Maybe you Could Learn Something Here.

The simplest things in life are always the hardest things to accomplish sometimes because the answer is hiding in the perfect place, it's not in front of us, it hides within us. About 90% of the time we actually know the answer or how to properly handle something, but we can't slow down, we are overly angry, excited, determined, and become wreckless with our own lives and we just plunge on at the expense of ourselves and others and refuse to pay attention to what is going on inside of us because we are to focused on what is going on outside.

Unfortunately, some of us with some things in life have to learn the hard way, because only when it hurts, when it stings, when it FORCES us to slow down do we actually pay attention and finally LISTEN! Listen with our hearts and not just our minds, because that is what it takes for something to be impactful, we have to find a way to get it to affect us emotionally in the right way. If we can do this we can accomplish so much more in our lives by making the right decisions and avoiding the wrong ones and leading ourselves down the right paths.

The other part of this is simple, so I won't elaborate too much. Have you ever heard anyone or have you said this yourself, "I tried to tell you, but you just wouldn't listen" Now really think on this. We have all been in a situation where we knew FACTUALLY that what one of our friends or family members was going to do or considering doing was a bad idea and would leave them unfulfilled, or damage their life in some way and cause pain that would only have to then go through a healing or re building process, whether it was financial, relational, or physical. The answer is YES!!! Come on!! Admit it. 

The sad thing is you have also been the other person on the flip side of the coin NOT LISTENING to someone who cares about you and you got hurt. Why didn't you listen?

Because you think you are different, better, smarter, cooler, stronger, faster, wealthier, smoother, weaker, have no options,...... whatever!!! Who cares, we are all humans and if we didn't have nearly everything in common when it comes down to it and want and need virtually all the same things emotionally, physically, and financially we wouldn't even be able to function as a society and interact. So speak up, don't stay quiet, and when spoken to on this level, take it into consideration instead of blowing it off. Do not repeat the mistake and do it again either, do we really need to make the same mistake multiple times to learn? Apparently yes, but it doesn't need to be this way. Why do 85% of second marriages fail in the first 4 to 5 years? Because they go through the honeymoon stage again, fall in love, get settle in but all along have been making and continue to make the same exact mistakes, only with someone else in different ways or situations, but the core of the issues are the same and we didn't learn from the past or take the time to reflect and contemplate, we just move on to the next : job, relationship, hobby, obsession, and so on.

You know this to be true. You have told someone "I told ya so" so next time, when someone says " I wouldn't do that, please don't do it, consider the alternative and the consequences" Wake up, go through it, try to view yourself in their shoes knowing something that for instance you knew and told someone not to do, and pretend like you are on the other side.

If you can do this, and slow down, think it through, and wait and let some time pass you may find that this knee jerk reaction you had was just that and that you no longer care about that thing, or you are going to do it differently or do something entirely different. Now if that thing that you were told not to do remains so passionate and deep rooted and there is no voice in your head telling you to back out, then chances are it may be in your specific situation the right thing that you have to do, like it, love it, or not. Either way be prepared for what is to come if thing don't go your way, learn from your mistakes, and just as important learn from others whenever you possibly can.

You will find yourself in life in situations all the time with the decision to forge forward or back out, and neither is the wrong answer all the time, it depends on how you got there and where either will take you.

I will leave it at this. Use the law of attraction, visualize, feel, and harness what you want, bring it to an emotional state within you, and the right path will show itself to you. When it shows itself, be brave, and take it and along the way as you proceed listen to what others have to say, and consider it all, don't necessarily let them talk you in or out of something but deeply consider their words and your own internal voice and you will succeed at what you were suppose to learn.

Failure is not failure, it is learning, and learning is a part of life so that you can get to where you want to be in life. You can never stay the same, you will always be moving, just make sure you are moving forward and not backwards, and always keep an eye on the rearview mirror and remember the roads you have driven down.