continuing the series from my previous newsletter here is the next instalment of 15 things I've learnt about human beings and success in 3,500 hours. No. 11 is " Everyone needs to define success for themselves". You can read the previous 10 things I've learnt in the archives.

Q: What does success really mean for you?
Q: Are you successful right now?
Q: When will you know if you have arrived at success? 

Most people see 'things' as the evidence of success. When people are asked what they want to achieve, what are their goals and dreams, typically, they come up with generic things such as:

• A penthouse apartment by the harbour
• A mansion with a pool
• A holiday apartment on the Gold Coast
• A BMW, Mercedes Benz or some European sports car
• To win lotto is a common one
• Marry a wealthy man
• To have a six pack
• To travel for 6 months of the year
  

What created a list like that?
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with the things above but too often people have only a conditioned perception of success.  In other words it is not of their own choosing. It has been given to them by socialisation, the corporate world, family and the conditioning of marketing and advertising.  When asking people to define success and what goals they want to achieve, people will usually go for the things they have been told will make them happy.  They have never really defined success for themselves. This is why people often don't achieve goals because subconsciously, deep down inside they know it's not what they really want.

'There's nothing like a strong sense of purpose based on clearly spelled out values to keep you moving. But more than that, it keeps you moving in the right direction. Without it, you can climb the ladder of success all right, but when you get to the top, you may find that it's leaning against the wrong building'.   Lou Tice

There are numerous definitions of success.

Dictionary: The achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted.

Personal Success Australia defines it as: Success is the progressive realisation of your predetermined and worthwhile personal goals.

Get clear about what success means for you.
Write out a paragraph of each of these sections of your life to get a clearer picture. Ask yourself what success look like in each area.

1. Career and/or business
2. Social life - friends, friendships, social activities
3. Knowledge - intellectual stimulation and can include formal, informal and experiential learning, reading
4. Finances - budgeting, financial management, debt, superannuation, wealth creation
5. Health- eating habits, substance consumption, exercise, weight, fitness level
6. Family relationships
7. Relationship - husband, wife, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend
8. Sense of Self - self-worth. self-awareness, self-empowerment, self-mastery, integrity, authenticity
9. Spirituality - as you define it. Formal, informal, religious, non-religious, your own sense of spirituality
10. Giving - Formal, informal, volunteering, generosity
    

When you have a clear understanding or what you really want and not what others have told you what you want, life is much more enjoyable.

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