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 Everyday from the moment we wake up, we live our lives caring what other people think of us. We accept the status quo for what it is because everyone around us does. We tip toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others, not because it's what we believe in. Eventually our actions, appearances, and lives become moulded by how we think other people perceive us. How are these pants going to make me look? What will my colleagues think if I spoke out? Are those people talking shit behind my back? If I take this job, what will my friends and family think of me? Living a life that follows the ideal notions of what other people think is a terrible way to live. It makes you become the spineless spectator who waits for other people to take action first. It makes you become a follower.
We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is those people are thinking the exact same thing. No one in today's "smartphone crazed" society has time in their schedule to think more than a brief second about us. The fact of the matter is, when we do have time get our thoughts straight, we're too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings, not others.
 A study done by the National Science Foundation claims that people have on average 50, 000 plus thoughts a day. This means that even if someone thought about us ten times in one day, it's only 0.02% of their overall daily thoughts.
"You'll worry less about what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do." David Foster Wallace
It is a sad but simple truth that the average person filters their world through their ego, meaning that they think of most things relating to "me" or "my." This means that unless you have done something that directly affects another person or their life, they are not going to spend much time thinking about you at all.
Even when provided the blatantly obvious opportunity to judge someone, people are still thinking about how others may perceive them. Once you understand that this is how people's mind works, it's a big step towards freedom. You can't please everyone. It's impossible to live up to everyone's expectations. There will always be people no matter what we say or how we treat them, that will judge us. Whether you're at the gym, at work, taking the train, or even online playing Call of Duty. Even now it's happening. You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can stop it from affecting you.
 Think about the worst thing that could possibly happen when someone is judging you or what you're doing. I guarantee that chances are, nothing will happen. Absolutely nothing. No one is going to go out of their busy lives to confront us, or even react for that matter. Because as I mentioned before, no one actually cares. What will happen, is that these people will actually respect you for claiming your ground. They may disagree with you, but they'll respect you. Read on to find out how to reclaim your freedom! 
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 If you are on a roller coaster in your life, it may be time to do a little "people, places & things" housecleaning to get the energy vampires off your back. Here's a bunch of ways to spot and stop the horrible highs and lows brought on by energy suckers in your home & your life!! Click here to find out Ways To Protect Your Energy From Vampires.
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We're All Guilty - Reclaim Your Freedom Continued. . .
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 1. Know your values - First and foremost. You need to know what's important to you in life, what you truly value, and what you're ultimately aiming for. Once you know who you really are and what matters to you, what other people think of you become significantly less important. When you know your values, you'll have something to stand up for something you believe in. You'll stop saying yes to everything. 2. Put yourself out there - Now that you know what your values are, it's time to put yourself out there. This can be done several ways. Here are a few suggestions:
- Blogging
- Wearing a polka dot sweater
- Public Speaking
- Flirting/Asking someone out
Keep in mind that when you're doing any of these activities, you have to speak your mind. Be honest with yourself and what you share, because the world doesn't need another conflict avoider who does what everyone else does. 3. Surround yourself with pros - Surround yourself with people who are self-assured, and live life without comprising their core values. These people will rub off on you quickly.  4. Create a "Growth List" - A Growth List is comprised of all the things in life that makes you uncomfortable. These are fears, insecurities anything that gives you the jitters. Here's how it works. You start by writing all the things that make you feel uncomfortable. Then one by one, you do them. Once you complete the task, you move on to the next. Repeat. This exercise does wonders. You can read all the books in the world about being confident or getting over your fears, but if you don't take action, you're just someone who's read how to ride a bicycle without ever having ridden one. Source: Sean Kim in Life Hacking
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March Message
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Hello Friends!
People Pleasers- that's what this month's message is all about. Aren't we all people pleasers to some degree? Of course, some of that is good, relationships can thrive on two partners that are trying to please each other. But balance is the key- too much pleasing and we can start to feel resentful, overwhelmed and angry. If this sounds like you, then you will enjoy the musings on how to put your people pleasing personality to work for you, and not against you- (I especially like the idea of a "Growth List").
Along with the app of the month "Feel Good Tracker", and an extra hour of daylight, you should be in good shape to begin spring!
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App of the Month
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 Improve your well-being by recording and rating your activities with the Feel Good Tracker!
Everyone knows that doing activities you love can contribute to a happy and healthy lifestyle. Instead of allowing the stresses of daily life to overshadow your well-being, record the activities that make you feel good with the intuitive Feel Good Tracker.
This unique application includes an easy-to-use activity log and star rating system to help you focus on the positive activities in your daily life and take control of your own happiness. You can use the calendar event feature to schedule an activity in iCal and take photos to capture your most memorable moments. You can highlight your favorite places or record the site of your latest adventure by adding your location with the simple pin-drop GPS feature. Most importantly, you can e-mail or tweet your entries with the touch of a button and share what you love with your family and friends. These features make it easy to customize your Feel Good Tracker experience and enjoy the impact of positive activities on your daily life.
Use it to motivate yourself to reach a goal, record your efforts towards better physical and mental health, or just plain feel better every day. Whether you like to play chess or run marathons, the Feel Good Tracker is the perfect way to remember your favorite activities and discover what truly makes you happy.
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