Dear Friends:

Last month I wrote an article about the "Dark Night of the Soul" and it received a lot of positive comments from my readers.  The article was about a period of time in many of our lives that comes during our forties and fifties.  It often can last for an extended period.  This phenomena can be very serious if not recognized and handled properly.

This month I am writing about another type of grief that many people experience that can be life altering.  Grief does not have to only be associated with the loss of a loved one.  It can affect us in our every day life.  My recent articles are all part of my upcoming book about grief. 

My role as a medium is not just about contacting those who are on the other side.  It is about healing and helping recognize grief.  I have found that the practice of virtue is a powerful anecdote to the negative energy of grief.  I hope you enjoy my newest article below.

In addition to my article, please note Natalie's new article about the lessons we are learning here on Earth.  Her insights from the past life regressions she facilitates are opportunities to learn about past "hurts" and lessons that carry over into our lives today.  It is all very fascinating!

 

John Cappello
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By John Cappello

 

This month's topic is Estrangement Grief. The life problems estrangement can cause make it a common reason for clients to come see me. Estrangement is a feeling of anger, sadness, abandonment, and/or helplessness. It usually occurs when friends, business partners, or family members have a disagreement and are unable to reconcile or resolve their issues. Many times, people feel they are the authority in a matter and that their loved one or other party should submit to them. When both parties believe they are in the right and neither of them will submit, it can cause a great deal of tension. To further complicate the problem, the issue may not just affect them. It can be stressful for many others because they are usually forced to choose sides. Estrangement is a unique form of grief because it does not involve a loss due to a death. The sadness from this loss cannot be reconciled without both parties being able to let go of their pride and set aside their differences. Grief, in general, can change us in so many ways. It can physically affect us and make us look and feel older. Furthermore, years can go by in our lives without a resolution. Ultimately, healing from this grief takes special virtues to match this negative energy.

 

Estrangement can be caused by divorce, settling an estate, sex, property, money, or another issue that is very personal to each person involved. Any of these issues can result in relationship dynamics such as sibling rivalry, divided families, or just people trying to gain control of one another. They say, "Never discuss religion or politics," since both of these topics can serve as catalysts for estrangement.

 

When respected people are involved in a dispute that has caused estrangement, the problem can be the "elephant" in the room. The "noncombatant" individuals at an event, for example, will not mention the situation to avoid any further issue. This brand of grief is very serious and may cause people to move away from a loved one or trusted friend and never have anything to do with them again.

 

Our culture and many religions have vehicles to help people reconcile estrangement grief. Days of atonement and the sacrament of reconciliation are ceremonial activities that provide opportunities for us to heal the wounds of strained relationships. Since estrangement usually affects our pride and dignity, it is valuable to use these tools to heal. Interventions by families, friends, or third parties can force a kind of reconciliation, but these can be tricky and the risk of further problems exists. Finally, tragedies may bring estranged people together when they are forced to set aside their differences to handle a more pressing issue.

 

When estrangement lasts an entire lifetime and one party dies without reconciliation, a feeling of guilt can accompany the sadness that is already a part of a person's life experience. Ironically, reconciliation may come after someone is in spirit and perspective is gained of their role in a problem. It can be a very healing moment during a reading with a client. As a medium, this kind of healing can be life changing. It is humbling for me to witness.

 

The process of curing grief from estrangement involves moving energy from a metaphysical point of view. Energy with equal force to handle estrangement must be acquired and used by the individuals involved with the issue. The virtues of charity, detachment, peace, and meekness are just a few that provide this kind of energy. Charity is generosity towards others, detachment is the ability to separate our personhood to be objective, peace is the demonstration of being calm, and meekness is the appearance of being submissive, humble and patient while demonstrating resolve to a goal.

 

Overcoming any type of grief is difficult, but it can be done. It is with this attitude by the people involved that healing can be achieved. Psychics and mediums are often asked if a situation will ever resolve itself. The answer can only be given if the healing energy is sensed from the combating parties. It is the not the psychic or the medium who can solve estrangement. It is the virtue acted upon by those involved.

 

Natalie Cappello

 By Natalie Cappello

With all of the current events in the news, we can't help but reflect on our lives and the lives of others. It's hard not to say, "They had everything. Why did they commit suicide?" It's equally difficult to hear about the conflicts, desperation, and suffering throughout the world. Watching the news can make us feel paranoid and fearful about what is to come in the near future. I get caught up in all of this just like everyone else, but I try to take a step back and look at the big picture, from another point of view.

Many of us believe that the earth is a school on which we learn soul lessons and play roles that we designed before this current life. While all souls have free will, it is interesting to note that we agreed to experience many of our hardships and challenges to afford ourselves the opportunity to grow and learn. We also agreed, in advance, to many of life's difficulties in order to help others in our soul group grow and learn. It may be difficult to focus our attention on this concept when we are in the midst of one of life's heartaches or hardships, but I find it comforting to know that all of this is temporary. We are not given more than we can handle.

It sounds so easy on paper, but I would guess that if you look back on some of your life's challenges, you would be amazed at how well you trudged through. When I analyze some of my life events, I know that I would have panicked if I had known how hard those lessons were going to be or how long they were going to take. But now, on the other side of those same challenges, I feel stronger and happier.

The universe has a plan. Our souls have a plan. It's so much easier to get through school if we ride with the current instead of gasping for breath as we struggle to swim upstream.

 

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