I'll never forget the time I was sitting at the school lunch table when I was in the sixth grade. The guys were talking about kissing girls when I said, "I've never kissed a girl."

A classmate looked at me in the eyes and said, "When we get to junior high next year, you'll never survive." I realized that I was way behind and not normal.

Soon thereafter I started a quest for my first kiss, then my first sexual activity, and then my first sexual intercourse. My parents were silent. My church only taught me what was wrong.

I just wanted to be normal.

It was too late when I realized that I didn't have an accurate view of what was normal. It is worse for teens today.

As much as we can, we must give teens accurate information about what is normal activity among teenagers. This isn't necessarily what we believe is right or best. If normal activity isn't right or best, we must prepare teens to be different.

However, you'll be surprised at how often that what is right is also normal.

A recent CDC study of over 12 million US teens found the following to be normal (majority) among teenagers age 15 to 17:

• 69% had not had sex,
• 65% have not had oral sex.

The study also found that there was a 65% or greater likelihood of no sexual contact when the teen lived with both biological parents at age 14.

Teach teens what is right. Teach teens what is best. Don't forget to also teach what is normal.