Mother's Day is May 11 and perhaps some of you are getting anxious. You might "have" to visit your mother or "have" to talk to her on the phone and if you have "issues or conflicts" with her, it can be awfully uncomfortable.
I remember every time I sent flowers to my mother, the first thing she would say is "Don't send me flowers anymore because they always arrive looking dead." She never acknowledged that I was thinking of her, and it use to make me so angry. I wish I had EFT then to get through it.
Tapping can assist you to release the anxiety of being with your mother or talking to her on the phone.
Think about what really bugs you about your mother. Many of my clients say they never felt the love from their mothers because they were too narcissistic.
- Do you feel invalidated by her?
- Did you feel abandoned by her when you were a child?
- Do you feel unsafe sharing your success with her?
- Is she envious of your success?
- Are you still looking for her approval? (Big one!)
- Do you feel overwhelmed because you have to see or talk to her on Mother's Day?
If you said "yes" to one or all of these items, then EFT will help give you relief.
Remember...tapping releases seratoin and endorphins in the brain that brings you a peaceful mind.
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
I'm assuming most of you know EFT but if you don't, you can order Audios and DVD's at the above links.
The Set-Up ....rate from 0-10 (highest) intensity of the truth of this statement
If any of these statements don't ring true for you, use the words that do.
"I get frustrated when I talk to my mother because she is so ___________."
Tap on Karate Chop point...
"Even though I'm not looking forward to talking to my mother because she is so critical and I feel frustrated....I deeply accept myself anyway."
"Even though I am still hurt, she is so critical ,finds fault with me, I could never do anything right, I accept and love myself anyway."
"Even though I have felt so hurt for so long because she doesn't accept me the way I am... I am who I am and I'm doing the best I can to let that go."
Eyebrow: "Oh no, it's Mother's day, I'm not looking forward to talking to my mother...she'll expect something from me."
Side of Eye: "I'm still so hurt from all of her past actions"
Under Eye: "She never listens to me"
Under nose: "She always talks about herself"
Chin: "She never acknowledges my life"
Collarbone: "She doesn't even recognize I have a life"
Side of rib: "She's so critical; I'm not looking forward to seeing her"
Top of head: "No wonder why I feel the way I do"
Take a deep breath
Rate your intensity statement from 0-10
Notice what comes up for you and tap on it
Eyebrow-"I want her to listen to me"
Side of eye- "I'm tired of listening to "her story"
Under eye- "She always talks about herself"
Under nose"She never asks about my life"
Chin-"It feels like she doesn't even care"
Collarbone-"I don't matter"
Side of Rib-"Yes I do"
Top of Head"Even though she doesn't think I'm enough,I do and that's all that matters"
Take a deep breath
How do you feel in your heart?
As you are giving your voice a platform to say what's on your mind,you most likely will be feeling some relief.
Karate Chop Point
"Even though it might feel uncomfortable and frustrating to talk to my mother on Mother's Day, I am getting my boundaries in place and I feel safe"
"Even though just hearing her voice triggers all the hurt feelings inside, I choose to release the anger, she did the best she could at the time"
"Even though I'm still seeking her love and acceptance, and want her to listen to me, I choose to release it now, she gives these to me in her own way, I profoundly love and accept myself no matter what".
Eyebrow-"I am letting go of the pain from the past"
Side of eye-"She did the best she could"
Under Eye-"I don't need her acceptance anymore"
Under nose -"I'm accepting myself now"
Chin- "I choose to acknowledge who I am"
Collarbone-"I'm changing"
Side of Rib-"I appreciate who I am"
Top of Head-"I love feeling free of this and choose to see my own value"
Would you like more help with this issue?
I am excited to announce a Tapping Group will be held once a month on Thursdays beginning May 22 from 6:30-8pm.This group will be good for beginners as well as seasoned tappers. It will be a small group, no more than five people, so everyone will have a chance to work on their topics.The first group will be on "Mother Issues". If you are waiting for your mother's acceptance and still haven't gotten it or you just feel uneasy with her,this group is for you. It's time to make peace with yourself!
Each session is $40.There might be a monthy theme or just what comes up. As space is limited,reserve a spot as soon as possible.
917.847.0426
I look forward to seeing you at my office:
Park Ave Center for Well-Being
40 Park Avenue at 36th St
NY,NY 10016
Annie@RoadToEmotionalFreedom.com
www.RoadToEmotionalFreedom.com
If you would like to work with me individually either in person or on the phone, I invite you to give me a call.
Warmly,
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