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 POETIC MEDICINE JOURNAL  

Summer, 2012

 

The Presence of What Finally Matters:

An Exploration of Hospice, End-of-life  

& Those Experiences That Burnish the Human Heart 

Letter


August 20, 2012

 

Dear Friend of Poetic Medicine,

 

Something that Opens the Heart

 

"There can be a transmission between two beings that is so deep that words, any words, would disturb that open-heartedness. This subtle transmission of the heart can be experienced when we are with someone we care for very much. I have experienced this with my children and loved ones, as well as the dying patients I've been working with."

 

~ Stephen Levine (A Gradual AwakeningClick Here)  

   (from "Spirit in the World")

 

I met Stephen and Ondrea Levine in 1981 at a Conscious Living, Conscious Dying workshop in Nevada City, California.  His book A Gradual Awakening, published in 1979, had made a deep impression on me. The practice of meditation and living this life from a compassionate perspective was presented in such a simple and exquisite way.  Exquisite in that there was a felt sense of a human heart in the book's pages.

 

If a writer is going to use a word like mercy and the phrase the heart we share, it's not asking too much to want to feel what those words actually mean deep under the surface - and Stephen's book did that. I think that's why I am drawn to poetry, because it gets beyond the thin ash-grey agribusiness of our minds and our consumer-soaked world.

 

Poetry communicates that felt sense of rich earth and spirit living deep under the surface of things.

 

We appreciated one another as poets. In fact, this afternoon while writing this letter, I opened my weathered copy of A Gradual Awakening...and inscribed are the words: "For John - your poetry opens my heart. Let it Shine, Stephen"

 

Ah!  Something that opens the heart!  A heart so easily closed shut while traveling life's rough journey.  This is something worth living for. That is exactly what I felt.  My feeling about the open heart didn't begin there but it certainly was affirmed by watching Stephen and Ondrea work with grieving people. The same people who might also be opening to a humor that Stephen so skillfully shares.

 

*To Visit Stephen & Ondrea Levine's Website:  CLICK HERE
*To Read a Review of Stephen's Most Recent Book,

Breaking The Drought
:   CLICK HERE

 

Wouldn't People Want to Know?

 

Wouldn't people want to know about something like that? That's what I thought.  How great to have this tool, this modality, this magic, this pathway that can open the heart.  I would say it was that year, 1981, when I set my life most firmly upon the path of poetry as healer. What was more important than opening the heart especially (but not only) in the face of loss?  

                       

John, 1982 

Over the next few years Stephen invited me a few times to read poems out loud at some of his longer Conscious Living, Conscious Dying retreats. It was an orthopedic surgeon, Ken Zubrick, attending one of those retreats, who introduced me to Joy Shieman, who became my mentor in the field of poetry therapy in late 1984.

  

One Bright Morning

 

My meeting and connection with Stephen and Ondrea were seeds blown on the winds of other seasons in my life.

 

One bright morning in late July of 1979, I left Cleveland for Sacramento, California by Amtrack train. I was twenty-three. I was traveling to northern California to study yoga and meditation in a three-month training course.

 

I've lived in northern California ever since.  

 

I want to tell you about that morning I left Cleveland but have to begin my story a little earlier.

 

Three years before, in 1976, while attending Bard College, I met the psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.  It was during these years that she also was a friend and mentor to Stephen Levine, who, as you already know, I would meet five years later.

 

It was 1968 when Elisabeth opened up a revolutionary discussion in America about death and dying.  She presented to America, and in particular to American medicine, our deep denial of death and in a way that had never happened before.  A woman who was dying spoke to medical students about her mortality.  LIFE magazine featured Elisabeth and that woman in the November 21, 1969 issue.

 

I met Elisabeth two years after the amputation of my right leg. I was dealing with physical pain and smoldering feelings I could barely get to the surface as I pretended to be studying in college. Sitting on the grass in front of the Kline Commons, Elisabeth, after hearing a brief sharing about my loss, invited me to attend a five-day workshop she was leading that summer in Halifax, Nova Scotia. I was twenty-one.

 

A Sacred Permission to be Human

 

This retreat showed me powerful expressions of raw human feeling I had no idea existed!  Elisabeth, even with her bird-like stature, projected a dynamic aura that wordlessly gave us a sacred permission to be human.

 

Parents grieving the death of their child screamed out in the midst of 40 other people who sat in witness. A Sister of Charity, Sr. Marion Clare, in her late 70's (and she wore a full habit!) pounded her rage into a mattress with a red rubber hose.  What I witnessed was the full catastrophe of life.  When my turn came, Elisabeth was fierce.  She made me sit next to her on the couch, take off my pants and prosthesis in front of everyone -- and then she invited every single person in the group to come forward to touch my bared stump.

 

It was awful, brilliant and liberating all at once. That experience is folded into my marrow-bone. Poetry had its place on that journey to Halifax. I took with me a volume of poems by Rainer Maria Rilke. The hardcover book was light blue with gold embossed lettering. Rilke, poet of the great human grief cry, the Angel and "to praise is the whole thing."

 

At the end of that retreat I danced, wearing shorts someone had given me, with a woman named Kris. This was not the end of my journey of acceptance but it was a significant step.

 

(See more about the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation in the Resource Section near the end of this journal). 

 

Back to my story of departing Cleveland...

 

An Appreciation for Her Is What She Welcomed

 

Following graduation from Bard College in 1977, I worked at The Cleveland Clinic hospital as a phlebotomist. During the Spring and Summer of '79, I met a young woman, Janet, who was seriously ill with cancer and was in treatment. Janet was a little younger than I. She and I made a good connection. There was something spiritual in why we had met. I was invited to go out to dinner by Janet with her and some of her friends. I went to her home and met her parents. I remember it was a loud Mexican restaurant on the west side of Cleveland - and we had a great time.  

 

What was it that caused her to invite me? Thinking back all that way, 33 years ago, I'm not sure.  Perhaps it was because I wasn't frightened by her illness?  I found her a lovely human being and the depth of her Christian faith very moving.  She may have felt safe with a lessening of fear around her and an appreciation for her was what she welcomed.

 

I can't help but wonder if my handful of days with Kubler-Ross taught me something about human experience that I gained a great respect for - even if I had many, many years of fully growing into that ahead of me.

 

As I prepared to leave for California that late July of '79, I knew Janet's cancer had returned with a vengeance.  She was back in the hospital. On my way to the train station, I stopped that bright morning to visit her. I remember the brightness. I carried with me a gift for Janet.  It was a book entitled I, Monty by Marcus Bach.

 

I, Monty is a simple but transcendent illustrated story of that symbol of all symbols of transformation, the butterfly. Sitting by her bedside, together we read that children's book. There was no question how this story related to her situation of being near to death.  


Witnessing, Connection and Friendship

 

Turning the pages together and reading those words was an act of witnessing, connection and friendship. The theme of resurrection that permeated the story resonated with Janet.

 

We said a very kind goodbye and I left to catch the train. I traveled that three or four day train trip to Sacramento and went on to the yoga training course further north. About two weeks later, I received a note from Janet's parents that she had died.  

 

At that time, I thought of Janet and of her faith and what I felt I could learn from how she had departed this life. I wrote a poem for her called Jesus Christ, Always Still Shining The poem is large in scope and it honors Janet's life and the meaning of it in a large way.  It came from my listening to her words and from what I heard deep inside myself.

 

You can read that poem and others (in PDF format) on themes of loss and letting go, death and transformation, towards the conclusion of this Poetic Medicine Journal.  Notes appear at the end of the collection to give you an idea of the genesis of these poems and how I've used them. 

 

I Have Lu Melander to Thank

 

I share with adults I wouldn't be able to work with them with such positive results to evoke creativity were it not for the work that I did intensively in the early 90's with children. It is what I learned from children and their poetry - the gifts they give me -- that informs my faith that a creative and healing spark is present within each person no matter what their age is.

 

I have Lu Melander to thank for that!

 

When I got involved with the California Poets in the Schools program in 1991, Lu became my mentor.  During a series of training residencies, I learned from Lu a range of ways to meet children with poetry.  I saw how it nurtured them and acted as a catalyst for their creativity, their voices and their words.

 

The Shortest Distance Between Two Human Beings

 

I want to emphasize to you who Lu was as a person.  I want to stop and pause with just that in writing this letter. I will always feel thanks to her.


Especially these days when success and influence is flaunted as being represented by monetary wealth, Lu was a truly important person who embodied what I believe to be great and successful in a human being. Even though Lu lived on very little money, she was fulfilled!  She carried in her heart a deep respect for children and a fierce love for the natural world. On a daily basis, she lived with a steady commitment to justice and simple living. Lu believed, as Lawrence Ferlenghetti says, "That
poetry is the shortest distance between two human beings."

Making Room for the Unknown

 

I knew Lu for a relatively short time and that was 21 years ago. Not a year after we met, Lu received a cancer diagnosis that was fierce and relentless. Even when having to go through all kinds of crap with poor treatment options without health insurance, she put up a good fight.

 

At some point, however, she chose to surrender to what was happening. Lu turned towards making room for the unknown, for a natural unfolding in her body and heart. She stopped pursuing medical treatment.  I don't know why but our relationship became connected in a stronger way at this point.  She asked me if I would read guided meditations by Stephen Levin on pain, grief, loving-kindness and letting go from his book Who Dies.

 

Sitting with her in her living room, I did this for a few months.   Lu would rest on her couch and absorb these meditations.

 

Read That Poem Again! 

 

I was here
in this spot
when that leaf fell
I was here.

~ Lu Melander
(the poem at the end of her unpublished manuscript)

 

One evening at Lytton Gardens, a hospice where she was able to receive care, I read her poems by Rumi.  By this time she was no longer speaking much at all.  She didn't say a word to me. Her cheeks were deeply in drawn, her eyes closed, her face already a frail death mask - and ready to be taken off.

 

The moment I read the last line of a particular poem, I felt a clear and absolutely tangible feeling in myself, in the room, in Lu and in the poem. It was as if with that last line a round stone had dropped into a very still lake.  Yet when the stone hit the water, nothing happened. Except it disappeared. There was not a splash, ripple, not a single wave.  The poem went in and all the way through.

 

Lu Melander

Lu, who had not moved, or spoken, as far as I knew for a long time, lifted her slight shoulders up, turned her riven face toward me and said with a fierce command,"Read that poem again."  

 

I did.

 

I never heard Lu speak again.  I remember a dear friend of hers appeared in the room, Joyce Savre.  Joyce leaned over Lu on the other side of the bed and we held together a few moments of sacred quiet. I felt my time was complete and I bid Joyce and Lu goodbye.  Lu died the next day surrounded by friends.

 

I don't know this but I feel, given how it connected deep inside her, the Rumi poem opened a clear and clean space for Lu, so near to dying to the body, to dive into that whole moment.  It was a blessing to be witness to that. 

* * *

Those Experiences that Burnish Our Hearts 

 

I recall it was in the mid to late 70s I attended a powerful lecture about the fledgling hospice movement given by Dr. Richard Lamerton.  Dr. Lamerton was a close colleague of Dame Cicely Saunders, who is considered the pioneer of the first hospice, founding St. Christopher's Hospice in 1967. His book, Care of the Dying was a very early voice for hospice. 

 

Lamerton's lecture had a lasting impact on me - not so much the words, but a kindness and compassion that I felt from him as a physician.  Since that time I have had the opportunity to become close friends with other people bringing their kindness to medicine. 

 

Meetings with Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Ram Dass, Stephen and Ondrea Levine, and Dale Borglum have provided further light on this pathway, threads in the fabric of this experience at the end of life.

 

There is a "fierce grace" that speaks to us - at times, it seems, a lot more fierceness than grace - and then at other times, that grace shows us a face of gentleness and beauty that is almost as unbearable as the pain.

 

I hope that this Poetic Medicine Journal provides you with meaning, inspiration, practical help and generative ideas for how poetry could be useful in your own life, in your relationships, in your work, especially with regards to this essential experience that we all share in the midst of our living and dying.

 

Whether or not you are involed in hospice or palliative care, know someone who is dying, or who are - yourself - looking at mortality and mystery, I believe these stories will help us to be human, to listen deeper to someone else.  This rich issue will give you an in-depth and varied exploration of those experiences that burnish our hearts. 

 

Kind Regards,

 

John Fox, CPT

 

 
 

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Table of Contents  

 

Summer Poetic Medicine Journal

 

The Presence of What Finally Matters:

An Exploration of Hospice, End-of-Life  

and Those Experiences That Burnish the Human Heart 

 

(Click On Any Heading Below to Go Directly to that Section)

A Letter To Friends of IPM 

John Fox, CPT

 

Bringing Poem-Making to Hospice at California Men's Colony Prison 

John Fox

 

Supportive Care Services in Prison

Lorie Adoff, Director of Spiritual Care

 

A Letter to Hospice Volunteers at CMC Prison

John Fox

 

Poetry and Hospice in San Luis Obispo California

Sonnie Brown, Volunteer Director

 

Poetry from Hospice Volunteer and Retired Psychologist

Jeanie Greensfelder

 

Centre for Living with Dying in Santa Clara, CA

Janet Childs, Director of Education, Centre for Living with Dying

 

The Work and Poetry of Marilyn Krysl at the Kalighat Home for the Destitute and Dying in Calcutta India

John Fox

 

John Fox's Upcoming Schedule for Summer and Fall:  Sacramento, Cleveland, Portland, Atlanta, Berkeley, Abu Dhabi UAE

 

Book Reviews

A Note from Rachel McKay

 

Tell Your Story Walking: One Mother's Legacy

By Iris Llewellyn Angle; Review by Carol Katz

 

Through Corridors of Light: Poems of Consolation in Time of Illness 

Edited by John Denny; Review and Interview by Rachel McKay

 

by Janelle Shantz Hertzler; Review by Melissa Layer

 

 


Creative Employment Opportunity with The Institute for Poetic Medicine

 

Your Support Matters:  Ways You Can Help The Institute and Poetry as Healer

 

The Last Word - Featuring Peter Mayer - Minnesota Folk Singer & Songwriter

 

The VERY Last Word! 

                                      

 

California Men's Colony Prison 
San Luis Obispo, CA 
Reports from John Fox & Lorie Adoff 
CMC

My Visit with California Men's Colony Prison  

Hospice Volunteers

by John Fox 

 


The heart is the treasury

in which God's mysteries are stored;

Seek the purpose of both worlds

through the heart,

for that is the point of it.

 

~ Lahiji

 

In June of 2011 and 2012 I had the good fortune to work with men incarcerated at California Men's Colony Prison in San Luis Obispo, CA. Invited by Lorie Adoff, Director of Spiritual Care, I spent four days with fifty men at CMC, working with them with poetry and making poems.

 

These men, even though they are in prison, have a strong focus and meaningful purpose in their lives. The focus is to be present for and to seek the purpose of both worlds.  They do this on a daily basis with fellow inmates in collaborating teams of seven.

 

Let me explain. Spiritual Care Services at California Men's Colony prison was founded by Dr. Denise Taylor and Sandy Shelton, LCSW.  Lorie was on the committee that planned and implemented the program.  She then became the director of the hospice care training.  Lorie was teaching these men - nearly all of whom are in prison for life because of a conviction for murder - to be hospice volunteers. 

 

These men sit with and are companions to fellow inmates who are ill and dying.  In other instances, these men are companions with inmates who suffer from dementia and Alzheimer's. (Please see The New York Times article & video that presents this happening in the prison: CLICK HERE).

 

As anyone working in hospice learns, such intimate work puts a person in touch with profound edges - and at times, edgelessness. There is raw vulnerability, finding a willingness to allow the heart to break, to find how it may even break open, how it learns to be with what cannot be changed, open to a humility of "not knowing" - and then, with those allies of humility and openness, a surrendering into presence.

 

I found, with all of these men (many of whom are in prison for life, and only a few with the possibility of parole) an openness of heart and a gut level sensibility for all of this.

 

My work with them was to support a process of sharing, a level of disclosure that often is not reached in their more professional debriefing as teams of seven serving those in the care of hospice.

 

In this regard, as in many other ways, this need for a deeper disclosure, was no different than what I experience among hospice workers and volunteers in the public sector.  

 

I chose poems to serve as prompts and examples, poems that held and expressed a range of energies: grief and loss; a desire for connection - especially when there is intense pain; a fear of letting go; the grace and grit of staying with; the mercy of acceptance; and the longing for the far shore.

  

Far from being a difficult group of people to introduce to poetry, I felt instant receptivity.  I experienced from these men a welcome for what I offered. They responded beyond defensiveness, evaluation, guardedness, judgment and critique. They sat present, with a willingness to go right to the bone. "Let's get to it!" they said.

  

Here is a poem by Harold that gets to it:

 

Listen

If I breakdown and fall to my knees,

         the pain comes from somewhere really deep.

If I shudder and quake,

         If I have looked at my fear, my terror in the face,

If I sob and wail,

         I've come to grips with my loss, if only briefly,

                  and had to release something cherished.

 

I will not hide this from you;

         I will not wall it off:

I will let you see the deepest part of me.

 

Harold started into his poem by using some lines I offered to him from a poem called "If I Sing" * by Martin Jude Farawell, suggesting these words: If I, I will not and I will.

 

Harold wove those phrases into his poem and made them his own. Following my visit I asked him (through Lorie) to share what this poem meant to him. He responded:

 

"Listen" comes from my most guarded, intimate being. I have so rarely shared "Who" I am and what I feel at my core.  The pains of my life, and the caution their accumulative effect has taught me, make sharing intensely personal.  When I seek the comfort of even just the ear of a valued friend, it is because I cannot hide - I cannot bear to hide - this thing that is so heavy upon my heart; it is a necessary sharing.  It is the cherished place where I, as a ten-year-old child but a week from turning eleven, fell to the ground upon the confirmation of the death of my mother; it is where I could only shudder and quake when, four years later, I would come to grips with being "orphaned" by my father's death while I was in foster care. When I know someone will truly listen, the echo of my heart is to share this treasure - the depth of who I am.

 

As outsiders to the prison culture what we can't know immediately is that this kind of vulnerability is rare, if not completely absent, in the general population. There are very good reasons for that.  And yet, here in the hospice circle, such vulnerability could be expressed by Harold. In fact, Harold is aware how this expression makes a difference in his hospice work, and he can transfer this to those with whom he sits.

 

Here is another poem by Virgil G., a CMC hospice volunteer:

 

In Your presence

The days I spend with you,

Are times I spend outside myself,

Holding your words, your story, your pain,

Embracing your person,

Touching my own humanity because of you.

 

I wish it were possible to present you with a photograph of Virgil!  It would help you to understand something important about my experience. Virgil is an African American man, probably about 6'5", and to compare him to a mountain is an accurate metaphor.   Virgil beamed with a quality of care that I can't forget. As I read his poem now I feel that the poem is not only made of words, it shows me who he is. Virgil is the practice he writes about. There is no distance between the poem and presence.

 

Virgil wrote this to me about his poem, "In Your Presence":

 

"My experience with being a hospice volunteer has allowed me to practice kindness, understanding, empathy, and compassion at a time in life when I believe we are at our most vulnerable to our uncertainties, frailties, and fears. To be seen, heard, and embraced at this time can be a great comfort. I know it would be for me."

 

I want to say something about my personal situation visiting CMC the first time. I was there not a week after the death of my sister Shelley. Shelley died June 10, 2011 following a series of strokes that occurred throughout the first half of the year. A memorial was scheduled for Shelley later in the summer. I didn't want to miss this work at the prison.

 

While I was able to present, my truth was that I felt very raw inside. Although Lorie said to me she had shared with the men about my sister's death, there was little or nothing made of this loss and grief during my presentation. I knew I was doing the best I could to withhold what I felt and, strangely here, I was with people who understood perfectly what I was so hesitant to express. Their ease made me more comfortable in this necessary delay of feeling.

   

Yet I remember on a break talking with Vincent - this man in prison for murdering someone. Vincent is probably close to 65. He and I were standing there, looked off into the middle distance, like men can do, talking about something with one another, his arms gently folded across his chest.

 

Quietly he said to me, "I heard about your sister's death and I want you to know that I am sorry for your loss."  I cried. This prison was the right place for me to be.  And ever since, I have thought about the word redemption in connection with Virgil, Vincent and Harold.  

 

I am not arguing for this redemption as a reason for their release. But I know that I felt absolutely safe in their presence and if I were dying, their friendship in that journey would be a grace. It feels important that people know this.

 

Lorie Adoff has done a remarkable thing. And I would like you to hear her story of creating this hospice volunteer program. She was kind enough to write the following essay for the Poetic Medicine Journal.  The genesis of this program is not about the uses of poetry as healer; however, rooted in the intention and the need that was being met, the call responded to, something that the poet John Keats called "soul-making" was being deeply welcomed by Lorie - and it is poetry that can so well express that soul-making.

 

The facts Lori provides at the end of her essay are significant, amazing and particularly that no one has returned to prison who was released after participating in this hospice volunteer program.

 

* For the words to the poem "If I Sing":  (CLICK HERE) 

  


SupportiveSupportive Care Services in Prison

by Lorie Adoff, MA

 

She made her way up the stairs to the hospital floor.  Standing at the nurses' station she overheard the conversation with the medical staff, "Is he dead yet?" "I don't know. He is down in the end room by himself and the last time I checked he was still breathing." Quietly, Dr. Taylor turned to make her way down the shabby hallway to check on her patient who had been declining since last week. When she left for the weekend she wasn't sure if she would see him alive when she returned. When she came to the door of his room it was closed; she looked in through the tiny door window to see him lying very still. She walked in. He had just died. He was still warm. His skin was a waxy pallor; his mouth was open; his empty eyes staring; his hands clenched. He had been hanging on even to the end...alone with his fears and suffering.

 

She stood by the bed for a few moments and silently breathed a prayer of release in her Buddhist tradition. She quietly left the room to notify custody that inmate Brady had died and they could begin processing his death.  She sighed, preparing herself to make the necessary phone call to family.  As she walked back to her office, alone with her thoughts, an inmate approached her. He had been working up in the hospital that night as a janitor and was anguishing over his friend's death. "Why did he have to die alone? He was so afraid. Can't we do something about how the guys die in prison alone?" "Let me look into it," she replied. Indeed she did...after one year of research and planning meetings and multiple revisions of policies and procedures within the correctional environment, Supportive Care Services was born - a hospice based program that provides emotional and spiritual support for inmates who were given a life limiting diagnosis to assure them that they will not make this last life journey alone.

 

And now, a decade later, Supportive Care Services has grown and flourishes with over 45 trained volunteer inmates who visit and support inmate patients with a life limiting diagnosis.

 

Fred, a newly trained SCS volunteer, slowly made his way up the stairs to the hospital preparing himself for his first client. He was anxious and late for his scheduled evening visit. The custody officers had stopped him several times, questioning him and patting him down for possible contraband.  He tried so hard to remember all that he was told in his training: don't bring anything with you, no candy, no tobacco, no notes; only reading glasses if you needed them.  He rang the buzzer to alert the officer that he was waiting to be let into the hospital.  Step out of the room when a nurse comes in.....always be polite...don't talk too much....it's not about me. Geez, what am I going to say to a dying man? Why doesn't the officer answer the door? I've been waiting here forever. The letter I received today from my sister was hard to read. Mom is sick and probably won' t make it to my parole date. 34 years is a long time for her to wait. Wish I could have been there for her when dad died.

 

Finally, the hospital officer arrives to unlock the door and lets him in, takes his ID, pats him down, and motions to him to find his patient, Jacob.

 

Earlier in the evening inmate/patient Jacob glanced at the clock and shifted in his bed. The NG tube pulled in his nose and rubbed the back of his throat, making him feel like he was going to throw up. He took a deep breath until the feeling subsided.  

 

It had been only a month since they told him. Memorial Day... He was watching the NASCAR races when he felt the searing pain. Nothing would make it stop. Collapsing in pain he went to triage and ended up in the community hospital. After a variety of tests, they told him, "Cancer. We are sending you to California Men's Colony where you will be more comfortable." He heard, "You have about two weeks or more. Better get your affairs in order."   

 

So here he was, in a prison hospital, waiting to die. The pain wasn't so bad anymore.  But that damn tube down his throat was rubbing it raw when he shifted around. No food, only ice chips. When he tried to eat he threw up; couldn't even keep clear liquids down.  A cold soda sounded so good, but a taste or two ended in retching.  A lady came by who said she could have some guys visit him and keep him company.  He didn't know anyone at this prison. He felt alone and tried not to show how afraid he was. He agreed. He heard the door open.

 

Fred enters the plain room, a small TV is playing, and sitting up in his bed is Jacob, an amiable guy in his late fifties, stocky build with a shock of white hair. He walked in, shook his hand, and introduced himself. "Hi, I'm Fred."

 

Fred was one of a team of seven Supportive Care Service companions assigned to Jacob. He had visits with them every day. They encouraged him to talk about his life, his fears. The Medical Social Worker did her best to locate his family but it had been so long since he was in contact with them that addresses were lost and all the leads turned cold. His team became his family who cared about him and assured him that when the end came he would not be alone. Over time each team member developed a deep, warm friendship with Jacob.

 

Jacob lived an additional two months. The SCS volunteers increased their visits to three times a day as Jacob became weaker and weaker. They helped him write down what he wanted done with his simple possessions, donating much of them to his favorite charity since family couldn't be located. Soon their time with him was spent listening to some of his favorite R & B oldies rather than talking very much. An inmate volunteer played the flute for him to ease his pain. When he slipped into a coma the team never left his bedside. Each one took a four hour shift sitting with him, softly reminding him of his memories he had shared with them; praying his familiar prayers with him. They played some of his favorite songs and gradually continued to play the soft music that helped ease his transition.  He died quietly in the early morning hours with a SCS volunteer by his side, holding his hand as he slipped away.

 

A couple of days later his team gathered to debrief about their experience with Jacob and how he had touched their lives. They recalled his courage, stories, and quick smile. Tears were shed as they spoke of his last hours. Each man placed a small reminder on the table, speaking a phrase or word that embodied their experience with him. Quietly they left the small space pondering their experience, integrating another life remembered that had forever changed their own lives.

 

The team met again at the monthly memorial service where they listened to the stories of others whose loved ones had died during the last month. Gerald read a poem to Jacob he had written of their times together - his courage, his smile. The music "Stairway to Heaven" began as the team took turns lighting the tea lights that twinkled on the memorial table.  Since Fred was with Jacob when he died, he tied Jacob's ribbon on the ribbon wreath joining the other 225 names of inmates and family members who died since SCS began over 10 years ago.

 

The inmate volunteers in Supportive Care Services relate how the experience of sitting with the dying have changed their very core - recognizing the intrinsic preciousness of life, becoming a better listener, more humane, more compassionate, caring, and nonjudgmental. These are a few of the many qualities that we strive to cultivate in our daily living. They have come to understand that the dying are truly our best teachers.

 

Even though they are gone,

The departed are with us,

moving us to live as,

in their higher moments,

they themselves wished to live

We remember them;

They live in our hearts;

They are an abiding blessing.

 

~ from Yiskor in Yom Kippur Service

 

Since 2002 to the end of 2011:

 

*116 inmate volunteers have been trained; 23 have paroled and no SCS volunteer has returned to prison;

 

*12,467 hospital visits have been made by the volunteers;

 

*163 teams of volunteers have companioned inmate patients since the beginning of the program

 

Lorie Adoff, MA, is the Director of Spiritual Care for Supportive Care Services at California Men's Colony in San Luis Obispo, California. She can be reached at: lorieadoff@sbcglobal.net.  John Fox has conducted workshops for the SCS volunteers over the past couple of years, guiding them to give expression to the richness of their experience of being with the dying.

 

 

 

 

 

JohnCMCLtrJohn's Letter to the CMC Volunteers 

 

I would like to share with you the letter that I wrote to the men who participated in the poetry program at California Men's Colony Prison. I would like you to hear through this letter my feelings about what they gave to me and what I noticed we were able to give to one another. It seems to me that any hospice program would be pleased for such an outcome.

 

June 24, 2012

 

Dear Friends in the CMC Hospice Program,

 

The retreat days we spent making poems are often in my mind.   I picture each of you in the circle we sat in and the informal conversations we had on breaks.

 

It's important for me to say I can think of your names and your faces, fragments from poems and your unique voices.

 

What I appreciate about the retreat and the work you did are many things. The gift I carry with me now in my heart is your willingness and commitment to

 

believe your writing matters

 

listen to one another

respectfully and empathically

 

tell your story with conscious awareness

 

sit with another human being who is ill and dying

with openness and a wish to serve

 

express creatively what most people avoid:

feelings & perceptions about death and dying

 

find within your own heart humor & grief,

truth-telling & forgiveness, empathy & frustration,

insight & a call for the help of God

 

What is amazing is this - that all of these occurred during those retreat days and were expressed in poems we shared!   What is amazing is that men did this together! What is amazing is that in prison circumstances the best of humanity stepped forward!

 

I hope you will keep writing and consider poetry as something worthwhile. This is my challenge to you, challenge in the sense that it will take effort. We know why. Writing asks a person/man to be present and poetry in particular asks a person/man to be more conscious of feeling. That's a challenge! Yet we did it. You did it.

 

Here is something else. That you continue to explore poetry and writing is also my hope - because what you may not realize is that spending time with you gives me hope.   As a group working together in service in incredibly difficult circumstances and as individuals, -- you show so much is possible for us as human beings.

 

You show that rehabilitation and redemption need to be revived words in the vocabulary and politics and spirituality of American culture. The bottom line: the great work you have done in the hospice program Lorie Adoff created is inspiring.

 

So I don't want to lose that! But don't write because I ask you to, write because it can make a difference for yourself and others.

 

The challenge and my hope is that you will find ways to establish the making of poems a spiritual practice and even to consider it as a practical way to debrief your hospice experience so you will learn from one another at that unique level poetry offers.

 

Again, I'm glad for you and what was shared. I wish you blessings and send friendship.

 

John Fox

The Institute for Poetic Medicine

 



 

 

 

HSLOHospice of San Luis Obispo
San Luis Obispo, CA

      

  

Poetry and Hospice in San Luis Obispo California

by Sonnie Brown, Volunteer Director 

  

The call from the palliative care nurse of the local hospital comes in on Friday morning at 9:00 a.m. One of their patients may have less than 48 hours to live. The patient's family members are traveling here from a great distance - can we send in our volunteers, so that they are not alone? Yes. We activate our Vigil Volunteer Program, providing round-the-clock attendance. Most of our volunteers keep a simple bag of supplies packed and ready. A bottle of water, tissues, hand wipes, ID badge, a book of poetry, pen and paper. Volunteers are called and scheduled, the vigil begins.

  

Poetry? Yes. We never know whether our client will appreciate readings from the Bible or less religious words. Poetry can serve without being invasive to an individual's spiritual process.

  

Hospice of SLO County offers services free of charge to the community, providing grief counseling from over a dozen counselors, both licensed and interns; as well as in-home respite care from over 120 trained community volunteers. We emphasize community education to help our neighbors learn more about the process of death, dying and healing. Some of our volunteers offer massage, music, Reiki, pet care, art therapy, or meal preparation. We have many poets in our hospice community, including several on our staff, volunteer team and one on our Board of Directors.

  

In the past year John Fox brought his medicinal poetry practices to our front door twice. We've benefited from an evening poetry workshop and then, a full day of poetry exploration for our staff, counselors and in-home volunteers. While all of us are busily supporting those who are facing the end of life (their own or their loved one's) we are grateful for the time to focus on how poetry can serve as a balm and a bolster - keeping our sense of humor and our sense of wonder firmly intact.

  

Poetry is our friend in joy, in meditation, for momentous occasions, congratulations, gains and losses, pleasures and sadness. The power of poetry is so obvious we are in danger of overlooking it in plain sight. Poetry is so appropriate for every occasion; we may neglect it because it seems too ordinary. Thankfully, John Fox's poetry workshop gives us an opportunity to explore our thoughts, feelings and experiences in depth.

  

When asked, "Why is poetry important in hospice work?" - our participants replied with some insightful responses.  

  

From our grief counselors, J.G. says, "Poems are tangible empathy I can give clients to read when words are most needed. Poems can bridge the client's emotions to a new level, often a healthier level." 

  

E.M. offers, "In poetry, our feelings can be expressed in symbols, images and metaphor. We use language differently in poetry. Poetry can support us and our clients by providing a platform to express an emotion or an experience in a way that we can't in everyday language. Poetry gives the unconscious freedom to express itself which can be magical and surprising."   

 

"...Poetry gives the unconscious freedom to express itself."  Our conscious mind may be grappling with the realities of handling business affairs, talking to friends and relatives about the health status of our dying parent, trying to understand the doctor's instructions and making sure our loved one is comfortable. Meanwhile, what is going on in our unconscious mind? Plenty. That's where we have the time and space to tap the mysteries of life on the shoulder and beckon them to turn around and face us. Our unconscious mind is processing metaphor and fact simultaneously. Our unconscious mind sponsors our beliefs, our hopes and our indefinite fears in some sort of coffee klatch that sorts itself out and invariably guides our behavior.

  

Poetry is a direct avenue to tap into the depths of our unconscious mind. A comment from another workshop participant, C.S., "Poetry resonates with many people and just the right mood or expression in a poem can be the "WOW" that the client needed to say or hear. Poetry matters every day.  Poetry is the collective unconscious calling to us to pay attention, to love deeper, to notice the sunset, and to attach words to experiences that move us."

  

At Hospice SLO we are keenly aware of the need to practice self-care for those of us who are stretching our "compassion muscles" on a daily basis. Compassion fatigue is a very real concern for our counselors, staff and volunteers. In our western culture, the topics of grief and dying are so naturally avoided by the majority that those who will discuss these topics openly become sought after in the community. We must take time for ourselves, and not just time, but time well-spent, time to strengthen and encourage, time to inspire and comfort ourselves. Poetry serves as a short cut. The brief minute it takes to read one powerful poem that can slice through our weariness or discouragement can re-align our spirit just as quickly.

  

Taking the time to take care of ourselves doesn't have to wait until we have a large block of time; we can do it incrementally. One of our grief counselors (see words and photo of Jeanie Greensfelder below) sends out a "poem a day" to a list of 25 recipients associated with Hospice SLO. The few minutes it takes in the morning to read a poem from Hafiz, Rumi, William Stafford, Mary Oliver, Thoreau, or any number of poets who comment on the complexities of life and death with their colorful words and reassuring meter, can and does set a positive tone for the whole day.

  

Answering the question, "How can poetry support us and our clients?" J.G. responds, "Poems speak to the heart of professional and client, allowing them to share tenderness on the page."  

 

In-home volunteer D.G. says, "In Hospice service, poetry is another outlet for people to get in touch with feelings that may be hard to express in normal conversation."  

  

And S.B. writes, "I attended your group today and just wanted to thank you for spending your time guiding and encouraging my inner voice to speak, share, listen and reflect... I enjoy this expression modality and I am excited to continue practicing poetry medicine in my life and in my work!  I was also pleasantly grateful to not only have the opportunity to listen to others but also to listen to my own poems and observe myself settle into and trust my spoken words.  It was a beautiful day that will live on in me for a long time.  My heart is swollen with the joy of being heard!"

 

The hospital room is quiet, resonating with the sound of one voice reading and the labored breathing from another. Reading from the poems of a local hospice spiritual counselor:

 

The Quiet has become

A treasured friend

From whom I am

Becoming inseparable...

 

The nurse steps in, administers the pain medication on time, listens, and leaves. The reading continues, the breathing continues, the vigil continues.

 

Poetry can speak to us without airs, without the weight of a wordy, detailed story. The lightness of a poem can refer to its brevity, even when the ideas are powerful and 'heavy.' The details in a poem may be few but so very effective. One mention of a color can sharpen the whole picture in our mind, one detail of a human attribute - the crooked smile, shrugging shoulder or flick of the wrist can bring a full-fledged person to our mind's eye. Instantly, effortlessly, we can relate.  

 

A recent workshop attendee, A. G. writes, "Poetry can help us process our own thoughts and emotions by accessing, communicating and feeling them in a very unique way."

  

 

Every day offers a variety of ways to support the community, families and friends who receive our services at Hospice SLO. Our "office" building is a large, 100 year-old craftsman-style home with oak doors, stained glass skylights and welcoming, creaky floors. Just inside the front doors is our group room that also houses a library that is open to the public. Outside on the northeast corner of our property is our Memory Tile Garden with engraved names on a wall of individual tiles, encircling two separate patio areas with benches beneath redwood trees and a flower arbor, respectively. On a recent summer day, one of our grief counseling clients arrived on her bicycle and spent 20 minutes enjoying the sunshine, seated on our front porch swing before her appointment, while two women visited the hand-crafted Tiles beneath the redwood trees and a local volunteer at the Boys & Girls Club accessed our library.

 

Twice a month, three Reiki practitioners set up their massage table and offer treatments to staff, volunteers and clients - for a full day. Two therapy dogs regularly visit our offices, making the rounds and spending time with clients in our reception area. If anyone is crying when those dogs are in the building, they receive some canine comfort. There is laughter in the hallways just as often as you may hear the sound of tissues being pulled from the box. For more than 30 years we have hosted art exhibits, book signings, pot lucks, book review groups, car washes, dance demonstrations and much more at our Hospice SLO Center. Poetry fits right in with everything else we do here.

 

When poetry workshop participants were asked the question, "When does poetry matter?" the response was one hundred percent "Poetry always matters."

 

Our Director of Grief Counseling, Tony Huffaker writes, "When doesn't poetry matter?  'Matter' is a pretty broad term. I can think of poetry that has mattered for connecting me to true things and encouraged me in a direct emotional way that I don't think any other way of communicating would.  

I can think of poetry that has connected me to other works I would never have found without the poem. I would never have found Herodotus without first reading 'Gerontion', or listened to Johnny Hartman without first reading Billy Collins' 'Nightclub' - and to contemplate life without Herodotus and Johnny Hartman - ghastly!"

 

J. G. says, "Poetry matters every day for those of us who take time to turn in, take time for soul food."

 

During the workshop with John Fox, each participant was encouraged to write and then, as they felt comfortable, to read their poem. D. G. says, after reading one of her poems, "There's more to me than I know about."  

 

T.H. wrote, "What would happen if we stopped hiding and said, 'Here I am'  - Would everybody say, 'well of course.'"

 

The vigil volunteer honors the dying with their undivided attention. When family members arrive, the volunteer lets them know the details of the recent hours of their loved one's journey. As needed, we remain involved until the patient's last breath, which often comes in the small hours of the morning. The vigil volunteer places everything back in their bag, says goodnight to the nurses, and drives carefully home.

 

Experiencing the grieving process is a rich time to use poetry. When getting down to the nitty-gritty truths of our dreams and sorrows feels difficult or even impossible, poetry can bypass our resistance and grant us access. Poetry is medicine. You don't have to wait for a prescription, no one needs to take your temperature or read your personal history first. Poetry is universally palatable. We wish you more poetry in your every day life. If you are a caregiver, we encourage you to include poetry as you can, with those you serve. But we primarily hope you will treat yourself with poetry, poetry that you read and poetry that you write. We highly recommend it here at Hospice SLO.

 

Sonnie Brown is the Director of Volunteers at Hospice SLO. She has been volunteering with Hospice SLO since 1995, as an In-Home volunteer, event organizer and musician. Sonnie also works with the local NPR Radio Station, where she produced a daily community calendar for 15 years. She continues hosting a program of acoustic, folk music every Saturday afternoon where she enjoys interviewing musicians who play live on the show, as well as producing special episodes like the recent Woody Guthrie Special. She lives in a small bayside town outside of San Luis Obispo, near an ancient oak grove, in a cottage on the creek.

     

To Visit the Hospice of San Luis Obispo Website:   CLICK HERE
   

 

 

Hand-crafted memorial tiles at the hospice

 

Poetry from Sonnie Brown

 

Right Now 

 

When I come to you in poetry

I wear my comfortable shoes

my favorite jeans

I'm clean but not fussy

my thoughts friendly

loose and free

 

Right now, that's what we need

with this poetry

bold permission

 

Permission to howl at the moon

Scratch at the door

Leave the dishes for morning

 

Because mourning is our daily lot

like as not, there's casserole

and unanswered voice messages

and forget-me-nots

 

I won't. Don't worry.

Love never forgets.

 

Sometimes remembering

satisfies regrets

Though bills go unpaid

and appointments unkept

 

I'm making another cup of tea

for me, to think about you, love

loose and free

with some poetry.

 

~ Sonnie Brown

   

Note from Sonnie Brown:  Here's a poem I wrote at the workshop with John.  This came from another poem we heard with the phrase

"What if I knew I'd be the last..." *  Kenny Rogers' musical career with Linda Ronstadt means I still hear him on the radio... bittersweet...

 

What If (for Kenny)

 

What if I knew things would be okay

the sink would drain

the car would start

all the lights would be green

What if I knew there was nothing to say

silence is rich

touching hands is deep

breathing together is forever

What if I knew all of the answers

but they were one use only

one size fits you

because there's only one you

What if I knew 100 poems

and recited the right one

at the right time

for once

 

What if I knew life is bottomless

death is a moment

love is deep

your voice is forever in my ear

What if I knew I didn't have to finish

starting is perfect

playing is perfect

and you are perfect

What if I knew when the phone rings

it's going to be you

but it can't be

anymore

Would I pick up

would I let go

would I look later

would I ignore

What if I knew later never comes

all the laters

have already happened

and all I can do is cherish them

What if I knew that ringing

was your song

still singing

safely between heaven and earth

 

~ Sonnie Brown


* To Hear Ellen Bass Read "If You Knew":  CLICK HERE
 

GreensfelderPoetry from Jeanie Greensfelder

of Hospice of San Luis Obispo

 

I am a retired psychologist and, for eleven years, have volunteered at hospice, providing individual grief counseling. Working with people facing the frontiers of living and dying is a privilege. I gathered a notebook of grief poetry for the office, since the right poem at the right moment is medicine. Most days I find a meaningful poem to share via email with staff and volunteers.    





From the Inside Out

Let me slip 
into your skin, 
rock you, 
sing to you, 
soothe you 
from the 
inside out.

 

            

 

Words in Me
Words hide in my hesitant pause,
words I think, but do not say.
Sometimes others need to talk.
Then my words stay inside,
mine to cherish.

  

                

 

Home Alone  
 
He ghosts about the house,
reminding me to take out the trash,
to push the can for pickup,
find the paper in the bushes,
and to start the coffee.
 
He'd do it, but he's gone on retreat.
We each practice losing the other.
He's stronger, can cope with more,
but odds favor me to be the one
to face loneliness, figure finances,
and master the thermostat.  

   

I try to twist open a jar of jelly, 
and he watches, wishes me well.

 

 

Egret Photo by Jeanie Greensfelder

 

CFLWDCentre for Living with Dying
Bill Wilson Center
Santa Clara, CA
 

 Broken Sun
Mended Shadows


I have had the honor of journeying with people and communities living with dying, death, trauma, loss and grief for 35 years. As I bear witness to this, I acknowledge that poetry is the transformative tool that creates the new normal out of the chaos and agony of change... Poetry brings compassion to the moment - a fresh openhearted breath of life and hope. No part of us is left behind: all voices have a place. It is a song-rainbow of experience, where all colors meet in the truth of poetry's landscape. Poetry reaches in and claims the jewels and old photographs of memory and hope out of the rubble of the heart's earthquake. Poetic medicine invites and requires that we give and receive the momentum of stillness within and in the world.

 

There is no greater privilege for me than this: to stand beside this terrible and tender beauty, and as a river washes over the rocks, to be cleansed, reborn and brought to the community of my people, my home.

 

Thank you John, for weaving this tapestry in the dying, in the jails, in the disenfranchised, in the alone, in the midnight, in the winter, in the nightmare, and in the dream...You bring the light, sputtering and clear, peaceful and grounded, to all of us.

 

Janet Childs  

 Janet Childs, M.A.

Director of Education and Bay Area Critical Incident Management

Centre for Living with Dying program of Bill Wilson Center

 

About The Centre for Living with Dying 

 

The Centre for Living with Dying program provides emotional support to adults and children facing life-threatening illness or the trauma of having a loved one die. The Centre also provides crisis intervention services and broad-based educational programs on grief and loss. Whether clients choose individual counseling or grief groups, they are gently given tools for coping with loss and trauma. Individual and small group grief support is available for adults, children, teens and families

 

The Healing Heart Program (CLICK HERE), a special grief program offered by the Centre for Living with Dying, is a resource where families and youth can connect in life-altering times of grief and loss. The program offers grief groups for youth ages 5-17, as well as parent/caregiver groups to assist adults supporting children through the grieving process.

 

The Centre for Living with Dying is certified to provide law enforcement training, nurse training, clergy and mental health professional education and a variety of support groups, including survivors of suicide, survivors of homicide, breast cancer support, gay and lesbian grief support, parental grief and neo-natal grief.

 

Other special services include support groups, Bay Area Critical Incident Stress Management (CISM) team, Circle of Care for people living with HIV/AIDS and their loved ones, and community education dealing with issues related to grief, death and trauma.  The Bay Area CISM team is a peer based team that offers critical incident stress response, support and education to emergency responders, public safety, healthcare professionals and other caregivers on the front lines.  They have been providing services for over 30 years.      

 

To learn more about the Centre for Living with Dying:   

    CLICK HERE    

 

 

  Lotus 1

 

Janet wrote the following poem about her brother, Ralph, and being with him in his last days.  

 

The Kiss

(to Ralphie)

start close in

with my breathing labored

on the edge of

pain

I remember how

the sorrow is exquisite

when I start close in

 

how this breath, gasping

and struggling

 

breaks the silence

of far away

 

and I start close in

where eyes, breath and

hands meet in the space

 

between us

and I remember

how the breath has whistled

through ancestors

for a piece of sky

a sliver of sun

a tender touch

a kiss

 

this last kiss

lightly in your forehead

as I wrap your body

still and solid

in the silk of our love, the sacred

oils of ancient memory and braided thread of

our journeyhood together

 

now we sit

as you

fly close in to

an impossible light

infinite

as night's

breath

in my heart

that now starts

close in

to that absent

air

where you once

lived

 

                               

 

The Untended Altar

 

The untended alter

Still breathes

Her perfume

Still reaches

Into the night

Of my soul

And soothes

The burning wound

 

The un-whole circle

Still cures its life

In the chamber

Of my destiny

In the cave of my heart

 

 

 

The Tended Altar

 

She opens Her light

And dark waves

Of truth on my

Body

In my heart

She memories

The drum beat of creation

She gathers

My ancestors to

My breast

 

Each one holds

A song

In my throat and chest

In my womb and hands

In the spine of my energy

Rising

Her river of wondering

Hope

 

A splinter of sun

Glistening on the water

On the turning

Turning

Inward,

The spiral

Of Her

Winter-spring

                                                  

 

 

John

 

a monk

a lover

a teacher

a silent companion

a gazer

a patient guardian

for the door

of truth to open

to this sweet light:

 

our own revelations

crack open

on the

fragrant earth

of your attention

Hands Holdiing World



KryslThe Work and Poetry of Marilyn Krysl
at the Kalighat Home for the Destitute & Dying
in Calcutta, India 


This summer I had the good fortune to meet poet Marilyn Krysl of Boulder, Colorado.  Marilyn and I were serving on the faculty of
The Writing to Heal conference held at Dominican University in San Rafael, CA.  

 

This conference brings together people working in the field of medicine, as well as people who have been patients.  Convened by Dr. David Watts and his wife, Joan Baranow, the conference is in its 8th year.  David and Joan are also producers of the PBS documentary Healing Words: Poetry and MedicineClick Here.

 

I had known about Marilyn's poetry for a long time. In particular, her poem "Saying Things" greatly informed my work with poetry as healer, because that poem celebrates, better than nearly any other, the saying of words as living and breathing things. In the latter part of the poem she lifts this up:

 

...say ash, picot, fallow deer, saxophone, say kitchen sink.

This is a birthday party for the mouth - it's better than ice cream,

say water lily, refrigerator, hartebeest, Prussian blue

and the word will take you, if you let it,

the word will take you along across the air of your head

so that you're there as it settles into the thing it was made for,

adding to it a shimmer and the bird song of its sound,

sound that comes from you, the hand letting go

its dove, yours the mouth speaking the thing into existence,

this is what I'm talking about, this is called saying things.

 

When speaking this poem (from memory) to people, I ask them if they ever had an elementary teacher, who, before they took a spelling test in 4th grade - invited them to speak aloud their favorite words from that spelling list. Of course not many give an affirmative answer to that question!

 

Yet didn't Dylan Thomas say:

 

"The first poems I knew were nursery rhymes, and before I could read them for myself I had come to love just the words of them, the words alone. What the words stood for, symbolized, or meant was of very secondary importance. What mattered to me was the sound of them as I heard them for the first time on the lips of the remote and incomprehensible grown-ups who seemed for some reason to be living in my world. And these words were, to me, as the notes of bells, the sounds of musical instruments, the noises of the wind, sea, and rain, the rattle of milk carts, the clopping of hooves on cobbles, the fingering of branches on a window pane, might be to someone, deaf from birth, who has miraculously found his hearing."

 

It's the power and magic of words, the sheer sounds of them, that I want to re-ignite in adults. Surely that speaking of words with life and energy IS a birthday party for the mouth!

 

But I knew there was a lot more to Marilyn Krysl's work. I knew about her book SOULSKIN (Click Here) but have never read it. I had some awareness of her work with nurses - the work of nursing from a poet's perspective - but knew little about it. I learned much more during the conference!

 

When I first met Marilyn in mid-July, standing in the Creekside Room at Dominican, I did my best (imperfectly, but still...my best!) to recite "Saying Things."  I did it, stumbling on a few lines, and she looked at me with clear eyes and a smile, with expressed delight. Friends we became.

 

At the conference Marilyn gave a inspiring lecture about her volunteer work at the Kalighat Home for the Destitute and Dying  (Click Here) in Calcutta, India. Kalighat is a hospice founded by Mother Theresa. Marilyn volunteered there for a month in 1994.  

 

For anyone working in hospice, this talk would be both a companion standing beside you and a revelation of experience that draws together unspeakable rawness into an embrace of love. This essay is available on her website and is entitled "Collaboration: Themes and Variations" (Click Here).  

  

 

 I want to share with you a brief passage from SOULSKIN and a poem by Marilyn Krysl. Her website link is here and I'd urge you to check her work out.

 

"In this atmosphere of crowding and scarcity, The Sister's of Charity establishment stood out in relief. The atmosphere in the hospice was one of simplicity. Partly this is a result of Mother Theresa's vow of poverty. She wishes in her life and work to honor the way the poor live necessarily. Acoutrements are stripped away. Daily routine centered on what was essential for body and spirit: meals, baths, the changing of linens, the agape of embrace.  

Death was a common, daily occurrence.

Love and affection were as common as rice, bananas.  

An atmosphere of simplicity is deeply affecting. When we live at this essential level, there is no shortage. Set off from both scarcity and plenty, small happeinesses took on size and substance. Kindness acquired immense value. Those I cared for gave care back to me, and patients looked after patients in significant and touching ways."

 

~ Marilyn Krysl

  from Calcutta V in SOULSKIN

 

                    

   

DEVALUATION

by Marilyn Krysl

 

Somewhere in the past, someone

broke her wrist: the way you'd

break a foot to bind it. Hand

to chest, above left breast,

 

fingers splayed: flesh corsage.

But it was her right arm

that alarmed me, straight up

to take the money: fist tight,

 

and her eyes, swollen shut. Sealed

writ. When something's so wrong,

there's nothing to do but begin.

Come, blind, into the ceremony

  

of hands. Unwind, slowly, the torn

sari, now a little solo of soap,

water, tremolo of towel. Her

moan worn thin: I moan in return,

 

primal song we two now sing, for one

must not sing alone. This smoldering

om our horizon syllable, uttered

longing the rhythm we rock on:

 

so our singsong koan goes on-

and her fist stays shut as stone.

Who rocks whom? Come dawn,

I lay her down, go home, doze

 

with my clothes on. Wake amidst

the light's incense, sensing some

immense, minuscule shift. I go

as though from the first washing

 

into morning. In the sickroom

she in whose body I rocked is dead.

The other sick ones hungry. Naturally

we're out of bread, tea. Of some things

 

there can never be enough:  shrouds

one thing we don't run out of.  I,

who come from a rich, smart country,

work the girth of her fist loose.

 

pais, less than a penny's worth. 

 

 

 

 

 

Marilyn Krysl has published four collections of stories, work in The Atlantic, The Nation, The New Republic and other journals, in Best American Short Stories 2000, O., Henry Prize Stories, and the Pushcart Prize Anthology

She has taught ESL in the People's Republic of China, served as Artist in Residence at the Center for Human Caring in Denver, worked as a volunteer for Peace Brigade International in Sri Lanka, and volunteered at the Kalighat Home for the Destitute and Dying administered by Mother Teresa's Sisters of Charity in Calcutta.  She currently volunteers with the Lost Boys of Sudan and with C-SAW, the Community of Sudanese and American Women. Read more about Marilyn's life in the Oregon Quarterly: Writing the Wind:   (Click Here).

 

To Visit Marilyn's Website:  CLICK HERE

 




 

ScheduleUPCOMING POETIC MEDICINE EVENTS
With John Fox 


 The Light We Let In

(and a creative way to spread it around!)  

 

A talk and mini-workshop on writing as healer  

and spiritual practice

 

Presented by John Fox, CPT  

 

Friday, August 24, 2012

  

SACRAMENTO, CA 

 

   

Sponsored by
The Sacramento Community Group
of The Institute for Noetic Sciences

Friday, August 24, 2012
:   7:00 to 9:30pm

Celestial bodies radiate and reflect light: 
sun blazes with fire, moon glows with grace.

Through the images and metaphor of poetry, we are stirred inside with an awareness that experiences of light also are accessible inwardly to heal and empower us, to lift us up, to remind us that we take part in that sacred fire, that beautiful grace.

 

By expressing ourselves through poem-making and by listening to one another in that process -- we learn how to feel, intuit and trust these interior moments of radiance and reflection.

 

John Fox, a friend and frequent visitor to the chapter of Sacramento Community Group of IONS will bring inspiration and useful tools for you to experience this. No previous experience with poetry is necessary.  Anyone interested in how light helps us grow and in the healing potential of the arts is welcome!    

 

 

Window Treatments

 

Light pours through

bare windows once

draped in coral

peau de soie swags.

 

Sunlight warms the

new maple floor,

 

shines on the walnut

dining room table

once kept in the dark.

 

So it will last. And it has.

       Lasted.

 

Now it stands bare

in bright morning light

revealing its grain.

 

       ~ Carol Howard- Wooton  

June 13, 2012

          www.keepinghopealive.org

 

Location:

Arden Dimick Library 
891 Watt Avenue
Sacramento, CA
This is a free event!

For More Information Please Contact:
e-mail:  ions@sacions.org  
Phone
:  916-364-0718

You May Register through "Meet Up":   CLICK HERE

To Download a Flyer:   CLICK HERE  
To Visit the SacIONS Website:   CLICK HERE 
 

 

Stars Orange Galaxy

There Is an Origin

 

For each true poem born there is an origin:

Blessed ignorance of words that turn

To splendid fire, as stars in space will yearn

To find on earth their upstretched twin.

 

~ John Fox

 

 



My Heart Broke Loose on the Wind:

Recovering a Sense of Freedom & Surprise

In Your Creative Expression and

For Living Your life 

  

Presented by John Fox, CPT

 

Saturday, September 1 - Sunday, September 2, 2012

  

EUCLID, OH  

  

Trees in Wind

I wheeled with the stars, 
my heart broke loose on the wind.

~Pablo Neruda

Saturday, September 1, 2012:  9:30am - 4:30pm
Sunday, September 2, 2012:  9:30am - 12:30pm


Poetry is practiced best and is of most optimum use in our quest for wholeness and meaning when it is deeply treasured and respected for its essential wildness.  When your writing is met deeply and allowed to flourish in ways thoughtful people develop - with extravagant permission and genuine support to risk and try things out, when all of your feelings are welcomed - poetry as healer can take deeper roots.

 

Creativity does not work well when put into a cage; people might pay to visit a zoo animal in a cage, but everyone knows something isn't quite right.  Those cages are, in this sense, usually constructed of self-judgment and diminishment or the judgment of others built upon hierarchies of arbitrary evaluation.

 

This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

 

~Rumi

 

This workshop is not a place to put on display one's literary and analytical acumen - although we will bring to the circle our love for and curiosity about literature, especially poetry.  We will likely meet our doubts about the value of our writing, but as a community we shall help each other to open to the surprise, songs and secrets that emerge from the page.

 

John Fox will share a holistic vision of poetry as healer that values this wildness and freedom, community and as always, deep listening.

 

I don't know how or when,

no, they were not voices, they were not

words, nor silence,

but from a street I was summoned,

from the branches of night,

abruptly from others,

among violent fires

or returning alone,

there I was without a face

and it touched me.

 

~Pablo Neruda 

 

Location:

25801 Lakeshore Blvd. 

Euclid, OH  44132 

 

Fee$100.00    Student Fee$85.00 

Registration is limited to 14.  Refreshments will be provided.  Please bring your own lunch.  A microwave is available. 

 

Please make checks payable to:   The Institute for Poetic Medicine

  

Mail to:

Barbara Greenwood

25801 Lakeshore Blvd., Apt. 77

Euclid, OH  44132 

 

For Information:

Please contact Barb Greenwood with questions & to reserve your space at:  (216) 870-4072   

 

To Download a Brochure/Registration:   CLICK HERE 

 

 

About John Fox and the Workshops:

 

When I set out for the

workshop, I had no idea

I would be so completely

changed or become so

completely myself again

because of poetry and

you.

 

~ Shannon Klassel

 

 

 

A very sincere thank you

for being what you teach... embodying the juice!

the mystery is waking up

the rain is falling

everything smells better

time is stopping for these precious tears

it was a gift of good medicine!

 

~ Risa Diaz

 

 

   
   

See How It Reveals the Whole - The Great Tapesty:
Regenerative Creativity in Poetry

Co-Facilitated by Marna Hauk & John Fox 

Wednesday, September 26 - Thursday 27, 2012

PORTLAND, OREGON

 
Like a silken thread, you entered the weaving.
Whatever image you take within you deeply,
even for a minute in a lifetime of pain,
see how it reveals the whole - the great tapestry.

~ Rainer Maria Rilke

A special invitation to participate in doctoral research sparking poetic medicine from earth connection and patterns in nature.  Come experience how poems and imagery of the patterns of branching, radiance, flow, honeycomb, and the vortex can revive and catalyze our creative capacities and connection with the earth community.

Some of the Themes to be Explored:

Crossroads & convergences ~ branching pattern  
Sanctuary & hearth ~ nest/radiance pattern  
Meander & creative flow ~ flow pattern   
Deep Memory ~ packing pattern  
Sudden Change ~ vortex pattern  
Harmony ~patterns across scales 



One-time $25 incentive fee paid to participants for these two evenings! Pre-registration required.  Participants must attend both evenings.

Dates:  Wednesday (September 26):  6:30-8:30pm
             Thursday (September 27):     6:30-8:30pm

Location:  Turn-of-the-century home in NE Portland. 
                 Directions given at time of pre-registration.

To Learn More About This Unique Opportunity:

Contact: Marna Hauk
e-maildeeperharmony@gmail.com
phone:  (503) 771-0711

Note:  You can also receive for your participation a $20 discount on "The Precious Word Within" writing retreat with John Fox, September 28-30 in Portland, OR (see details below).  
 
This is a research project for the
Institute for Earth Regenerative Studies:
 CLICK HERE
  to learn more!

To Download a Flyer for This Event:  CLICK HERE


Marna Hauk researches and designs learning experiences in sustainability and regeneration - at the convergence of creativity, ecology and justice, and the wisdom traditions.

She directs the Institute for Earth Regenerative Studies (Click Here) in the Pacific Cascadia bioregion.


Marna also nurtures regenerative arts projects through the nonprofit Moonifest (Click Here).

A writer, poet, and spiritual director, Marna has studied and collaborated with John and The Institute for Poetic Medicine for over six years and finds the healing presence of poetry to be central to her thriving.




The Precious Word Within:
The Potentials of Poetry to Heal the Heart
and Awaken Soulfulness in the Human Voice

Friday, September 28 - Sunday 30, 2012

PORTLAND, OREGON

Of all the valuable things of this world, the word is the most precious.  For in the word one can find a light that gems and jewels do not possess; a word may contain so much life that it can
heal the wounds of the heart.

~ Hazrat Inayat Khan
 
from The Music of Life (Click Here)

A Creativity Set Afire, A Sharing To Satiate Our Thirst

I am grateful to breathe in, on a daily basis, the living and life-changing truth of this great Sufi Master's statement! 

For over four decades, in my own life, and in the lives of thousands of others, I have witnessed this: a word of light come forth with LIFE
burst open within a person to heal wounds of their heart.


Poetry is indeed a force, an act of human magic, that alters the way we see our lives and so changes us. 
 
~Morris R. Morrison, Poetry Therapy Pioneer 
University of Texas at Austin

As Morris Morrison describes, the expression of a "word" as an act
of human magic can alter perception and change a person. 

Often, when held in a sacred way, there is an upwelling of awareness
among people that reveals our shared heart and yes, allows each person, in their own unique way, to feel what we mean to one another.

Time Away from Routine, Discovering A Fresher World

I have a deep faith that each of us is entrusted with a "song of the
soul." It is time well spent when the spiritual work we do on ourselves
includes and makes a priority of discovering a fresher world and
connection with your source. Please join us for this time away from
routine and a taste of the timeless through poem-making!

In this workshop, John Fox will offer ways and stories, writing prompts and poems to stir within you that precious word within yourself, and the courage find the words to say it - or much better to put it this way - to find your words to say it.

This evening talk and weekend retreat is useful to all who are within

the healings arts and those who want a catalyst for their creativity.
No previous experience with poetry is necessary. If you are a long-timewriter, this may renew your initial inspiration.

A Public Talk & Mini Workshop:

Date:  Friday, September 28, 2012:  7:00-9:30pm
Location:  4312 Southeast Stark Street, Portland, OR
Fee:  $25.00

A Retreat for the Precious Word Within:

Dates:  Saturday, September 29 (10:00am-5:00pm) and
             Sunday, September 30 (9:00am-1:00pm)
Location:  A beautiful home in Multnomah Village
Fee:  $200.00 (includes Friday, Saturday & Sunday)

A portion of proceeds will be tithed to Write Around Portland:

To Register or For More InformationContact:  Marna Hauk
e-mail:  deeperharmony@gmail.com
phone:  (503) 771-0711

To Download a Flyer/Registration Form for this Retreat:   
    CLICK HERE  


The Precious Word Within:
The Potentials of Poetry to Heal the Heart
and Awaken Soulfulness in the Human Voice

Friday, November 16 - Saturday, November 17, 2012

ATLANTA, GA



See Retreat Description for Portland, OR (above)


A Friday Evening Public Talk & Mini Workshop:

Date:  Friday, November 16, 2012:  7:00-9:30pm
Location:  Decatur Healing Arts, 619 B East College Avenue
                 Decatur, GA
Fee:  $25.00 (Open Attendance - But Please e-mail Agata Dichev at 
                       e-mail below to RSVP).

A Saturday Retreat for the Precious Word Within:

Dates:  Saturday, November 17 (10:00am-5:00pm)
Location:  A private home in a beautiful wooded setting in Clarkston
Fee:  $130.00 (includes Friday & Saturday)

*Note:  Those who wish to attend Saturday, should also attend  
             Friday evening. 

To Register or For More Information
:
Contact
:  Agata Dichev 
e-mail indigenousoul@gmail.com
phone:  (734) 904-8923

To Download a Flyer/Registration Form for this Retreat:   
     CLICK HERE


Poetry As a Healing Art

John F. Kennedy University
Arts & Consciousness Program

November 30 - December 2, 2012

BERKELEY, CA


About This Course:

Poetic language, language that comes from the heart, has the potential, the natural ability in fact, to circulate everywhere. The nuance of metaphor becomes a revived capillary that relieves numbness and returns feeling to one's life. Whether it occurs one-to-one or in a group, poetry provides a way to explore numbness or feeling in a sensitive and creative response to life as it unfolds.

Such interaction is distilled and enhanced by poetry - as it is by all the creative arts. All are welcome - no previous experience with poetry is required.

Topics to be covered will include
~Intro to poetry and healing - indigenous roots and current blossoms; ~Reclaiming the creative imagination - the writing process;
~Processes of poetry and healing with specific groups;
~Use of evocative poetry and other literature in healing;
~The healer and artist's instrument - aligning heart, body, breath, 
  sound, voice and presence;
~Poems of witness for peace and justice;
~Poems for connecting to the earth

NoteThis class is open enrollment and cross-listed so non-JFKU students are welcome to attend, as well as students from other schools within the University.


Class Days/Time:

Friday, November 306:00pm - 10:00pm
Saturday, December 1:  10:00am - 6:30pm
Sunday, December 2: 10:00am - 6:30pm

Location:

John F. Kennedy University - Berkeley Campus
2956 San Pablo Avenue
2nd Floor - Room L4
Berkeley, CA 94702

Fee:

$160:  JFKU Alumni
$380:  General Public
(Call for non-degree credit prices)

Registration:

Begins Tuesday, September 4 & ends Tuesday, November 27.  Class size is limited to 15 participants.

Please Contact Sherri Hansell at:
e-mailshansell@jfku.edu
phone:  (510) 647-2044

To Learn More about JFK's Arts & Consciousness Program: 
    CLICK HERE

To Download a Flyer with More Information About this Class:
    CLICK HERE

Visit the Arts & Consciousness Blog for More Information About
     this Class, Including Full Class Descriptions:
    CLICK HERE


 


Poetry As a Healing Art

John Visits
ABU DHABI, UNITED ARAB EMIRATES

Coordinated by Bahareh Amidi

December 7 - 17, 2012


John will present poetic medicine programs in Abu Dhabi, UAE this December.  Plans are developing to bring this work to people in the field of medicine and the general public. John will bring poetry as healer to many other venues where there is need. He will be there to support the work of Bahareh Amidi who is already bringing poetry to safe houses for Fillipino and Indonesian women, as well as to the camps of men visiting from other countries to work.

 

If you want to learn more or help please contact Bahareh at: connect@bahareh.com

 

To learn more about Bahareh's work, please read on!

 

Bahareh Amidi has brought poetry as healer to the Ladies Safe Houses for the last 2 years. Initially at the Filipino safe house as a story teller and then poetry therapist in training.  She has expanded that work in the past year by visiting the Indonesian safe house. 

 

Bahareh says:

"We usually meet in groups of about 15.  We start by a poem from the ladies' own lands or one of mine or one someone might know and care to share. We then take some time writing together. 

 

Each week, I make sure each of the ladies has their own notebook, so it is their own private property.  It is incredible because most people say they do not write poetry and I say I know, so please just write a few words on images and feelings. 

 

By the end each person will have had something to share and we go around the circle, at first shy to share but then share and many tears and smiles are shared. Many common themes appear. Healing happens as we find out we all in this together. 

 

The ladies have had their poetry shared at a public event by the translator; they love this experience, they feel heard and hopefully understood. This is a wonderful opportunity for me and for these ladies."

 

Bahareh also brings poetry as healer to men's work camps. This is where men from neighboring countries are in UAE to work. Usually they go back home every two years. They have minimal living conditions and Bahareh offers poetry to improve the quality of life.  Bahareh provides workshops and arranges poetry readings. 

 

She says, "That is where I encouraged writing poetry and some men wrote and performed their poems on stage. This was wonderful for them and for me."

To Visit Bahareh's Website:   CLICK HERE 

 

Here Are a Few Links From Bahareh's Website:

 

Bus Raid Focuses on Bringing Attention to Labor Workers:

   CLICK HERE 

   

Speak Abu Dhabi: The Night that Included Everyone's Voice.    

   (Don't Miss Taking a Look at this Link & Video!):   CLICK HERE

  

Link to Other YouTube Videos with Bahareh:  CLICK HERE 

 

TEDx Abu Dhabi (This Article Talks About Her Work in Poetry  

    Therapy in Abu Dhabi):   CLICK HERE 

 

 

 

 Bahareh with women at a safehouse 

 

 
BookReviewIntroBOOK REVIEWS
Share In This Tremendous Work of People 
Who Know the Healing Power of Poetry


 A Note From Rachel McKay

  

  

 

Poetry comes in unexpected ways. For Iris Llewellyn Angle it came in the middle of the night, first from joy and then from an unbearable loss. John Andrew Denny found poetry unexpectedly on a postcard sent by a friend after the onset of a debilitating illness. Janelle Shantz Hertzler was offered poetry and art in graduate school after losing her husband.  I found it through a small notice in my local paper advertising a community poetry writing group just when I was longing for a stronger sense of self.

 

Native American poet and writer, Diane Glancy says that poetry is a conversation; that it heals, clarifies, creates, and documents. Writing and publishing books is one of the ways to take part in this conversation. Iris Llewellyn Angle joined in when she wrote Tell Your Story Walking: One Mother's Legacy about coming to terms with the suicide of her son. John Andrew Denny compiled Through Corridors of Light: Poems of Consolation in Time of Illness out of gratitude for the healing balm of poetry and because it is the book he wanted and could not find.  In Seasons of Solace:  A Story of Healing Through Photos and Poems, Janelle Shantz Hertzler tells her story in words and images.

 

I work for John Fox on special projects, which include preparing book reviews for the IPM website. Like Denny, Hertzler, and Angle, I found John Fox and the Institute of Poetic Medicine after poetry found me. I met John when I went on one of his retreats to Canyon de Chelly.  At the time I was finishing graduate work in depth psychology and writing about what my poems had shown me about myself.  I was also grieving my father's suicide two years before. I had visited Canyon de Chelly on a trip with my father when I was three years old.  Being in the Canyon was deeply quiet and healing.

 

Carol Katz, IPM volunteer book reviewer, writes about Angle's Tell Your Story Walking: One Mother's Legacy. John asked me to interview John Andrew Denny and to review his anthology.  Melissa Layer, IPM's Constant Contact communication designer (who I also met on the Canyon de Chelly retreat), reviews Seasons of Solace: A Story of Healing Through Photos and Poems.  Like Diane Glancy, John Fox feels strongly about continuing the conversations poetry offers; he hopes you find new friends in the books reviewed here.  So do I. 

 

~ Rachel McKay

 

 

 

AngleTell Your Story Walking:
One Mother's Legacy
by Iris Llewellyn Angle

 

   

TELL YOUR STORY WALKING:  ONE MOTHER'S LEGACY

A HEALING JOURNEY OF GRIEVING, SURVIVING, AND THRIVING

  

by Iris Llewellyn Angle  

West Conshohocken, PA: Infinity Publishing, 2012

 

Carol Katz, Volunteer IPM Book Reviewer  

 

The author's name is "Angle." If we switch the letters, we get "Angel." She mentions angels in several instances: ...angels are with us at all times... in our life struggles, experiences, and healing (p. 57).  And I brought home the angel candle to remind me of him (p. 20-21). Her healing journey, with angels looking after her, changed her life forever.

 

On January 7, 1993 Iris's 20-year-old son, Eric, drove into the Arizona desert and shot himself. His suicide note stated that he was a loser, afraid to face adult life. He begged his mother not to blame herself. He still loved her. Eric had made a decision to die. And Iris chose life. The three words "healing, surviving, thriving" became her mantra.  

  

Iris and Eric 

 

A Son's Suicide and a Mother's Grief 

 

The first part of the book is a heart-wrenching description of Iris's shock, anger, and blame.  Why didn't my son ask for help?  Why didn't I notice that something was wrong?  But she found no answers. At that time Eric seemed happy and was always joking.  Iris, her second husband Jim (Eric's stepfather) and her daughter, Laura had no inkling that their son and brother was planning to take his own life. In my own experience, a friend was feeling great and made plans for future projects. She even fooled her psychiatrist. I understand Iris's shock and anger.

 

Iris "Angel" spoke to him in prose, poetry and haiku, sitting on his old baby blanket, at his graveside. It was at this time that she starting journaling. The poem on page iii titled, This Gift, began her healing process. I know you have to leave me again...I see your face and hear your voice. Then my whole body feels you. It was a dream, wasn't it? This gift.

 

Iris shows us the power of journaling, writing poetry and exercise as healing processes. Carolyn Jennings also speaks about the healing power of journaling in her book, Hunger Speaks (see my review on the IPM website:  Click Here

 

The funeral was a blur. Iris ached all over and couldn't stop crying. She had extraordinary support from Jim and her friends. She asked her friend, Janet, to be her memory. Through the entire time an astounding theme was laughter. Every five or ten minutes a story about Eric would be told followed by laughter as Eric was always doing something funny. I had a difficult time believing he was so troubled... Eric missed one heck of a party (excerpt from Janet's letter, p. 29-30).

 

Places to Go, People to Meet and a Story to Tell

 

Iris believed that she gained inner strength to keep going from her dead son Eric. He seemed to answer her pleas from his grave. She dreamt that he was urging her to tell her story. She imagined that he was telling her that he loved her and that she has to get back her life. She began to attend "Survivor of Suicide" meetings and to train to become a speaker.  She attended John Fox's workshop at the national conference of poetry therapy.

One morning, several years later, she woke up, her body stiff and crying for exercise. She started walking every day, observing the flora and fauna. This exercise inspired her to compose poems. Maybe the reason that God struck her down was that He chose her to continue the fight against suicide, to get people to talk about it and to erase the taboo.  Iris decided that her mission was to give seminars for teens at risk, urging them to choose life. ...you gave me the gift to help others, especially those who have lost a loved one to suicide (excerpt from her letter to Eric, p. 70).

Iris & Biscuit

 

In the next two sections, Thriving and Healing, Iris tells her story walking during her 2,000 mile walk and bicycle ride from Chardon, Ohio (where Eric was born, raised and buried) to the Arizona desert, ending at the spot where Eric shot himself. Jim followed in his car with their dog, Biscuit. Along the way, she encountered people who cried with her when they heard her story, thanked her for her encouragement and admired her bravery.

 

 

 

Her walk for Eric would raise awareness for the prevention of suicide. What was the most difficult part of her pilgrimage? Not her aching feet, the heat or the exhaustion, but finding a bathroom!  Dear God... Please help me up this hill!  Please let there be a place for me to pee soon!  Dear God, my rear end hurts! (p.158-159).

 

My favorite song comes to mind when I read Iris's story:

 

Whenever I feel afraid 

I hold my head erect 
And whistle a happy tune 
So no one will suspect  
I'm afraid.

 

"I Whistle a Happy Tune

from the musical The King and I

 

Jim & Iris Angle

   

We stop counting syllables when there are no fingers left

in meditation, and the world has begun without us

I say end when I mean something very different

even if I do not know quite what it is

I say love when no other word will do

 

~ Stephen Levine

from "I Say" 

 

I Say Love When No Other Word Will Do 

 

Iris Llewellyn Angle's healing journey showed her an inner strength that she never imagined she had before her tragedy.  It also changed her life in unbelievable ways. Today, she co-facilitates a survivor of suicide group in Kent, Ohio and is a member of the Portage County Suicide Prevention Coalition.  She gives speeches on suicide and grief to organizations, churches and schools and is a trained facilitator for "Journal to the Self."  She continues to walk, bike, do yoga, journal, write and teach poetry.  She enjoys traveling the country with her husband, Jim and their dog, Biscuit.

 

Iris's story is a must read for anyone recovering from losing a loved one.  It reads like a suspenseful novel, urging us to find out if she reaches her goal.

 

Iris, you've joined my angels as the one who looks after those whose lives have been shattered by tragedy.   

    

To Purchase the Book:   CLICK HERE

 

To Visit the Book's Website:   CLICK HERE 

 

To Visit Iris Angle's Journey Website:   CLICK HERE  

 

 

 Reviewed by Carol Katz

 

A native of Montreal, Quebec, Carol lives there with her husband of 42 years.  Carol started writing poetry nine years ago and loves the freedom that writing poetry and stories affords.  She became involved with IPM through a chance remark from her creative writing teacher, which led her to Finding What You Didn't Lose, John Fox's first book.   

 

To View Carol's Other Reviews on the IPM Website:  

    CLICK HERE 

 

 

 

Through Corridors of Light:
Poems of Consolation in Time of Illness
edited by John Andrew Denny
Corridors




Through Corridors of Light:
Poems of Consolation in Time of Illness

  

edited by John Andrew Denny

Lion Hudson, 2011

 

Reviewed by Rachel McKay 

 

Over twenty years ago John Andrew Denny became ill with ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and subsequently spent a lot of time in bed.  With "great good luck" a poem arrived in the mail and his wife hung it on the wall of his sick room.  Despite being able to read only fragments of the poem at any one time, Denny was surprised and delighted to discover that these bits, with their rhythms and images, led him to a place of consolation.  They brought him moments of peace and also a desire for more poems.

 

Denny had discovered a form of poetry therapy that was intimate and personalOn his website he discusses poetry therapy in general (CLICK HERE) and the forms it can take, often in a therapeutic setting and facilitated by another.  Denny experienced a unique therapy involving only the reader, the poem, and the time spent together.  In order to further his own healing Denny gathered poems that spoke to him.  He also sent a letter to several sources asking others to share healing poems, some of which are included in his anthology.  He then arranged the poems into sections reflecting his healing process.  Knowing that poetry is personal he continues to invite readers to share their beloved and healing poems on the Visitors' Page of his website (CLICK HERE). 

 

The introduction describes Denny's healing journey honestly and clearly.  His generosity in sharing his story helped me to understand the suffering of people with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, who had often seemed fine to me.  I particularly learned from the poems in the first section, entitled O Rose, Thou Art Sick.  Here poets such as William Blake, who lent his words to the section heading, and Emily Dickinson write about the experience of being ill.  Despite their focus on illness, I found it liberating to read each poet's version of what was happening to him or her.  Some poets find hope and others plead for death.

 

Subsequent sections reflect an opening to the possibility of a different way of being and of finding joy in the moment and in the seasons of life.  A sense of place is also a theme in the anthology, particularly in the last section, Let Evening Come. There Willa Cather, Agatha Christie, and others use memories of home to accept their own mortality.  I was also charmed by Henry Scott Holland's poem, Death is Nothing At All, with its instruction to those left behind:  Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?/.../All is well.

 

This lovely anthology provides us with a wide range of poets, some well known and some obscure, whose voices provide companionship for healing, whether sick with a debilitating disease or simply in need of a good friend.  

  

To Visit the Website:   CLICK HERE   

  

John Denny

The following interview with John Andrew Denny was conducted via e-mail with questions posed by John Fox and myself. 

~ Rachel McKay

 

How did your book come to be? 

 

I compiled my anthology because I needed it to exist, and nothing like it did. When I fell ill in 1991 with ME/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFIDS in the US) I had no particular interest in poetry.  At first my mind was so weak that I couldn't cope with visitors or read anything longer than a few paragraphs.  So my need for consolation was desperate.  Then a friend sent me a poem postcard which my wife enlarged and pinned on my wall.  It was John Masefield's 'Sea-Fever' - 'I must go down to the seas again, to the lonely sea and the sky / And all I ask is a tall ship and a star to steer her by'.  

 

I was delighted to find that reading a few lines at a time was deeply soothing and absorbing.  I loved the rhythm and the music of it, and it became a kind of mantra which had the extraordinary effect of freeing me not only from boredom but also from the stress and claustrophobia of illness.   

 

Every few weeks I changed the poem for a new one, and I soon found that those which gave me words to express what I was feeling had the most powerful healing effect on me. My search for poems of this kind is the story of how my book came about.

 

How has the book affected your life? Both in the making of it   

and now that it is published.

 

The best way I could think of to find more examples of what I called 'the poetry of consolation' was to ask other ill people which poems they found most consoling, encouraging, or inspiring, which I did by writing letters and articles in the religious and literary press.  The response was a flood of wonderful suggestions, many describing how particular 'life-saving' poems had inspired extraordinary levels of endurance and triumph over illness.   

 

Stimulated by their example and poems that were new to me, my recovery seemed to accelerate, and I found myself with many new friends who helped and supported me through the difficulties involved in publishing the book.  Today, having finally achieved publication, and buoyed by the wonderfully positive and warm reception that has greeted the book, I am stronger and more confident than I would have thought possible only a few years ago.

 

Please speak about your feelings about death

 

ME/Chronic Fatigue is a baffling illness, with no cure or proven treatment and regarded sceptically by many doctors twenty years ago.  It seems to ebb and flow according to its own will, and during that time I suffered two severe relapses, when I became extremely depressed at the thought that I might never recover or improve to a level I could cope with.  My capacity to endure and survive has also risen and fallen, as has my religious faith.  I have found it enormously helpful to read certain poems and psalms that give voice to feelings of despair and longing for death.  Facing the truth of one's feelings can be deeply comforting - expression of one's fears often leads to relief from them.

 

The notes from my conversation with John mention the "process of time."  Time in relation to your illness?  In relation to poetry?

 

In chronic severe illness, time can stand still. In the early stages, my past seemed to matter much more than my present, while the future appeared frighteningly obscure.  But gradually my perceptions changed as I absorbed what poets have written about their own experience of illness and difficulty, and my perspective widened to embrace eternity, love, and faith in human nature.  I also learned to see my life as just one element in the cycle of life.  The present moment - now, today - has become all-important to me, and the future I now see as a creative projection of the present.

 

I'm curious about the sort of music you played and how that might correlate with the way the rhythms in the poems both mesmerized and comforted you.

 

At the age of eleven I went to boarding school, where for the next seven years I took refuge in playing the organ and piano - hymns, plainchant, and Bach.  I was later drawn to 19th-century piano music, in particular Chopin and Schumann - two of the most subtle and poetic of composers.  I lived and breathed music, which may explain why it took me so long to discover the poetry of words.  And when I did, it was the musical and harmonious qualities in poetry that affected me much more than the conceptual function of language.

 

Is there anything you else you would like to add?

 

I would like to tell you about two poems which changed my outlook completely. The first was the anonymous 'Look to this day / For it is life, the very life of life', which I return to again and again whenever I feel the pressures of time or expectation getting in the way of happiness and fulfilment.  The second is by the mystic Rabindranath Tagore - 'I thought that my voyage had come to its end / at the last limit of my power... / But I find that Thy will knows no end in me. / And when old words die on the tongue / new melodies break forth from the heart' - which said to me: 'Your life is not over yet, you still have work to do, more of yourself to give.'  It was this poem which prompted me to put the wonderful poems I had found into the hands of everyone who is sick who I could reach by publishing my anthology.

 

John Andrew Denny was born in 1953. He studied music at Edinburgh University in Scotland, and was a musician and publishers' editor in London (England) when he fell ill with CFIDS (also known as Chronic Fatigue, or ME/Myalgic Encephalomyelitis) in 1991.

  

                                       

 

Reviews and Endorsements 

 

"This wonderful book has opened the window to my soul...helping me through the long journey of my recovery [from cancer]... It gives pain and illness a voice with deep intensity and provides profound understanding about the world of the sick to the big wide world outside. It is a friend to those who are suffering and a teacher to those who are not. It is truly excellent, a must read!"

 

(Zina Neagle, Amazon review)  

 

  

"I really liked the 'Lives of the Poets' section at the end too, a wonderful insight and a lovely addition to the book."

 

(InterAction review) 

  


 

"This beautiful book is full of rich, poignant, uplifting words that really do console...Most of the anthology contains poetry by well-known poets - Mary Oliver, W.B.Yeats, John Donne, Christina Rossetti, Shakespeare, the Bible, Tagore - they all have words of consolation and hope for a life lived with illness. The introduction is both personal and universal, communicating eloquently how poetry helped the editor, and how it can help all of us, in times of sickness. The book is pleasingly structured, giving a sense of the healing journey, from sickness and despair through to peace, joy and acceptance."

 

(Jan Williams, therapeutic trainer, in an Amazon review)

 

 

 

 

SeasonsSeasons of Solace:
A Story of Healing through Photos and Poems
by Janelle Shantz Hertzler

 




Seasons of Solace:
A Story of Healing Through Photos & Poems

by Janelle Shantz Hertzler Austin Texas:  Synergy Books, 2010

Reviewed by Melissa Layer 

On July 24th, 2005 Janelle Hertzler was traveling to a church gathering in a remote Thai village with her bright-eyed 18 month old son, Micah, and a friend. Her husband, John, had chosen to ride his motorcycle to the church, as he would be staying overnight and attending a meeting the following day.

 

Over the 4 ½ years of their marriage, Janelle and John had been serving in Thailand through a Mennonite organization. John's efforts had been directed towards working with an economic development program and leadership development for an AIDS program. In addition to mothering their son, Janelle had been teaching English and also contributing to leadership development.

 

                  I thought I knew you, God.

                  My life was planned - John, children, Thailand.

                  We were following a call - serving those in need.

                  We had vision, purpose, dreams.

 

And then...

 

                  One sunny Sunday morning

                    and one drunk driver collided in time...

 

Hit head-on, John was killed instantly. Somehow the tragic cell phone call cut through poor village reception and a Thai woman's frantic words shattered Janelle's world, "Nurse, hospital, accident."

 

                 I watch the police chief lay out:

                  A backpack with clothes,

                  toiletries, and books for his overnight stay,

                 

                  a broken helmet,

                  a belt,

                  a bent wedding band,

                  a watch,

                  a passport,

                  a stone carried as prayer.

 


(L to R):  Micah, John, Janelle
 

Numb with grief, Janelle and her baby boy returned to Pennyslvania, where the first year without her beloved John passed in a thick haze. Through eyes sharpened by grieving, she began to notice images in nature that provided metaphor and meaning in lieu of the words she initially could not articulate.  Reaching for her camera, she captured autumn leaves brilliantly curled in death... tight buds swelling beneath spring raindrops... the play of sunlight and shadow:

 

                  Is it true what the artists tell us,

                  that shadows are as important as light?

 

                  Can I befriend my own shadows,

                  acknowledge their place in reality?

                  Hiding them has kept me locked up.

 

                  Where is the place to be free,

                  to be at liberty to live in wholeness?

                  Is it not to live the truth of the shadows,

                  and thus receive and see greater light?

 

 

Photo by Janelle

 

Janelle enrolled in graduate school, taking several classes in the study of trauma healing. Her instructor encouraged students to explore their experiences and emotions through various writing exercises, including poetry. As a creative writing prompt, he challenged his students to write a story in 100 words or less, explaining that the true essence of the story would reveal itself. Janelle discovered that complete sentences used too many precious words and she instead found a poem forming!  As her interest quickened in poetry, she sought additional resources and discovered Poetic Medicine: The Healing Art of Poem-Making  

(Click Here) by John Fox.  

 

Reflecting upon her experience with poetry as healing ally on her rigorous journey of grief, Janelle writes, "I never thought of myself as a poet, just as I never considered myself a photographer. I couldn't remember the last time I had written a poem before John died. Yet, I needed to find a way to express my journey."

 

Janelle's unfolding experience with poetry deeply reinforces IPM's core beliefs and mission about poetry as healer:

 

"I have discovered that poetry is good medicine, even for those who never imagined they would write it. For me, it was a matter of listening to myself - to the thoughts and emotions that stirred around in my mind and soul - and letting them have an avenue to come out into the light.

 

Although written in the present tense, most of the poems were created two years after the events took place. It is as if I carried those memories and emotions frozen in my body until I was able to examine them by writing these poems. The writing helped me give language to events that seemed beyond description. I experimented with words until I found the ones that helped me understand and tell my story."

 

As her words formed and flowed onto the page, Janelle began to see the emergent themes between her photographs and poems. Her beautiful book, Seasons of Solace, became a lovely union of imagery and words particular to her intimate journey of grieving, and yet universal in its appealing beauty to people in all seasons of life.

 

         Sifting through the rubble,

         a ruby here, a diamond there,

         Instead of a paragraph,

         it came as a poem...

 

         And so poetry has come,

         a gift unforeseen,

         to find my way,

         to center

         one line at a time.

 

Janelle's graduate work culminated in a MA in Conflict Transformation from Eastern Mennonite University. Receiving spiritual direction during this time further supported her, and she eventually chose to pursue Spiritual Direction training through Kairos School of Spiritual Formation.

 

Her deepening self-awareness and call to service as a result of her personal grief journey and these two educational programs stirred a desire to explore even more creative ways for expressing her grief. She developed a website and began sharing information about memory book making and scrapbook journaling. Poetry and photography flourished there as well.

 

A visit to Janelle's beautiful website (CLICK HERE) reveals a generous treasure trove of grief education, resources, expressive arts suggestions, poetry, and inviting exercises for personal and professional use.

 

To View Seasons of Solace: A Story of Healing through Photos and Poems and purchase options:   CLICK HERE  

 

Click on the links below to visit several inviting pages on Janelle's website:   

 

Why Learn to Write Poetry/Poetry for Healing:   CLICK HERE

Write & Read Grief Poems for Healing:   CLICK HERE

Creative Writing Prompts/Journal Writing Ideas:   CLICK HERE 

Reading & Writing Psalms of Lament:   CLICK HERE

The Power of Photography in Dealing with Grief:   CLICK HERE

 

  Photo by Janelle

 Photo by Janelle 

 

Grieving is an intimate experience that challenges our familiar ways of coping, understanding and connecting. Meaning-making and integration of loss into the unfolding tapestry of our lives may invite a vulnerable and sensitive opening to the beauty of words and images that can deeply inform and enrich us. Janelle's beautiful book and generous website are proof that death and loss may be fertile ground for more fully understanding and living into the fullness of life.

 

Trees in the Forest

 

Life from death -

falling leaves and branches

decompose.

Food sustaining life.

 

You are still here.

Sustaining.

Nourishing.

Changing me.

 

My view of life

fuller because of death.

 

 

Photo by Janelle


Reviews/Endorsements:

  

"Seasons of Solace is a beautiful book - piercing, questioning, honest, profound.  These moving poems about death are full of life.  Janelle leads us to the depths of grief and lifts us with the healing power of poetry in a book you won't want to put down."

  

(Susan Wooldridge, author of Poemcrazy: Freeing Your Life with Words and Foolsgold:  Making Something from Nothing and Freeing Your Creative Process)

    

 

"Janelle Hertzler's spare words take you to deep worlds.  Brushing aside all unnecessary syllables, she unveils grief as the blow that it is, and the gift it can be.  Through her images, she invites the reader to stand with her before the unchangeable, and learn not to turn away.  A beautiful telling."

  

(Paula D'Arcy, grief psychotherapist, noted speaker, and award winning author of A Song for Sarah and When People Grieve) 

    



                                   
Melissa Layer
I have been taking Seasons of Solace with me on visits to a 94 y.o. woman who is grieving the loss of her husband of 70 years.  She had enjoyed creating art for many years, but since her husband's death she has had difficulty accessing her creativity.  I have been bringing poetry (which we take turns reading aloud to one another) and art materials, with the hope of helping her source a wellspring of solace within herself.  
                                        
Recently we were sitting at the kitchen table in shifting afternoon shadow and sunlight, colored pencils spread in a rainbow near the pad of good quality drawing paper that was a final gift from her husband.  I opened Janelle's book to the poem entitled "God, Life, and Love."  Reading the poem aloud, these particular lines seemed to quiver in the warm air between us:

Is it true what the artists tell us,
that shadows are as important as light?
 
A long and palpable silence followed.  This beloved elder's eyes filled and shimmered, a single tear overflowing one brilliant blue pool.  And then, slowly, she opened the pad of paper and reached for a colored pencil, her hand steady and poised.

In my work as an interfaith Spiritual Director, I have often found poetry to be a faithful and wise companion for those who are standing at life's potent thresholds, particularly in the shadow land of dying and grieving.  In these raw places, the distilled ripeness of words can offer a healing mercy that soothes, nourishes and provides a pathway into meaning-making and integration.         

  


Resources
WEBSITES, LINKS & RESOURCES
 


I want to provide friends of IPM with a resource list of organizations that support and assist people in these areas:

-Hospice, palliative and end-of-life care 
-Grief and bereavement
-Expressive therapy and the healing use of poetry
-Somatic, meditation and spiritual practice   

 

This very modest and altogether partial gathering includes friends whose work I have known for a long while, like Dale Borglum at the Living/Dying Project, Stephen and Ondrea Levine, Cathy Sosnowsky in Canada, and Gillie Bolton in the UK.
        
It includes enduring national organizations like the Hospice Foundation of America and Compassionate Friends.  It also offers new and excellent resources I have met recently like Open to Hope Foundation. You will see there are others that we heartily recommend.  Please know that this resource section is incomplete -- yet with the other links provided in this Poetic Medicine Journal -- a still rich source of connection for you.

Hospice Foundation of America

Hospice Foundation of America provides leadership in the development and application of hospice and its philosophy of care with the goal of enhancing the U.S. healthcare system and the role of hospice within it.

To Learn More:  CLICK HERE


Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation is dedicated to furthering the legacy and work of pioneering legend, Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross is considered one of the most influential people and important minds of the last century. Her personal grit and determination forever changed how the world treats its dying. Her tireless efforts to assure that those who are dying be treated with compassion and dignity have now become the standard in end of life care. Dr. Ross taught the world that dying was actually about living and that our work here was to learn how to love unconditionally.
(From the website of The Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Foundation).

To Learn More:  CLICK HERE 


 
Poetry As Therapy 
... from a paper entitled "The Little Sounds of Grief:  Poetry and Grief" by William Lamers, MD, former HFA Medical Consultant.

To Read It:   CLICK HERE

The Living/Dying Project

Exploring healing in the context of critical illness...

Non-denominational spiritual support for those faced with a life-threatening illness and their families. The Next Step program is a four-week, introductory program for persons who are newly diagnosed with a life-threatening illness. Clients will learn skills to cope with stress and begin the journey of spiritual healing. The Open Circle program provides one-to-one support for a person with a life-threatening illness. Support is available to our client's caregivers.

 

Dale Borglum is the founder and Executive Director of The Living/Dying Project. He is a pioneer in the conscious dying movement and has worked directly with thousands of people with life-threatening illness and their families for over 30 years. In 1981, Dale founded the first residential facility for people who wished to die consciously in the United States, The Dying Center. He has taught and lectured extensively on the topics of spiritual support for those with life-threatening illness, on caregiving as a spiritual practice, and on healing at the edge, the edge of illness, of death, of loss, of crisis.

 

To Learn More:   CLICK HERE

   

 

The Metta Institute

 

Metta Institute® was established to provide education on spirituality in dying. Inspired by the Buddhist tradition, we encourage the integration of the spiritual dimensions of living, dying and transformation, through professional training, educational programs and materials.

 

Our Institute was formed in 2004 as an outgrowth of the Zen Hospice Project (ZHP) and nationally recognized as a pioneering model in the movement to improve end-of life care. Our Director, Frank Ostaseski, helped form ZHP in 1987, and guided the program for 17 years.

 

Currently, the Metta Institute's primary program is the End-of-Life Practitioner Program. The goal of the innovative training is to establish a national network of educators, advocates and guides for those facing life-threatening illness and the individuals and systems that serve them.

 

To Learn More:   CLICK HERE 

 

 

The Compassionate Friends:   

       Supporting Family After a Child Dies 

 

"The Compassionate Friends is about transforming the pain of grief into the elixir of hope.  It takes people out of the isolation society imposes on the bereaved and lets them express their grief naturally.  With the shedding of tears, healing comes.  And the newly bereaved get to see people who have survived and are learning to live and love again."   ~ Simon Stephens, found of The Compassionate Friends

  

To Visit the Compassionate Friends' Website:  CLICK HERE 

 

 

 

Cathy Sosnowsky of British Columbia is a long time friend of John Fox's and The Institute for Poetic Medicine. Cathy wrote a moving book of poems titled, Holding On: Poems for AlexIt is about the life of her beloved son Alex and the journey of grief she traveled following Alex's death from accidental falling at the age of 17. Cathy is a leader in Compassionate Friends in the western part of Canada.

 

"This book captures the fragmentation of one's life during grief, and the painful and painstaking journey to reassemble the pieces into a coherent but very different whole." ~ Jan Bryant, Bereaved Mother and Grief Counselor

 

To Learn More About This Book:   CLICK HERE 

 

 

Open to Hope Foundation:  Finding Hope After Loss

"Open to Hope grew out of the death of our 17 year-old son and brother, Scott, who was killed in a car crash and is dedicated to his memory. Our mission is to give a voice to grief and support those looking for hope. If you have lost hope we invite you to lean on ours until you find your own."  ~Gloria & Heidi Horsley

 

Open to Hope offers a wide range of resources, community forums, events, books and radio programs that speak to grief, loss and finding hope.  John Fox and his work with poetic medicine will be featured on a radio program in October.  Please check their website (below) for more specific information.  

 

To Learn More:  CLICK HERE



Levine Talks: Teachings  

       from Stephen & Ondrea Levine 

 

For over thirty-two years, Stephen and Ondrea Levine provided emotional and spiritual support for those who are life-threatened, and for caregivers. Through their healing and forgiveness workshops, many writings, and endless compassion, Stephen and Ondrea have touched the lives of thousands of people all over the world.

 

They are the authors of numerous books, including Who Dies, Embracing the Beloved, and A Year to Live, among others. Presently living in relative isolation in northern New Mexico, the levinetalks.com website is a way for Stephen and Ondrea to continue their teachings and connect with an outside audience.

 

To Visit the Website:    CLICK HERE 

To View Books by Stephen & Ondrea Levine:    CLICK HERE 

 

 

The Art of Grief:  The Use of Expressive Arts in a   

Grief Support Group (Series in "Death, Dying, and  

Bereavement"):

 

"The loss of a loved one often leaves behind the loose ends of grief."

~ Stephen Levine

 

Grief, art, and storytelling are an innate part of the human experience. Each of will grieve, or be grieved for, in our lifetimes. Arts has been a form of expressions for humans since the earliest times. Our history, experiences, loses, triumphs, and the essence of our psyche have been told stories throughout human history. Often the art and the myths found in many of our stories express that which cannot be expressed through mere words.

 

~ J. Earl Rogers, from the Introduction

 

To Learn More:  CLICK HERE

 

 

Dying, Bereavement, and the Healing Arts 

 

Dying, Bereavement and the Healing Arts is a celebration of the immense power of art. Dance, song, drumming and cave painting probably gained this power as people developed non-animal forms of communication. Being in genuine contact with others, and with the complexities of oneself, is to be fully alive, and to create is to be fully human. Dying bereavement and pain are, along with birth, the only certainties of life. So art has always focused on them - helping us to understand and live them to the full, rather than merely endure. Art helps in our struggling attempt to understand ourselves and our role in the world. We see through a glass darkly; the arts bring illumination.

 

~ Gillie Bolton, from the Introduction

 

To Learn More:  CLICK HERE


A Place of Healing:  Working with Nature and Soul at the End of Life by Dr. Michael Kearney

In this companion volume to Mortally Wounded:  Stories of Soul Pain, Death, and Healing, palliative care specialist Dr. Michael Kearney, demonstrates that while the medical model has undoubted strengths in easing pain, it is limited in its ability to alleviate the psychological and spiritual suffering that often accompanies terminal illness.  Complementing physical treatment with such depth approaches as dream work, poetry, divination, and a revitalized connection with nature, Kearney allows us to begin to integrate scientific and psychological metaphors. (From Amazon review)

Dr. Michael K. Kearney practices in Internal Medicine - Hospice & Palliative Medicine and Internal Medicine, Santa Barbara Cottage Hospital.

To View this Book on Amazon:  CLICK HERE 
 

Healing Touch

There are many body-oriented healing modalities that can assist those in hospice and palliative care.  One such modality is Healing Touch

Healing Touch is a relaxing, nurturing energy therapy.  Gentle touch assists in balancing your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.  Healing Touch works with your energy field to support your natural ability to heal.  It is safe for all ages and works in harmony with standard medical care.  (From the Healing Touch International website).

To Learn More About Healing Touch: CLICK HERE
To Read an Article From Healing Touch California:   CLICK HERE


 

 

 


JohnPoetry
John's Poetry on Themes of Grief and Opening the Heart,
Death and Dying, Surprise and Transition     

I wrote because poetry begins from the point
where the last word does not belong to death.

~ Odysseus Elytis


 

I want to share with you eight poems I've written.  They are my meditations on experiences of grief and loss, a sense of release and celebration, light and a sacred experience of surprise. 

 

I wrote "Children's Playground" (below) many, many years ago for my oldest sister, Holly. 

 

Holly, born with Down syndrome, possesses an equanimity, delight and sense of acceptance that transcends knowing. "God only knows about this changing season." 

 

Following this poem are links to both an Adobe and Preview PDF collection of the other 7 poems, with accompanying notes.  Perhaps you will find them useful and inspiring to you!  

      

Children's Playground

to Holly

 

Life is turning to fall,

And we must always reach up

Further to the sun.

One doesn't really adjust,

God only knows about this changing season.

 

It is peace enough to see

The leaves that fall with such ease

Around the people walking.

I see that the leaves,

Colored with both joy and sorrow,

Make a children's playground.

 

~ John Fox

 


Holly Fox 


To View The Other Seven Poems By John: 
 
For Adobe PDF Version:     CLICK HERE
For Preview PDF Version:   CLICK HERE

Note:  If you experience difficulty with opening or reading either of these PDF versions, please e-mail john at:  john@poeticmedicine.org  and he will send you a Word Document of them!  

 

JobCreative Employment Opportunity
With The Institute for Poetic Medicine 

Seeking Constant Contact Communication Designer 
for The Institute for Poetic Medicine
 
 
An Invitation to This Community

The Institute for Poetic Medicine is seeking an enthusiastic team member who would be interested in creating these Constant Contact communications.  This is a wonderful opportunity to collaborate with John and the growing community of poetry partners and supporters who are bringing this work to myriad populations, agencies, and settings in the United States and abroad. 

 

These e-mail communications are a vital stream that carry important news, announcements, upcoming events, training and educational opportunities, rich resources, and inspiring stories of how poetry is transforming lives. 

A familiarity with Constant Contact is desirable, although a willingness to learn the program will be considered.  Constant Contact does not require website knowledge or HTML coding.  It provides excellent online templates, tutorials and customer service that are easily mastered.  The creative possibilities for design, layout, colors, font types and complementary images are broad and inviting.  You need not be a graphic designer to do this work - although your attention to detail and quality is highly valued!      

 

This is an independent contractor position that may be accomplished from home on either a PC or Mac computer.  No special software or program is required.

If you are interested in learning more about this exciting opportunity, please contact John at:    john@poeticmedicine.org  

If you'd like to view the Constant Contact archive of former  
newsletters that we've created:    CLICK HERE 
 
If you'd like to learn more about Constant Contact:  CLICK HERE  

 

 

 

A Note Of Thanks From Melissa

It has been my pleasure to join in the creative process of merging vision, word and image to inform, inspire, invite and educate readers across the planet who are passionate about poetry as healer and good medicine for BodyMindSpirit.  For over 4 years I have welcomed the opportunity to offer my gifts of hand and heart to the birthing of these vital communications.    

This work has nourished my own journey as an interfaith spiritual director and hospice chaplain.  I am currently completing graduate work leading to licensure as a therapist.  The use of expressive arts is an essential and blossoming part of the work I engage in with diverse populations.  Poetry is always tucked into my portable basket of art supplies - and in the words I speak and the prayers I offer.  Creating an environment where individuals and groups can risk and experience the magic and mystery of their own poem-making is one of my greatest delights. 

It has been my good fortune to bless and be blessed in this work with John and The Institute for Poetic Medicine!

"If the only prayer you say in your life is thank you,

that would suffice."   

 

~ Meister Eckhart

 

 

   

A Deep Bow and Best Wishes to Melissa Layer

 

Satisfying a desire for a turkey-avocado sandwich from Quiznos does not usually promise more than a good lunch and the good fortune to purchase it.

 

Yet walking into the Quiznos on San Antonio Road in Palo Alto, there was Melissa Layer also having lunch and not so long after she had tucked into my classroom book bag a note of interest in the work of The Institute for Poetic Medicine. That lunch wasn't only about a sandwich, it was about generative synchronicity!

 

Meeting Melissa occurred at an auspicious time for The Institute for Poetic Medicine.  Ready for new growth and a keen desire to express who we are in a way that inspires and educates, her arrival to this work was a blessing.

 

IPM is a dynamic nonprofit with many colorful threads - a nationwide poetry partner outreach, a new poetry therapy training program, poetic

medicine brought to people and ground-breaking work within a wide-range of helping professions and institutions, as well as providing resources of books and links to individuals and organizations who also offer writing to heal.

 

An essential part of sharing our message is how we weave these threads into a whole single tapestry. For the past four years Melissa has given my vision of IPM the most creative, beautiful, professional and high-quality presentation I could have hoped for.  I enjoyed our working

together on different projects; and I am grateful for her discernment, attention to detail, technical patience, artistic sensibility and organizational skills.    

 

That she is now following a call to walk a path closer to her own calling is something I celebrate for her - and for those she will serve.  But for IPM this is a significant loss. I am fortunate I knew what I had before it was gone (paraphrasing Joni Mitchell), and now IPM (its board of directors) and I will deeply miss the fine work of Melissa Layer.

 

The grace-ful thing is that synchronicity is not limited in time nor in its abundant gift-giving capacity - so I am open to what and who might be, like me, deciding that it's once again time for lunch.  Or something like that!  I welcome anyone who might be interested in this paid contract position of Poetic Medicine communication design (utilizing Constant Contact) to contact me and the Institute at:  john@poeticmedicine.org.

   

 

 

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"John's workshop with the men truly supported them by helping them find their voice in expressing their personal life changing experiences while dealing with death and dying.  John assisted them in discovering the tool that healing words can be when sitting with a dying inmate, as well as the great gift that the power of listening can be for them.  The poetry that the men produced was powerful, poignant and heartfelt.  Thank you again for giving these marginalized men in our society an opportunity to experience the tenderness, fierceness and human qualities of life through the gift of poetry."

 

Ms. Lorie Adoff, MA 

Director of Spiritual Care Services

California Men's Colony Prison

San Luis Obispo, CA

  

   

 

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Peter
 The Last Word  
  

 
God is a river, not just a stone
God is a wild, raging rapids
And a slow, meandering flow
God is a deep and narrow passage
And a peaceful, sandy shoal
God is the river, swimmer
So let go

~ From the Refrain "God Is a River" by Peter Mayer ~

(Peter Mayer - from Website:  Click Here)

To See & Listen to Peter Singing "God Is a River" on
   YouTube: 
   CLICK HERE
 



VeryLastThe VERY Last Word!
A Planetary Experience of
Poetry in Motion...
   


 
Energy is eternal delight.
~ William Blake

Each day NASA posts a picture on their site.  The pictures are usually of outer space - beautiful and miraculous vistas of the cosmos.

On July 10th they posted a video which was taken of the surface of the planet.  Spend 5 minutes and see if it makes a difference for you!

To View An Amazing Video Showing a Uniquely Important Facet 
    of our Planet Earth:
    
CLICK HERE