We all complain. The weather is lousy. The neighbors are thoughtless. The price is too high. The kids are slobs. The boss is a jerk. The freeway's a mess. etc.

Most of us feel when we're complaining we're just speaking our minds.  When we complain we are focusing on what is wrong with our lives instead of what's right.  We can also use complaints as excuses.  "It's too hard" 

In his new book "A Complaint Free World," Reverend Will Bowen writes, "If you are saying things like  'Everyone in my family is fat,' 'I'm not coordinated', 'My father told me I'd never amount to anything,' you are making yourself a victim. Victims don't become victors. You can choose which you want to be."

Complaining undermines your health. It creates stress in your life.  According to Forbes, all of the seven top-selling drugs in the United States are for illnesses exacerbated by stress. Americans are so stressed out we spend over $30 billion a year on these drugs.  

Laura says: Worse than that - the more you talk about , and remind yourself again and again, about a negative event again, or difficult people, or your own imperfections, the more these thoughts become ingrained in your mind set. Thoughts become habits,  spiraling deeper into the unconscious,  creating attitudes and unwanted spontaneous emotional reactions.      

"Focus on what works not what doesn't work".