As I was reading this week's parashah, I started remembering the Smothers Brothers.  A few of you may remember them.  Tom and Dick had their own variety show in the 60's and they performed folk songs, which invariably led to humorous arguments between the brothers.  By the time the argument ended, Tommy would deliver his signature line, "Mom always liked you best!"

The difficulty of parenting is a central theme to this week's parashah, Tol'dot.  This is the story of the competitive twins, Esau and Jacob.  Jacob convinces Esau to sell his birthright and eventually deceives the dying Isaac to secure his blessing.  Isaac is exasperated by the deception and gives a second blessing to Esau, as he feels the obligation as a parent and he loves both of his sons.  Most likely, Isaac also feels some disappointment in both of his sons for not behaving in a proper and expected manner.

Rebekkah has an even greater struggle.  Even in the womb, Esau was a problem child.  She clearly prefers Jacob and nurtures him to take over his father's role as head of the family.  She even goes so far as to orchestrate Jacob's deception of Isaac for his blessing.  Is it possible that Esau had a right to his resentment of Jacob because "Mom always liked you best!"?  Parenting is never easy.

On this and every Shabbat, be blessed with all of your children as you bless them.

Shabbat Shalom.