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IF YOU DON' REWARD YOURSELF YOU'LL BURNOUT

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15 THING I'VE LEARNT NO.

IF YOU DON' REWARD YOURSELF YOU'LL BURNOUT

Greetings!

Following on from my previous newsletter here is the next instalment of 15 things I've learnt about human beings and success in 3,500 hours.

NO. 6 If you don' reward yourself you'll burnout

Goal setters and high achievers expel lots of energy. Some are naturally highly motivated while others have learnt how to awaken or turn up the intensity of motivation in their lives. When working with clients to create S.M.A.R.T. (specific, measureable, attractive, realistic, and time-framed) goals we always make sure there is a reward at the end.

Mostly people think that just the achievement of the goal is the reward but this is not necessarily the case. One can quickly move on to the next goal or be surrounded by lots of activity which means the satisfaction of achievement doesn't recharge the batteries as it should. After all that work and energy you feel depleted instead of encouraged. One person works hard at a goal and achieves it. Additional motivation kicks in to go for more. Another person though, sees the same goal as just another task completed. Both achieved the same goal but ended up with different outcomes. WHY?

Why a Reward?
Motivation in essence is about emotional energy. That emotional energy is then transferred into activity. So while you are achieving your goals you are using both physical and emotional energy. To continue on the path of achievement you must make sure that both energies are replenished. Sometimes people go on a holiday or weekend away that has rested them physically but when they return they put their foot to the floor and find they are quickly running out of gas. What happened? Only one fuel tank was filled, the physical.

What Rewards?
The self-aware person knows what re-charges their emotional batteries. Some suggestions of rewards can be:

  • A special purchase of something you've been wanting to buy yourself
  • A weekend away
  • A night out
  • A meal at your favourite restaurant
  • A day off
  • An afternoon walking around an art gallery or picnic in the park

Make the reward compatible with the goal. If you've saved money then don't reward yourself by spending it. There are ways to reward yourself that don't cost money.

The Key to Rewarding Yourself
The essential key in all this is to be very present to get maximum benefit from the reward. Tell your friends you are rewarding yourself. Whilst doing the activity or making the purchase remind yourself of why you are doing this. Pause a moment and reflect on the achievement. Congratulate yourself. If you are not feeling elated you are not getting the maximum benefit from the reward.

Just in case you are not aware of the symptoms of burnout here they are. If you are experiencing any of these you could ask yourself the question. When was the last time I rewarded myself?

Symptoms of Burnout

  • Cynicism
  • Resentment
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Reduced productivity
  • Depression
  • Anger
  • Depletion of energy
  • Loss of motivation
  • Sense of hopelessness

Any questions? Just email me. anthony.venn-brown@psalifecoaching.com

Recent Testimonials

After a friend forwarded Anthony's newsletter to me, I considered life coaching with him for nearly a year. No knowing exactly what outcomes I'd get, I was concerned about the cost of coaching and called and asked him if he could recommend someone that he had taught that I could afford. He generously did so and I made further enquiries but my procrastination set in and put it off coaching once again!

I was very unhappy in my job and also wanted to learn how to stop the procrastinating that was affecting all areas of my life. Finally I decided that I wanted the best for myself so I would go to the best!

This was a fantastic decision as meeting Anthony and doing the 'Dare to be your Best' program was a real turning point for me. I clarified my values and beliefs and then was able to identify what wasn't serving me in other areas in my life and not just in my job. I learnt how to break my bad habits, especially procrastination, how to set goals and really stick to them and how to focus on what I wanted for myself. Things have shifted and it's been a real case of out with the out of date and in with the new!

Anthony's gift is that he makes you to feel completely comfortable during the process, he wisely gives you a nudge if you need one and most importantly he makes it fun! He also introduced me to The Secret before it really hit the news stands which has become part of my daily life. It still amazes me how it works and how my thinking patterns affect my life.

Finally, I read Anthony's autobiography which was incredibly inspiring. I was so tired at work that week as I couldn't put it down at night! It's a real page turner and it inspired me to just be the person I am and want to be and no longer put it off.

Having now experienced the benefits of coaching for myself, I would recommend anyone who wants the best for themselves to use Anthony as your coach. It's an investment worth every cent and more! Sam Partington                                                     

Anthony Venn-Brown along with the Dare to Be Your Best coaching format have taken me from a comfortable state of misery with my job, an unfulfilled family life and turned me inside out. There was no doubt after the initial complimentary session that I was at a point in my life where I was either going to accept my situation and live my life for others, or I was going to accept the idea of coaching and embrace a future that I can be proud of. 

With coaching, you have the freedom to say things that may have never been said, ask life questions that you have never asked, express your true self and face no judgement. I was able to say things to Anthony that I had never told anyone about my inner self. We talked about my sexual orientation and feelings that I have struggled with my whole life, the fact that I am married with children and now question everything about that. We looked into every part of what is me and discussed how I perceive myself. Coaching gave me a new awareness of true self for the first time in my life. It also showed me the differences between me and others and what that means for me in business and family relationships. I am now able to measure myself but more importantly for me, I can also measure the people around me and choose relationships that are a positive impact on me.

Every hour of everyday I can use what the coaching process has taught me to make my world a better place. I will never be able to thank Anthony enough for the future that I am now able to create. I am now the proud owner of a life that matters and I am going to make a difference. When was the last time you inspected your entire operating system? For me it was never. In the 12 week process you will find what makes you, well, you. Everyone should take 12 weeks of their life for self examination, especially before you take major steps in life. Career, family, relationships, marriage, they all deserve your best, Dare to Be Your Best

(client name withheld USA)

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When Would You Benefit from Professional Coaching?
When you're:
  • wanting a change in your career
  • navigating changes in your life
  • starting up a new business
  • wanting to change the habit of procrastination
  • tolerating too much and recognise it's time for change
  • stuck and wanting to move forward
When you need:
  • to discover personal empowerment
  • strategic planning in your finances, social life, health, career
  • greater understanding of your journey or self discovery
  • to increase performance in your job or business
  • clarity and accountability around goal setting
  • to bring your life into balance
  • to understand your life purpose, mission and vision
  • assistance with time management and decision making
  • to identify and change the self-limiting beliefs that hold you back
  • to increase your salary or reduce the stress of finances
  • to clarify your values and beliefs and find out what will truly fulfil you

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A Life of Unlearning - A Journey to Find the Truth is Australia's Brokeback Mountain and Ted Haggard stories rolled into one. It's a behind the scenes look into the life of a high profile preacher who, believing being gay made him unacceptable to God and others, struggles to resolve his homosexuality and his Christian beliefs. Ultimately, this honest account is as story of resolution, the impact the author's courage has on others and what it means to live authentically.
 

"Human stories, like the one in these pages, play a part in advancing understanding and acceptance. It is the story of a quest to find not only self-acceptance but one of the most powerful forces in nature-human love.."

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Anthony Venn-Brown
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Personal Success Australia
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