January E-Newsletter
Volume 6                                                      Edition 1
In This Issue
AdoptUsKids
CT Heart Gallery
Suggested Reading
Lending Library
Open House Schedule
Support Groups
News and Items of Interest
Star of the Month
Youth Excellence Project
A Little Humor
Youth Facts
Contact Us
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Adoptive Parents
Waiting Children
Please click on the AdoptUSKids logo to view CT's children and youth waiting to be adopted who are registered with AdoptUSKids.
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CT Heart Gallery
Please click on logo to view the write-ups and videos of CT's children and youth waiting to be adopted. (These children and youth may be different from the ones listed on the AdoptUSKids site.) 
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Suggested Reading


Books on Foster Care And Adoption

 

Click here to download a PDF file containing an updated comprehensive list of books on foster care and adoption topics, including childrens' books.

Have we forgotten one of your favorite books? Please let us know and we will be happy to add it to the list.

 

Lending Library


 Region 5 Lending Library

Please check out the titles available to families. Included in the list of 60 titles are a number of great books for young children as well as teens. If you would like any information regarding any of these books Amazon carries all of them and publishes synopses on them.
Families are welcome to borrow titles for up to one month.

Details are available by clicking here.  

 

 

Open House Schedule
Want to learn more about foster/adoptive parenting? 

 

Prospective foster and adoptive parents are welcome at any Open House listed on our website. Please call one of the regional coordinators listed at the bottom of this newsletter or

for more information or to schedule an individual appointment.

 Click here for the most current listing of open houses/ information meetings across the state.  

Our Monthly Support Groups
Foster Care Alumni Support Group 
211 Schraffts Dr #A5 
Waterbury  1st Thursday, 6-8pm

Building Blocks Club 

211 Schraffts Dr #A5 
Waterbury
3rd Thursday, 4-5:30pm

Relative Caregiver Support Group
   
211 Schraffts Dr # A5   
3rd Wednesday, 6:30-8:30pm 
No childcare.

Relative Caregiver Support Group 
211 Schraffts Dr # A6  
4th Monday, 10am
No childcare. 

**Be sure to RSVP for groups by calling 475-235-2184
 
Quick Links
January 23, 2015


Hopefully, mid-terms are over in your household. I know I am glad to see my kids' stress levels return to normal. As an adoptive mom, I know that for our kids, returning to predictable routines is so important.

Last fall we sent out a survey to Region 5 families (greater Torrington, Waterbury and Danbury areas) asking for your opinions regarding our annual Quassy Day. Close to 68% of you said you would be more likely to attend if the event was held on a Sunday. We heard you so we have moved the event to Sunday, August 2. Save the date!

Check out the Youth Excellence Project info below. This is an AMAZING program and fabulous opportunity for a young man. A few spots remain open for this coming year. Be sure to send in an application on behalf of a youth in care if you are interested.

Fosterclub All-Stars are also accepting applications til February 20. A number of CT youth have participated in past years and speak highly of the program. For youth ages 18-24, this is a unique opportunity to learn and be of service while traveling the country. The link is in our
News and Items of Interest.

Lastly, our friends at CAFAP are hosting their annual Avenue of Dreams event on March 7th - a fabulous day for young ladies! To learn more click here.

Looking forward to warmer days! Stay safe this weekend.


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News and Items of Interest
Calendar
 Click on the calendar at right to see upcoming events. 

Check out all the great information we've been posting on our collaborative Facebook page this past month!
  •  Have you read the Connecticut Foster Care Manual? FosterAdopt: Foster Care Manual
  • So simple, yet effective! Games That Encourage the Habit of Noticing Other's Needs
  • New study results regarding group home placements. Although not yet replicated by other studies, this study sees marked differences in outcomes between males and females. When One Size Doesn't Fit All: Differing Outcomes for Foster Children in Group Homes
  • Quoted from the "You Gotta Believe" Page: "This is an important article. Even when we celebrate adoption for youth who truly need a family, adoption at any age is ALWAYS preceded by profound loss that must be acknowledged, heard and addressed in whatever way is best for each individual child, youth or adult.
    This is why so much of our work is focused helping youth connect to their families of origin and to help them heal by helping them to integrate the many facets of their history. It is also why it is essential for adoptive parents to listen to and support their children in whatever level of knowledge, re-connection and reunion they need, at whatever pace they need it. At best, adoption is about expanding a child or youth's family...not replacing it." Please don't tell me I was lucky to be adopted.
  •  Kudos to these CT foster/adoptive families! Adoption Success Stories in Middletown
  • So eloquently stated~ Learn to see reunification through different eyes
  • Do you know a teen who may qualify?
    FOSTERCLUB ALL-STARS: The FosterClub All-Star Program provides leadership and service opportunities to young people ages 18-24 who have spent their formative years in foster care. For these young adults, who have beaten the odds and thrived in spite of difficult circumstances, the All-Star internship is an opportunity to communicate their unique perspectives and share their resilient spirits with their younger peers still struggling through foster care. In addition to participating in dozens of youth events across the country over the summer, the FosterClub All-Stars advocate for system improvement and promote public awareness nationally throughout the year.
    If you are an alumni of care, please apply! Be sure to spread this info with folks who may be interested!
    Looking for an awesome summer opportunity? FosterClub is now accepting applications through Feb 20 for the All-Stars internship! 2015 All-Star Application 
Star of the Month
Star of the Month  
Each month one of our member agencies honor a family or volunteer -  a "star" whose service to children or care of children deserves special recognition.
 
Stars receive a small gift from the community collaborative and a certificate of appreciation from the nominating agency.  This month, we share a family from our partners at FAVOR.

Bugs is a happy-go-lucky kid. He is one of those kids who would rather skip then walk. His laugh will fill a whole room and you can't help but smile just from hearing it.

At the age of four, this carefree, happy boy started to change. He would shut down and go blank in the face when asked to do something he didn't want to do. This same little boy was not like other kids his age. He wasn't potty trained nor could he talk so people could understand him. His older sister was often his interpreter to the world. Then behaviors started spilling over to day care and to school. He was biting people and the dysfunctional behaviors were getting worse.   Bug's "temper tantrums" had become so extreme it reached a point where he had to be hospitalized. This cute little four year old boy who couldn't even put a straw in a milk carton was now in a room with four white walls. His parents, who were separated, started questioning each others parent skills and blamed each other for his behavior. He returned to school and the matters were just the same.

Finally, the school could not handle Bugs any longer so a neuropsychological evaluation was ordered. The neuropsych provided the family with multiple diagnoses that would help them understand their baby boy better. Among the diagnoses was PDD-NOS. Back then the family wasn't exactly sure what this diagnosis meant for the little boy they loved so much. They struggled on their own for a while. After a couple more hospitalizations the family was referred to a Favor Family Advocate. The advocate helped them navigate the different systems: school, hospital, and home. The advocate worked with both parents and helped them to understand what to expect. They were informed about their rights. Bugs' parents worked hard and became empowered to search out variety of treatments. Things didn't always work as they hoped but they did not give up. They would just try something else. They learned what it meant to have a child on the Autism Spectrum and how they had to parent their child. They implemented a behavior system and work on coping skills for when he is upset.

Bugs is now nine years old and has been home and not in a hospital for over a year. He is in a public school and learning to have friends.   Instead of worrying about handling temper tantrums, the parents are worried about how he is going to handle having a crush on a girl! Bugs even started swimming lessons. The parents feel empowered and hopeful for the future. They know that there will be bumps in the road, but now they can handle it. Bugs' story shows what a family can do if provided support and encouragement. His parents are proud of the growth in their family and let us know how they are doing. We are so proud of them and the changes they were able to implement. They changed the course of their son's life. This is why we have nominated this family as Star of the Month.

At FAVOR, we consider this just one of our many great success stories! 

Sarah AnnisHaynes
Family Advocate
Favor, Inc.

 

     

Youth Excellence Project
What is the Youth Excellence Project?

 

The Youth Excellence Project (YEP) is a program for male youth ages 13-15 who are in foster care, congregate care, or an independent living facility in Connecticut. Participating youths partake in 2 half-day workshops or activities per month leading up to a weeklong adventure trip in the Channel Islands National Park in Santa Barbara, CA. The mission of YEP is To empower youth who have endured significant life challenges to experience success, navigate life obstacles, and emerge as adults committed to the betterment of society.

 


What Happens when the Year is Complete?

Youth will be encouraged to remain involved in the program as peer leaders.

 

Who is eligible?
  • Male youth ages 13-15
  • DCF committed
  • Currently residing in long-term foster care, congregate care, or an independent living facility in Connecticut
  • Permission from legal guardian (DCF) to participate in the California trip
How are Youth Chosen?

Eligible youth will be selected carefully based on (a) evidence of the youth's interest and enthusiasm in the project, (b) the fit between the youth's needs and what the program has to offer, and (c) evidence that the structure of the program is appropriate given the youth's challenges. Nominations due by January 31st. 

Click here to visit the website. 

 

2015 Nomination form   **Please note: updated age range is 13-15 years old.

 

 Check out this video about the project and how it has changed young men's lives!
The Youth Excellence Project
The Youth Excellence Project

 

A Little Humor
 
 
Youth Facts
 
Contact Information for CT's Community Collaboratives

Region 5 Community Collaborative:
Deb Kelleher 203.706.0101
 Email  
 
Greater New Haven Area Community Collaborative:
Laura Rainey   Email  

Hearts, Hands & Homes  (Central/SE CT): Alana Jones 860.710.1593  Email