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Eric Tooley

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Aiming Instead of Avoiding    
More and more schools and churches are asking me to do question & answer sessions with students after they hear my Noble Life program. The students use their mobile phones to text their questions to me. This gives the students more freedom to ask questions anonymously as well as allows me to make sure the questions are appropriate.  

 

In a one-hour session I will get about 70 questions!  

 

A recent question was "What are some practical real-life ways to avoid the temptation to have sex?"  

 

I answered that focusing on what we don't want to do (avoiding) can lead us to be more attracted to it. As an example, I asked them to not think about zebras. Of course, everyone could only think about zebras.  

 

A better strategy is to focus on something you like much better (aiming). Instead of focusing on avoiding sex, focus on your future spouse. Think how special they are, how much more you love them, and how you want to express that special love to them.  

 

I told them of a person who saved their first kiss for their wedding.

 

A friend of mine bought gifts for his future wife. Even though he had not met her yet, he would pick up a small gift and write an index card with the date and how he was thinking of her. He planned to spend the first year of marriage giving his wife a gift each day. He said it was much easier to save sex for marriage because he was so focused on his future wife.  

 

After the session, a high school senior shared with me how much I had encouraged him. He decided to save the word "beautiful." He wanted his wife to be the only person he ever called "beautiful." I loved it. Instead of challenging our teens to not have sex (or to not think about zebras), lets challenge them to save a kiss, a gift, or a word exclusively for their future spouse. Aiming is better than avoiding.

 

Philippians 4:8: "Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things.

Florida Speaking Trip     










Last week Eric spoke at the southern tip of the Florida mainland. Redland Christian Academy students and parents saw the second year program of the Truth About Sex series of school programs, "Images or Glory?"


The trip ended on the northern side of Florida in Inverness which is about 75 miles north of Tampa. The Pleasant Grove Road Church of Christ conducted a seminar featuring a parent program, Noble Life, Images or Glory?, and a Parent-Teen Workshop. Eric then taught the combined adult Bible class on Sunday morning.

Eric's wife, Angela, made her debut at a Truth About Sex program by talking about sexual abuse at the parent program. She did great.

The Parent-Teen Workshop on Saturday night was an amazing conclusion. Parents and their teens sitting together laughing and talking to each about sex and pornography is a rare sight.

If you are interested in having Eric speak at your church, school, or any other group, email [email protected], call 972-342-0753, or fill out our online scheduling form.