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                     CP CAL NEWSLETTER
2013/1
January 2013

Dear Collaborative Colleague,

 

We are pleased to bring you Volume 2013/1 of the CP Cal Newsletter, the electronic newsletter of Collaborative Practice California.
Letter from the President 
by David Fink, JD

Dear Collaborators:

 

Happy New Year!

 

Your CP Cal Board is looking forward to an exciting beginning to 2013 as we prepare for several upcoming events!

 

Coming up earliest is the first-ever Delegates Conclave to be held at the Manhattan Beach Marriott at 1400 Parkview Avenue, Manhattan Beach, CA on January 19, 2013 from 9 am to 1 pm. We would like to encourage all delegates from the Southern California member practice groups (Northern and Central California delegates are also welcome!) to attend and become a part of the growing statewide Collaborative Practice community.

 

The Conclave is being organized by a local committee of practice group leaders and Board members from the area. This is the chance for CP Cal to hear from local groups how we can best support and help you. This is also a chance for those who wish to engage at the statewide level to find out the many ways you could participate in the work of CP Cal.

 

The Conclave will focus on coordinating the energy and camaraderie of delegates in Southern California to build the involvement of member groups with each other and with CP Cal, while also helping define the areas in which the state organization can best contribute to the needs of the member groups, in areas such as:

 

  • helping individual collaborative professionals build their practices;
  • public education by member groups;
  • re-energizing practice groups;
  • trainings;
  • regional intergroup opportunities;
  • expanding group membership;
  • building relationships with and education from domestic violence/coercive control advocacy groups, especially about screening and providing safety; and
  • passage of the UCLA/R in California.

 

There will also be a Delegates Conclave in Northern California on March 1, 2013 at the Collaborative Practice Center in Santa Rosa, CA. Additional information about the Northern California Conclave will be provided shortly.

 

In the coming months, we hope to have a Board Member visit each and every one of our member practice groups. Our goal is to reach out to the Collaborative professionals who make up our member practice groups, and those who are doing the day-to-day work of helping families in their regular practices. Even if you are not a group delegate, there are many ways for you to be proactive in your local group, and even on a CP Cal statewide committee or task force, to increase public awareness of the Collaborative option and to continue to elevate the quality of service to our clients.

 

Our springtime push culminates in the arrival of Collaborative Celebration 8, which will be held April 26-28, 2013 at the Manhattan Beach Marriott. We expect this to be the best attended Celebration to be held in Southern California and we have planned a stimulating and skill-building program to suit all levels of experience.

 

Finally, you should all know that the Divorce Options program is well received in all of the areas where it has been presented. The second generation of the program slides is now being created, in order to make the program more accessible to a larger range of families and to make the presentation more clear and informative. Please keep your eyes open for the release of the new slides.  

 

I thank all of you for the effort and energy you are contributing to our professional community. Let's keep this up and ride the building wave of enthusiasm into the Celebration on April 26!

 

Best regards,

 David Fink

David Fink, President, CP Cal

Delegates Corner 
  This is a new feature of the CP Cal newsletter,

in which we  introduce member group delegates.

We are an organization populated by interesting and varied individuals.

Please greet the people you meet here when you encounter them at a training, conference, or new case team meeting! - Peg Anderson, Editor

 

Tonjum  Michael Tonjum has been a psychologist for thirty-four years, and is a member of and delegate from the Collaborative Council of the Redwood Empire (CCRE) in Northern California. He has been married to Jan Gilman, also a psychologist, for almost thirty years. Michael is proud of his two adult step children and two wonderful grandsons, ages 7 and 11. Another member of the family is a labradoodle named Willi. Michael grins when explaining that his real name is Wilson, as all of the members of the litter were named for Giants players.
 

            Before joining the collaborative community, Michael was executive director for twelve years of Life Works, a non-profit. When he left there to start his private practice, a colleague kept mentioning collaborative practice, and the concept attracted him as an addition to his private practice. He appreciates the opportunity to bring something to the table in a different way from therapy, and helping people in a different way to reach closure, as opposed to "fixing" something.

 

            The most significant influences on his joining CCRE were therapists Dana Schneider and Randy Cheek, as well as Catherine Conner and Peg Anderson, who invited Michael to shadow a collaborative case as part of his training. He also expresses appreciation for Joel Rubin, a longtime CCRE member who served as a "buddy" for Michael as a new member.

 

            Michael estimates that at least twenty percent of his work time is spent in collaborative work and related activities. He is currently chair of CCRE's Public Education Committee, is active in NorCal PEC, is a member of CCRE's Board of Directors, and also a delegate to CP Cal. He is still learning to say "no."

 

 

            His vision of where he hopes Collaborative Practice will be in the future is a renewal of full interdisciplinary teams. Michael fears some dissipation of energy in this area because of the tight economic times. Without a full team, the full potential of the process is missing, and he believes this can harm the commitment of all collaborative practitioners to this work. 

 

           When away from his office, Michael's favorite activities are golf, golf and golf. He also enjoys skiing, wine tasting, family, any outdoor activity, and travel. He and Jan are leaving soon for a three-week Eastern European vacation!

 

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From: Suzan Barrie Aiken

 

What I learned: the impact of really understanding my clients and team members in a deep fashion - understanding the depth of my clients' goals and interests.

What I loved: the incredible joy of spending time with my collaborative community and meeting collaborative

professionals I didn't previously know.

Why it is so important to attend:  the learning.

* Practice excellence and working to be the best collaborative professional I can be for the families that I serve.

* Supporting CP Cal so that CP Cal can continue to thrive as an organization and implement its important goals and objectives for collaborative practice in California.

* Interacting with my collaborative community.

 

  

 

 

 

 

   To:

       Collaborative

       Practice Marin

 

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From: Julie Mack

 

I learned more about collaborative team practice and true interest-based negotiation techniques this weekend than in all previous seminars combined. It was a weekend filled with brain research, practical role plays and personal work on how our own values affect our advocacy. I will be a better mediator and better attorney because of this Celebration.

 

  

   To:

       San Diego 

Collaborative

       Divorce Group

 

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From: Elaine Ryzak Fraser

 

I learned the different "animal" types and how the diversity of a collaborative team can be impacted by the "animal" types of the team and each animal's style. I loved understanding and watching how a full team works effectively and efficiently. It was important that I come to CP Cal Celebration 7 so that I can learn and grow.

 

 

 

 

   To:

        Collaborative Practice

        of

        San Mateo County


 

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From:  Warren Sacks

 

I learned the difference between interests and positions

and how to help my clients identify their own interests.

I learned the benefits of a full interdisciplinary team.  I loved the feeling I had when I further understood how to identify interests. I loved seeing my friends and networking. CP Cal Celebrations are a time to continue gaining an understanding of the collaborative process and

seeing friends. 

 

 

 

 

   To:

       Alternatives -

       A Collaborative

       Divorce Team


 

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From: Connie Stone

I learned: ways for better team function.

I loved: all workshops were more than worth attending.

Importance of attending:  learn new skills to make cases work more quickly. 

 

  

   To:

       Nevada County 

       Collaborative Divorce

       Group


 

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From: Steve Rutlen

 

I attended the three-day Mock Case. We did multiple team and client meetings throughout the workshop. I learned the difficulty and value of focusing on the emotional attachment rather than the content. I loved to see the buy-in to the Divorce Options workshops on a statewide basis. I also strengthened existing relationships in the collaborative community and developed new ones. I learned what other groups are doing process-wise.

 

 

 

   To:

       Sacramento

       Collaborative 

       Professionals Group 


 

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From: Kevin Chroman 

 

The Celebration was truly a special experience. Not only did I have the pleasure of meeting fellow collaborative professionals, but the courses were relevant, informative and interesting. The Celebration began with the Chief Justice of the California Supreme Court sharing her views on the future of the courts. In the end, I learned a lot. Mostly, I learned that there is a large community of professionals who feel as passionately about this process as we do. Continue in your passion and efforts. I look forward to seeing you at next April's Celebration in Manhattan Beach. 

 

 

 

 

 To:

    LACFLA


 

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From: George Richardson

 

I learned about the Beaver, the Dolphin, the Owl, and the

Fox and how that knowledge can make me a better

collaborative professional.

I loved being with good

friends I've known for years, and those I met for the first time. I've never missed a Celebration and because of it,

won't miss next year's Celebration 8 in April in Manhattan Beach.

 

 

 

 

   To:

       Collaborative Practice

       of San Mateo County


 

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From: Dawn Strachan

 

I learned new ways to look at money and emotions during the settlement process. I refreshed my knowledge on the importance of how we speak to one another and the positive and negative impact words can have on our clients and allied professionals. I loved seeing all the friends I have made from all over the state. It is important to me to come to the conference every year because I always learn valuable information for my professional life and personal life. The conference also provides time to talk to other professionals from my own group and across the state which really helps build relationships and provides an opportunity to share ideas.

 

 

 

 

   To:

       LACFLA

 

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From: Brian Levy

 

I learned to help separate interests from positions. I loved the learning and growing experience. I can't imagine NOT attending CP Cal Celebrations. It was a faulous weekend getting to know each other and a great training opportunity.

 

  

   To:

       Collaborative Divorce

       Professionals of the

       Inland Empire


 

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From: Jann Glasser

 

I learned the importance of trust on a team to produce a better end result. I loved the energy, warmth and enthusiasm of thee participants. CP Cal is a learning tool to elevate collaborative skills, not only to deliver a better product to clients, but to better informat the public as to what we have to provide as peacemakers. 

 

  

   To:

       Collaborative

       Divorce Solutions

       of Orange County

      


 

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From: Mickey Katz

 

I learned to recognize the indicia of a family system in which parental alienation is found. I learned to speak truth to clients about my reactions to them and their positions. I loved seeing and connecting with my firends and colleagues. It was important for me to be here to identify as a collaborative professional. 

 

 

 

 

   To:

       Collaborative

       Divorce

Solutions

       of

Orange County

 

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From: Carol Hughes

 

I learned from Susan Gamache, PhD, about the Strengths Deployment Inventory and how to use this instrument to improve our collaborative teams and the teamwork in our practice group. I was inspired to be sharing and hearing ideas from collaborative colleagues from around the state of California. I honed my skills at assisting clients to get underneath their positions to the interests that are important to them, and why they are important. It was important to me to attend this CP Cal Celebration for the learning and networking, and most of all to support our parent state organization, the board members, delegates, and committee members who volunteer thousands and thousands of hours every year to help the collaborative process group throughout the state. 

 

 

 

 

   To:

       Collaborative

       Divorce Solutions

       of Orange County


 

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From: Joel Rubin

 

I truly love being at a statewide conference of collaborative colleagues whose approach to dispute resolution recognizes the complexity and challenges that are inherent in non-simplistic solutions. This is truly inspiring and motivating. I learned so much that it is hard to be brief. The plenary presentation by Rick Foster and Greg Hicks, and the one by Jennifer Kresge on team building and creating sustainable agreements, respectively, were so informative and will be so helpful in all aspects of my practice that I am only beginning to appreciate their meaning. It is only at these conferences that these experiences can occur, which means attending them is inherently necessary for all. I look forward to the next CP Cal in Manhattan Beach in April 2013.

 

 

 

 

   To:

       Collaborative

       Council of the

       Redwood Empire

 

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From: Debbie Bellings-Kee

 

What I learned, what I loved, what was special about the Celebration, and why it is so important for me to attend: 

For the camaraderie, seeing old friends from all over the state and dancing with friends to good music; learned about how to facilitate clients' ability to create durable agreements with knowledge of how the brain functions; what the 7 to 9 things people do to be happy and, as importantly, how to hone my collaborative and mediative skills to enhance clients' and team members'  experiences. Important to attend to keep the collaborative message going and to stay connected with the collaborative community.

 

 

 

 

   To:

       Collaborative

       Practice 

San Francisco


 

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From: Chandler Hoffman

 

I learned to ask better questions to clients and team members that will effectively identify emotional understandings and allow teams to function more cohesively and reach meaningful resolution. I took part in a Mock Case that challenged me professionally and personally to search for meaning with clients. I loved being challenged to become a better collaborative professional and felt that I grew as a person. 

 

 

 

 

To:

       Collaborative    

       Practice East Bay

 


 

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From: Errol Leifer

 

What I learned: Brain basis of sustained agreements; working with team cohesion; expanded role concepts of coaches; money-brain-behavior relationship. 

What I loved: energy, enthusiasm of presenters and participants.

Why it was important for me to attend: Challenge and expand ideas and concepts of team roles/processes and expand identification as a collaborative professional. 

 

 

 

 

To:

       Central Valley

       Collaborative Law

       Affiliates

    

 

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From: David Kuroda

 

What I learned: The importance of recognizing and discussing anything that affects the team working together.

What I loved: Being with colleagues in an informal setting and enjoying the camaraderie of valued friends.

Why it was important to attend:  Support of CP Cal as a board member; promote collaborative practice; improve my practice groups. 

 

 

 

 

To:

       A Better Divorce

                  and

       Los Angeles Westside

       Collaborative Divorce

Professionals

 


 

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From: Kathleen O'Connor

 

What a great time -- and learning experience. Let's all understand that the personality of each of us affects our agreements and the process. The ideas and the camaraderie are energizing. I love this group!

 

 

 

 

To:

       LACFLA

 

 

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From: Julie Brungess

 

I learned what a dedicated collaborative community exists here in California, and that each colleague with whom I came into contact was committed to doing this work with skill and integrity. I loved the feeling of inclusiveness and support coming from fellow conferees, trainers, experts and the group synergy at every turn.

It is important for you to come to Celebration 8 to learn 1) what a large, supportive community exists outside our isolated group, 2) how you can participate and feel included and valued, and 3) come back energized, focused and on fire to bring what you know to families in need and in pain.

 

 

 

 

   To:

       Central Valley

       Collaborative Law 

       Affiliates


 

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From: Stephanie Maloney

 

I learned a great deal about my feelings and how to use them in my cases and relationships instead of fighting them. I loved the excitement and commitment to collaborative work and the love from my colleagues. It was important for me to be here to discover things about myself.

 

 

 

 

To:

       Collaborative

       Practice

       San Francisco

 


In This Issue
Letter From the President
Delegates Corner
Postcard to CPM
Postcard to SDCDG
Postcard to CPSMC
Postcard to AACDT
Postcard to NCCDG
Postcard to SCPG
Postcard to LACFLA
Postcard to CPSMC
Postcard to LACFLA
Postcard to CDPIE
Postcard to CDSOC
Postcard to CDSOC
Postcard to CDSOC
Postcard to CCRE
Postcard to CPSF
Postcard to CPEB
Postcard to CVCLA
Postcard to ABD & LAWCDP
Postcard to LACFLA
Postcard to CVCLA
Postcard to CPSF
Save the Date for Celebration 8
SAVE THE DATE for Celebration 8
Celebration 8 
Join Us
at Celebration 8!
Manhattan Beach Marriott
April 26-28, 2013
 
ABOUT CP CAL
Collaborative Practice California is a statewide organization of Collaborative Practice groups.  We are an interdisciplinary volunteer organization. For details on how you can become involved in CP Cal, see your local Delegate.
 
About the Newsletter
Past issues of the CP Cal Newsletter are archived on the CP Cal website at www.cpcal.com. If you have comments or questions, please contact Margaret (Peg) Anderson, Managing Editor. Peg's email address is mlanders@sonic.net.
 

The opinions expressed in this newsletter are those of the individual author(s), and not necessarily the opinions of CP Cal as an organization.

Remembering Celebration 7
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CELEBRATION 7

Collaborative Practice Intensive:

Strengthening Skills for Excellence

April 27-29, 2012

Claremont Resort

Berkeley, CA

 

President Randy Cheek

& Celebration Co-Chair

Suzan Barrie Aiken

Keynote: Chief Justice
Tani Cantil-Sakauye
Catherine Conner
in Conversation with
the Chief Justice
 
2012-13 President
David Fink
Drew Lamden,
Dan Pickar,
Nancy Foster
& Ann Buscho
Thellen Levy &
Peg Anderson

Debra Bellings-Kee &
Jude Sterling

Fundraising Chairs
Suzan Barrie Aiken
& Warren Sacks
Renee Steele,
Steve Rutlen
& Leslee Newman
Conference Administrator
Paula Jackson
 
Scott Gaustad,
Tim Morrison
& Richard Knox 
Emily DeFalla,
Shendl Tuchman
& Vera Hartford
David Fink &
George Richardson
Suzan Barrie Aiken &
Hal Bartholomew
Carol Hughes
& Caryn Espo
 
Peg Anderson
& Julie Hicks 
Suzan Barrie Aiken
 
Kathleen O'Connor,
Fred Glassman
& Vi Ballard 
 
Alan Nobler
  
 
Kathleen O'Connor,
Stephanie Maloney,
Celebration Co-Chair
Dawn Strachan
& Gerald Friedman 
  
Warren Sacks
Jerome & Melanie Blaha,
Catherine Conner
 
Natalie Leininger,
 Stephanie Maloney
& Alan Nobler
 
Debbie Bellings-Kee,
Suzan Barrie Aiken &
David Kuroda
 
Caryn Espo &
Warren Sacks
 
Networking Reception
 
 
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