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The fourth week of our Lenten journey addresses the use of time. In Simplifying the Soul, Paula Huston calls us to create more space on the calendar by dropping unneeded commitments. She also suggests some higher priorities for our use of the time newly made available. In particular, she urges us to allow more time for responding to others.
I love white space on the calendar, so I embrace the task of streamlining commitments. On the other hand, I like to use the increased freedom for self-indulgence. As an introvert, I use the opportunity to be alone and read, to take a solitary run, or to indulge in an extended nap. I definitely do not look forward more warmly to a telemarketer or welcome a knock on the door. My desire to simplify the schedule is all about me.
I was humbled by that discovery. Though I did not grow noticeably toward selflessness in one week, I did take the subject to heart. In particular, I reflected on my rude and dismissive approach to telemarketers, and my reluctance to answer the doorbell, (much less interact respectfully if I do).
How much time does it take to show kindness to those strangers? Not much. How much effort does it take to overcome resentment toward their interruptions? A lot. I interpret an unexpected call or doorbell as an affront, as I have something more important to do. Always. The other person has no respect for my privacy, and I am annoyed. Intensely.
All spiritual traditions make a priority of kindness. We are urged to respect and care for those in need, those who are poor, weak, and ill. We may not see the person at the door or on the phone in that light, but what if we did? They are making a living. They are raising funds for a cause important to them. They are sharing the good news of their religious tradition. Does my religious tradition teach me to slam down the phone or ignore the doorbell when it rings? Not really.
How do you deal with interruptions? Do you hoard your time and resent those who would intrude, or do you respond with generosity and sensitivity when the occasion arises? Might it be worth taking another look and trying a different approach?
I intend to give it a try. | 
