Point is this. I had a lot of issues, I was money hungry, overworked myself into an insatiable lust and need for more more more so everyone thought I was the king. I got my ex wife plastic surgery, new teeth, cosmetic this and that and supported her to become a fitness instructor and not have a "real job", bought her fancy things and new cars and trips to make up for a lot of my own shortcomings, I went to marriage counseling, but I was not truly in a place to receive and to change. I was to convinced I was awesome. I spent every last dime I had to keep the whole thing together until it all came crashing down. Then I went to marriage counseling, and personal counseling, anger management, landmarkeducation .com, seminars, read many books, meditated, got in amazing shape, sold 65% of my stuff and turned it around and applied what I had learned to manifest abundance in my life, and this is why I want to share it with you as a loyal subscriber. So read on.
Why wait until your car breaks down in the middle of the desert? You don't do this! You get your oil changed, you have a shop inspect it and replace the breaks, tune the motor, etc. Why would we not do this with our own lives, yes most think counseling is only for those with major problems, and guess what, if we all don't maintain our lives, eventually we will all have major problems, just like if we don't maintain our cars or homes!! and then it costs and costs and hurts, and the roof leaks, or your motor catches on fire, or worse, and is not necessary to let it get to that! If anything in life is worth spending money on it is your well being, mental health, marriage, relationships, and more right?
That was the old me. Once I woke up, after a lot of therapy, support by my family, and time reading books, about 16 of them, I saw the world in a whole new light. I saw all that I did to my wife mentally even though I thought I was the perfect husband and provider, and I saw that in business even, I got lucky, I was on with my timing, and I harnessed the power of others that were each brilliant in their own way and connected them together for mergers, partnerships, winning tri fectas, and more and I thought this made me "great". How wrong I was.
I understand what I am good at now, and I if I think I know something I don't, I put myself in check and I go read, study, talk to an expert in that field or hire someone that is a professional with years or a whole decade of experience there and I give them an equity stake so they are vested with me on my team. If I am having personal trouble, I stop, slow down, back up, look over my steps, and try and figure out where I went wrong, and I go get help to ensure I'm on the right track before I forge forward again.
I no longer think I know everything at all. I am a changed person and I want any of you reading this to understand, it is ok not to know what the hell you are doing!! That is life, it always changes and throws curve balls at us and down points usually get us down and then that leads to the law of attraction bringing on new even bigger downs at the same time. You have to break the cycle and answer back with positive thoughts and actions and solutions, and manifest abundance.
If you can learn how to admit when you don't know something or are totally lost or maybe messed up and need help in anything in life, whether it's business, your personal relationships, finances, something mechanical, hey go find someone who has been there before. Don't just overly ambitiously go on full speed ahead and take random stabs at everything in life thinking you can do it all, because that is not how greatness is achieved. Yes, keep moving forward, but move forward at a safe pace that is productive and with the proper tools in hand for the job whatever it may be, mental, physical, spiritual, or any other type of endeavor. This way you won't learn from all your own mistakes, as life is too short for that, and you don't need to lose it all every time to wake up and learn like I did. Don't wait until it is too late, recognize what your wheel house is and let others help you when the topic at hand is in their wheel house, and be there for them when they need you. We are all human and have all the same problems.
Both sides of the fence are hard in life. Being single is hard living without someone to share your life with, but it's scary to be married because they can leave you or even take your kids or family from you, but doesn't mean it's not worth it. Having no money is not an option, you need to live, but having a lot of money means you can overcomplicate your life and have a break down or tough economy and lose it all and then be miserable because you know what you are missing out on.
You have to figure it out for yourself, what makes you happy. Figure this out. Find your values, and live by them. People who live by their values tend to live a fulfilled life almost always, even if something traumatic takes place in their life. Finding what your values are is a hard thing, and living by them is another.
For me it is God (I'm a Christian), family, friends, and freedom and power. For me freedom and power means having enough money to be safe and secure and comfortable and being free to go travel or live where I like and see my family, friends, kids when I would like to. It means not being controlled by a job or work that I cannot take time off from and cannot work on the road and it means not buying so much stuff that if I quit making a ton of money, I'm bankrupt in a year.
It all is a balance. You can't think, oh, I have conflicting ideologies, my values are family, friends, freedom, power. Ok, then if I don't work and make money I won't have stuff to control or hold me back to pay for, and I can have all the free time in the world to be with friends and family......??? Wrong!! If you don't work and have money and make a living you can't live you will be homeless and have no freedom as you will be sick, ill, and begging for survival and scared of where you next meal or shelter will be or come from.
Life is a balancing act. When it is out of balance, identify why you think it is and then find someone you can trust who is an expert in that area. Even if they are going to cost you a bit of money, the money, time, agony, and pain they will save you and the freedom, knowledge and power you will gain will pay you back 100 fold.
In ending, I know have 3 nice, but low maintenance homes, a great new girlfriend I might marry someday and have more kids with, and I get to see my kids and have come to peace with my past and forgiven myself for my short comings and also not given myself to much credit for my blessings and successes. I am lucky, bless, and forever fortunate to be here writing this to share with you because honestly I nearly gave up on my life at one point. It is funny how when things are going great we always take credit ourselves for it, but when something nearly kills us it's everyone else's fault and everything around us is to blame. Why is this? What is the only common denominator? Yes, unfair things happen, sometimes we won't get a second chance with some people or some things, and we are wronged. It is always up to you what you do with those circumstances. You can let it knock you down and never get up to recover, or you can use it as fuel and learn from it to never let it happen again and build yourself back 100 times stronger.
I don't pretend that I know it all anymore, and I re invented my life with others help and built a "life team" of individuals who I consider my partners in life to help me carry out my goals in each facet of life here on earth: financial advisor, attorney, pastor, counselor, church group/divorce group, friends, family, contractor, real estate buddy, mechanic, and so on. I offer trades on a lot of things to help them with online or technology issues and let them know I am there for them like they are for me. We charge eachother fair rates, and my friends and family well we are just their for one another. Build this network in your life and it will carry you all the way.
I'll end with a few quotes
"Do not mistake knowledge for wisdom, one helps you make a living, one helps you make a life"
"Wisdom is failure learned, and success is learned from failure, therefore to increase your success rate, increase your failure rate, but remember life is to short to learn from all your own mistakes, only make the ones you must on your own when in unchartered territory"
"Only those who dare to fail greatly, can ever truly achieve greatness"
"Believe in who you are, you are the only one of your kind, and if you don't like something about yourself, you are in control, so find a way to change it"
All the best,
