Denise Palmisano                                       January 18, 2015
In This Issue
Creating A Life You Love - Part 2 of 4
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Make 2015 the year to create a life you love!

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Happy middle of the month! You might ask what does a cactus have to do with the middle of the month. Well, two things.

First, this is the prickly time when you are confronted with being in the middle of declaring what you wanted for the new year yet not taking the consistent actions to make it happen. This indecision, hesitation or avoidance is similar to cactus needles. They are all relentless in the many ways they cause pain and discomfort.

This is when you start to justify what you are settling for and why. This is the time you are beating yourself up making yourself wrong for some of the situations you can't seem to turn around.  I know, I have been there too.

It often helps to create a visual for yourself of,  What will be different in your life as a result of you following through on your commitment to yourself? Is that what is still important to you?

Remember, it takes 66 days to build most habits. As long as you don't give up on what you said was important, you are still moving towards your desired results. Progress not perfection will be your friend. Dust yourself off and realign with the small, consistent steps to achieve your desired results.

The second reason for the cactus is that I am currently in Arizona on a short trip to catch my breath and gather information for a women's retreat I will be offering soon. More details as they develop. If a distance retreat is something that interests you, send me an email and I can let you know a little more.

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If you are a do-it-yourself  kind of person, you can visit the tools page on my website where I will be adding content frequently. Check back often, there is new stuff already!

I look forward to following up with you in 2015!

Love & hugs,
Denise Palmisano, CHPC, C.I.C.P.
Certified High Performance Coach
Certified Integrative Coach Professional
International Empowerment Coach 
(985) 860-8861

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Creating A Life You Love - Part 2 of 4

In part one of this series, I talked about awakening to your yearnings and what matters to you as well as authentically knowing and expressing yourself.  I also talked about how our programming has disconnected us from our authentic self and often to the degree of sleepwalking or being on auto-pilot.

In part two, I want to share my thoughts on being an observer and having compassion for the complexity of filters that often limit our awakening and keeps the programming, recurring breakdowns and similar outcomes in place. I also want to claim that you have all you need to create a life you love.  Be open to the fact that the world may not be exactly the way you see it.

Being an observer is stepping back and watching yourself in motion.  It is being open to being shown the many ways you may have sabotaged your capacity to listen to your heart and take authentic actions.  Being deliberate and intentional as an observer will allow you to see the habits and patterns that you have taken on over the years that may or may not be currently working for you.  Being an observer is not a time to make yourself wrong or go into some negative internal dialog.  It is pausing to observe your thoughts, words and actions and being open to insight and information about how you make choices and the results those choices produce. 

Acknowledging what you have been up and where you are as a result of your prior choices is crucial when it comes to enhancing your capacity to design and create a life you love.  Bringing intention and purpose to your choices instead of being swept along in a state of sleepwalking or auto-pilot will likely shift the outcomes and results of your actions and lack of actions.  Hence, transformation can occur and you have increased your capacity for action and experience.  In other words, you are living a more authentic life that is in alignment with what matters to you. You might also say you are living in integrity.

Some of what you will observe are the filters through which you interpret the world.  Those filters disclose your personal and private reality.  That reality exists as a result of the programming I spoke of last week.  I will add here that your reality is merely your interpretation.  It is not necessarily the same reality that exists for someone else.  Hence, the very reason that we as humans continue to be in conflict when we are insistent on being right about our personal and private reality.  We assume everyone sees situations the way we do.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Can you identify a righteous position that is currently limiting your connection with someone?

Let's look a little deeper.  When you look to the outer world, it is common to place blame and assign judgment to what you see out there.  Yet, what you see is merely a filtered reflection of how you have been programmed.  Your inner world is now a sea of emotional attachments and fears all the while trying to make sense of your personal and private reality.  Some filters show up as your interpretations, stories, judgments, beliefs, moods, attachments, concerns, ego, etc.  It isn't the event that has us suffer. It is what we make the event mean that creates the suffering.  Or better yet, what we make it mean about us.  The more you are unwilling to look at your blueprint for suffering, the longer you will stay stuck.  Change the story and you change your capacity to handle whatever comes up.  I know, easier said than done. 

This is going on inside each of us at all times.  Can you see how complex all of this is at any given moment?  This is the time for compassion and acceptance for your humanness.  There is a way to reduce the filters while moving towards a more authentic connection to yourself and others.  That however, will take practice, time, courage, rigor and patience.

In my opinion, there is no better time than the present moment to choose to take responsibility for your reality and the condition of your current life situations.  As a matter of fact, why wouldn't you want to take responsibility?  Who doesn't want to be the captain of their own ship?  What's the pay off in letting someone else dictate your actions or lack of actions?  Taking responsibility says you matter and what you want in life matters.  When you are willing to stop putting your life on hold and quit blaming others for the condition of your life, you automatically and immediately begin to make choices from a stance of power, potential and possibilities.

Your peace, power, potential, possibilities and security do not exist in playing it safe or playing a small game. It does not exist in not taking risks or waiting for guarantees of false security.  It does not exist in having to know, having to look good or having to feel good.  Those are all methods and means of looking to the outer world for security in your inner world.  That, my dear friend is the programmed formula for guaranteed and permanent suffering!  The lasting shift to unravel the programming is to take the inside out approach. 

Join me in creating a life you love in 2015! 

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YOU HAVE THE POWER to reinvent yourself moment by moment.  ARE YOU READY to experience how good it could really be - TO BE YOU?


I will be sharing many exciting projects and activities in 2015. Check my calendar often for updates. Details are unfolding. 

Community Connections - starting January 2015 -
The 1st & 3rd Wednesdays of each month, 6:00pm - 7:30pm
We will cover topics such as relationships, career, life transitions, letting go, emotional well-being, goal setting, vision, effective communication, stepping into your power, creating a life you love, conflict resolution

January 31 - Wellness Works Expo -
Speaking at Anela's, Houma, LA

February 25 - Wellness Wednesday -
Speaking on Self-Care at Anela's, Houma, LA

March 7 & 8 - Female & Fabulous - click on the link for details

Pathway to Fulfillment - 2 part series
16 & March 23, 6:00 - 8:00pm

Location: The Red Shoes, Baton Rouge, LA

Sept. 11 - Oct. 24 - EFL Results Program (Pre-requisites, Stage I and Stage II) Iowa City Learning Foundation, Iowa City, IA   

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Denise Palmisano, CICP
Denise Palmisano, C.H.P.C., C.I.C.P.
Certified High Performance Coach
Certified Integrative Coach Professional
International Empowerment Coach 
(985) 860-8861
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