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We've just posted more resiliency resources for you to use!
  October, 2014  

Recent newsletter articles that are still very relevant NOW have just been posted on the Resiliency In Action Website. You can access any of this important information by clicking on the titles below:

"How Building Resiliency is Bully Prevention"

"Race and Resiliency: What does the research say?"

"The Cutting Edge of Resiliency Research: Resiliency and the Brain"

"The Resiliency-Based Military Program that is Reducing Military Suicides"

"Practices That Develop Authentic Self-Esteem in Children and Youth"

In addition, we've just posted a video on YouTube explaining what fostering resiliency REALLY means and how understanding the definition of resiliency immediately changes how we relate to those we teach, those we help, and even those in our own family!

CLICK HERE TO SEE THE YOUTUBE VIDEO: What does the term Resiliency really mean?

And I recently found THE BEST parenting book I have ever read that integrates the resiliency research...actually, it is the best parenting book of any kind I have read in a long time. Details are included below!

Finally, don't miss our FALL RESILIENCY RESOURCE SALE: Purchase a quantity of books and get our new RESILIENCY WEBINAR free.

"The Dolphin Way: A Parent's Guide to Raising Healthy, Happy, and Motivated Kids" integrates the resiliency model
Shimi Kang, M.D., a Harvard-educated psychiatrist has written one of the best parenting books I have ever read, and one in alignment with resiliency research. In the book Dr. Kang challenges the myth that "tiger parenting" will lead our children to the outcomes we all desire. Instead, she quotes relevant, recent social science research that shows "the push for early overachievement (which seems to be earlier and earlier) has placed children at greater risk for burnout, family stress, insomnia, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and substance abuse" (pp. 34 - 35).

She details "what happens to children raised by tigers": These children experience a lack of "the basics of life" -- sleep, sunlight, exercise, and nutrition. In addition, "tiger parenting of children" results in "social skills and social bonding deficits"; physical injuries; "deficits in character" such as cheating and other unethical behaviors; substance use and addiction; and mental-health problems, self-harm, and even suicide. She notes, for example, "Compared with college students in the 1930s and 1940s, recent college students score significantly higher on the clinical scales for depression, hypomania, paranoia, and psychopathic deviation. A shocking five times as many young people now score above common cutoffs for psychopathology" (p. 61).

One of the most fascinating parts of this book is Dr. Kang's comparison of the impact of high-pressure Asian cultures, where "the suicide rate is skyrocketing for college students" and very laid-back, balanced, nurturing Finland. Young people from both cultures do equally well on international student testing. She notes that "Asian parents are right: if you drill your kids hard enough, they can rise to the top. The sleepless nights, the drudgery, the countless sacrifices [of a balanced life]...can be expected to pay off in the end." But students in Finland do just as well on international tests and "it has an educational system that's the complete opposite of the authoritarian systems" (p.82). She adds that the Finish educational system spends 30 percent less on each student than is spent in the U.S. "The Finnish system works because it's in sync with how humans truly learn and yearn to live: through a balanced life that values play, exploration, social connection, and collaboration" (p. 83).

Furthermore, tiger parenting doesn't provide kids with the "essential twenty-first-century skills identified by more than 250 researchers from sixty different institutions worldwide." These skills, the most critical for success in the workplace everywhere are:

  1. Creativity - identified by "today's business leaders" as the "most important competency for the future."
  2. Critical thinking - asking the right questions vs. knowing the right answers.
  3. Communication - being able to express "thoughts effectively and in different media."
  4. Collaboration - "being able to learn from and inspire other while working as a team" ( p. 85).

Why then the dolphin? "At the top of the ocean's food chain is actually a dolphin. The orca is the world's most powerful top-level predator. But unlike solitary hunters such as tigers, sharks, and polar bears, orcas are highly social and collaborative, making them all the more powerful" (p. 97). She calls the dolphin "a model of health, happiness, and success" (p. 95).

Parenting skills Dr. Kang recommends human parents take from dolphins include:

  • Create a "balanced life" that includes "playing freely, exploring bravely, bonding socially, and contributing wholeheartedly" (p. 113).
  • "Give your child some free time" (p. 123).
  • Emphasize and model good nutrition, sleep, breathing, and excercise.
  • Encourage and model play, "it's in our nature" (p.145).
  • Encourage "community" and "contribution" which "makes us experience well-being and joy" (p. 187).
  • "Teach values and positive character" (p. 199).
  • Foster "internal" motivation and control.
  • Motivate your child by focusing on "importance and confidence" (p. 216).

Throughout the book, Dr. Kang's recommendations about the crucial value of human connectedness, prioritizing relationships, valuing play, and offering ways for children to contribute to others is in total alignment with findings from the research on resiliency: All of this also builds resilient, able-to-weather-life's-adversity kids.

Click here to read Dr. Kang's article in TIME magazine.

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Resiliency In Action has been called "the bible" for effective resiliency building and features 60 chapters in 7 sections: The Foundations of Resiliency (6 chapters); Resiliency and Schools (9 chapters); Resiliency and Communities (8 chapters); Mentoring, Support, and Counseling for Resiliency (12 chapters); Resiliency and Youth Development (8 chapters); Resiliency and Families (9 chapters); and Resiliency and the Brain (8 chapters).

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Mona Jasemian, California School Psychologist

"What a wealth of information for school teachers and counselors. Although it is focused on children, the information is transferable to other age groups. There are interviews, activities and articles written by a variety of experts. I am impressed."
Paula P. Smith, Ph.D., Director of Victim-Witness Advocacy Prosecuting Attorneys' Council of Georgia

"Where you now see youth and adults with problems, [this book] will show you people with strengths and promise. Where you now feel helpless and hopeless, it will show you your power to help others change and to make changes in your own life. As a clinical psychologist and social worker for over 20 years, I have used the resiliency-based principles and suggestions in this book to create a more successful strengths-based practice."
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"Everyone in the helping professions will benefit...A wonderful contribution to an asset-based framework."

--Diane Stephens, Ph.D., Professor, California Lutheran University

"Every school and every child will benefit from using the recommendations in The Resiliency Workbook, which - from my experience - promote student success, mental health, and staff effectiveness."

--Dr. Gerald Zahorchak, PA Secretary of Education, 2006 - 2010

"Nan Henderson's ability to make...resiliency understandable and useable is unparalleled. Everyone who works with kids should read Henderson's books!"

--Cathy Gangstad, M.P.A., expert in brain-research & brain-compatible learning, Learning Consortium, Inc.

"Nan makes resiliency research...accessible to all in a way that will build their personal understanding of their innate greatness and their ability to triumph over life's challenges...I recommend Nan's work to all."

--Howard Glasser, Executive Director, The Children's Success Foundation, Best-selling author of Transforming the Difficult Child


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Resiliency Training Promotes Academic and Life Success

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One of my favorite comments is from Laurel Schmidt, author of Classroom Confidential: The 12 Secrets of Great Teachers and former Director of Pupil Services for Santa Monica, CA schools:

"Your trainings should be packed...Educators [and all helping professionals] should come by the busloads to learn what to do for everything that ails our kids."

Organizations that have contracted me as a presenter/trainer include:

National Big Brothers/Big Sisters, Job Corps, Americorps, Vermont Dept. of Education, California Dept. of Education, Colorado Dept. of Education, Pennsylvania Dept. of Education, New Hampshire Department of Education, Maine Dept. of Education, State of Texas Safe and Drug-Free Schools Initiative, Texas Elementary Principals Association; University of Southern Maine, Loyola Marymount University (Los Angeles), Texas A & M University, University of Hawaii, New Zealand National Federation of Children's Health Camps, New Zealand Ministry of Education, Calgary (Canada) Regional Educational Consortium, Winnipeg (Canada) Schools, BB/ BS Swiftcurrent, Saskatchewan (Canada), Nebraska Association of Prevention Professionals, Ohio Network for Training and Assistance for Schools and Communities, State of New York Dept. of Juvenile Justice, New York City Department of Education, Los Angeles Unified Schools, National School Counselors Association, National Association of Leaders in Student Assistance Programs, National Association of School Social Workers, State of CA School Dropout Prevention Initiative, individual school districts and agencies in 45 U.S. states and Regional Educational Centers in Texas, New York, Wisconsin, Kansas, Minnesota, Washington, Ohio, Pennsylvania. In recent years, Ms. Henderson has been contracted by the U.S. Army and the U.S. Air Force.


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I hope to meet you soon at a Resiliency Training at your school or organization!


Nan Henderson
Resiliency In Action

phone: 800-440-5171

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