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With today's globally-connected world, we are fortunately exposed to the goodness of diversity. There are many enriching types of people to learn from and enjoy both professionally and personally. While having different experiences brings tremendous opportunities for growth and fulfillment, different ways of working, living and communicating can be uncomfortable and difficult. Then, there are people who are difficult no matter what you say or do.
A difficult person is defined as someone who continues to demonstrate unfavorable, disrespectful or immature behaviors. All attempts to remedy a situation have not worked. The unpleasant, unhealthy or even toxic encounters keep happening. Perhaps there has been no resolve because of how the difficult person was or was not approached to fix the situation. Or perhaps, the difficult person does not "get it" and never will. Then, it's up to you. You have a choice on how you will think and react the next time the situation occurs.
5 Tips and Insights for Dealing with Difficult People
1) Keep in mind, that 90% of what someone says is about them, which means only 10% is about you. There are a lot of self-absorbed people with a low self-esteem. They only talk about themselves and hardly ever ask you a question about you and your life. Try not to take these people personally...it's all about them.
2) People with low self-esteem love to gossip and make fun of people. This makes them feel superior to stroke their own self-esteem. They are pointing out your faults (real and not for real faults) instead of fixing their own. Ignore them and do not participate in the gossip. 99% of gossip is false information anyway.
3) Do not rise to their level of yelling and screaming. Keep your cool.
4) Most important, if someone continues to treat you with disrespect after you have set clear boundaries remove or distance them from your close circles. You deserve to be treated better. If you do not take this important step, you are the person who is now responsible for allowing the situation to keep happening in YOUR life.
5) Seek relationships with positive, giving, easy-to-get-along-with people.
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Whoever the difficult person is in your life or workplace, you are probably fueled by negative emotions and stress when you interact with them. Your own well-being and performance are being jeopardized. You don't have to feel that way anymore. Keep in mind that you cannot change others. You can only change yourself. You can choose to respond differently each time you deal with a difficult person. There is always a way to get happy.
To your happiness,
Nancy
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