My mentor, Jut Meininger, spent the last three years of his life attempting to get me to see the futility of having expectations. "Give up your expectations," Jut would tell me from his Knower/Judger, "and you will completely eliminate frustration." (I've been known to be very frustrated on and off during my life...many of you may have witnessed this!) My response from my K/J was, "How does someone with the goal-oriented K/J set of rules actually accomplish anything? Don't we have to have expectations in order to succeed?" Jut's been gone six years now, and his wisdom is finally sinking in.  (Read more).....

Fight, flight, or freeze. Some thugs pursued a friend and me on South Street in Morristown, NJ, in my early teenage years. We picked flight and dove into a store owned by a friend of my uncle. Adrenaline flowed. Blood pressure went up. Fear is an incredible motivator! But how do we use these three reactions in everyday life to benefit us?  (Read more)....