7 Church Etiquette Rules Everyone Should Know
by Trenette Wilson
As a child growing up, I attended a traditional Baptist church that adhered to a strict code of conduct during service. I would often keep myself entertained by watching the cutting eyes of mothers correcting their children without uttering one single word. My sister and I were mere observers in the misbehavior of others, as my mother deeply instilled a great sense of respect and holiness toward God's house in us. She also embraced the scripture, "if you spare the rod, you spoil the child," which further reinforced her convictions and kept us in line.
Over the years, things have changed considerably when it comes to "code of conduct, in church. With the emergence of the "mega church, casual Sundays and a switch to contemporary worship services, the lines of proper behavior and dress have become blurred.
From people carrying weapons on church grounds, to individuals texting during service, the conservative days of sitting quietly in the pews have passed. Though the strict orthodox rules of church etiquette have relaxed and vary from congregation to congregation, there are 7 general church etiquette rules that will allow you to honor "God's house," no matter where you worship.
Turn off all digital devices: Your flashy phone and awesome ring tone can be a big distraction to those around you who are trying to hear the message and make a life changing decision.
Govern yourself accordingly: Eating, talking loud, excessive walking and starting confrontations in the church are all unacceptable behavior during worship service. Be sure to observe the behavior of the leadership and follow.
Dress stylishly yet modestly: Though God's word tell us to "come as we are," it's important to exhibit respect in your wardrobe choices. Stay away from clothes that show too much skin, that are too tight and too short or display offensive slogans or symbols.
Avoid cliques: Church is about inclusion and acceptance. Class and social division should never be a dividing factor within the body of Christ.
Observe service schedules: Don't be the "arrive late and leave early," member. Make all effort to be there shortly before church starts and remain until the benediction, or final blessing is pronounced. If an emergency arises, exit the sanctuary with discretion.
Be considerate of others: If you have small children, sit close to the door to facilitate quick and easy access to a bathroom.
Speak words of encouragement: Though the bible tells us specifically not to gossip, church members are notorious for spreading news concerning the church and its members. The tongue is a kindling firemake sure you are not destroying any forests.
Simply put, church etiquette is respecting the place you worship and embracing your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ.
Lady Trenette Wilson is a highly sought after teen and etiquette expert who provides bible based debutante and etiquette curricula to churches and organizations. The founder of the award winning website, www.urbangirlz.org, Lady Wilson impacts more than 50,000 youth worldwide through etiquette.
