Loving Transformation
Transformation involves a shift from within which can be very freeing. Many times this shift is in an attitude, belief or point of view. One powerful transformative emotion is love.
A weekly email service I received at one time from Bill Crawford said, "There are two ways to make someone important in our lives...we can either love them or hate them." He went on to explain about how much power we can give to the "difficult" people in our lives and how much stress that can cause in our own lives.
Usually, if we are asked about how important we want to make that particular person in our lives on a one to ten scale...then answer is zero! And yet in reality, by letting them "drive us crazy" or "make us angry" or "stress us out," we are giving them the power to "make us" feel a certain way or control us.
Toni Packer says, "The emergence and blossoming of understanding, love and intelligence has nothing to do with any tradition - no matter how ancient or impressive - it has nothing to do with time. It happens completely on its own when a human being questions, wonders, listens and looks without getting stuck in fear. When self-concern is quiet, heaven and earth are open."
This means you have the options of creating an image where the difficult person is being their old predictable self, and seeing yourself choosing to respond in a way that has you in control of your emotions and experience of life. Responding with a new creativity, perhaps looking through compassionate eyes and seeing the person as frightened instead of frightening.
You have made the shift to taking more responsibility for how lovingly you react...also practicing to reduce their ability to effect your life while increasing your own influence. You are dealing with them in a way that neither requires them to change nor makes them the focus of your life.
This is a practice which will eventually develop into a skill. Meister Eckhart says, "Practice equality in human society. Learn to love, esteem, consider all people like yourself. What happens to another, be it bad or good, pain or joy, ought to be as if it happened to you."
The practice of Reiki can help, especially generous use of the mental-emotional symbol on ourselves, especially heart, throat & brow chakras, as well as on the relationships we have with those around us.
