In a one-hour session I will get about 70 questions!
A recent question was "What are some practical real-life ways to avoid the temptation to have sex?"
I answered that focusing on what we don't want to do (avoiding) can lead us to be more attracted to it. As an example, I asked them to not think about zebras. Of course, everyone could only think about zebras.
A better strategy is to focus on something you like much better (aiming). Instead of focusing on avoiding sex, focus on your future spouse. Think how special they are, how much more you love them, and how you want to express that special love to them.
I told them of a person who saved their first kiss for their wedding.
A friend of mine bought gifts for his future wife. Even though he had not met her yet, he would pick up a small gift and write an index card with the date and how he was thinking of her. He planned to spend the first year of marriage giving his wife a gift each day. He said it was much easier to save sex for marriage because he was so focused on his future wife.
After the session, a high school senior shared with me how much I had encouraged him. He decided to save the word "beautiful." He wanted his wife to be the only person he ever called "beautiful." I loved it. Instead of challenging our teens to not have sex (or to not think about zebras), lets challenge them to save a kiss, a gift, or a word exclusively for their future spouse. Aiming is better than avoiding.
Philippians 4:8: "Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things."