Bring Your Best Self
Great coaching depends more on your self showing up than it does on your skills. Here's a simple practice to ground and prepare you to facilitate a powerful conversation:
Five to ten minutes before meeting with your coachee, quit reviewing your notes and take a trip down memory lane. Think about a time when your support of another person had a positive impact. Because of your genuine interest in them, asking questions instead of giving answers, they discovered new solutions to old problems. Because that person felt truly heard and valued, they could move forward with a renewed sense of competence and confidence. When you have that memory in mind, connect to the feelings associated with that success story. Those feelings could include excitement, a sense of purpose, satisfaction with a job well done, or the joy that comes from truly helping and being appreciated.
Those positive feelings ground you in who you are, what you've accomplished, your experience and skills, and the blessed assurance that you and God are in this together, always. Those feelings prepare you to be fully present, not preoccupied with getting the coaching process exactly right--or fretting about how you'll be perceived if you don't! Recalling and reliving those positive feelings expands your creativity and compassion, making you bolder, brighter. Beginning the coaching conversation from this space increases the odds that it will be transformational for your coachee.
If this sounds familiar, good! This is the first half of the Appreciative Inquiry process. AI creator David Cooperider believes that to find the best in the other person, you start by appreciating your self.