When I read the piece below at our coach training in the spring, it clearly resonated with you as a group. Amy Meyer, responsive and efficient leader that she is, whisked the sheet from my possession and made copies for everyone.
If you are like me, your copy is floating in a sea of other compelling stuff. Here's your opportunity to enjoy it again, and file it electronically. And things never get lost in cyberspace ;-))
"When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice, you have not done what I asked.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness.
When you listen, and accept that I feel and think what I feel and think, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and get to the business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling and thinking.
And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice."