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Remembering Dad
This Father's Day we celebrate our dads and father figures. It can be a complicated holiday since there is no one "type" of dad. Some peoples' dads exhibit a kind of detachment while other dads may be  the "Mr. Moms", whose numbers are growing in our society. The vast majorities of dads are good role models and devoted to their families; however, there are other dads who, by choice or lack of social skills, make a mixed impact on their families.
Some dads are not able to participate in their children's lives because they have passed away or have a debilitating illness or injury. While these dads have unique relationships with their offspring, in these times when a "natural" dad is not able to be the primary male figure, other men step up and provide the role of father in a young person's life. Many times, a grandfather or uncle becomes the "dad". The stories about dads are all unique, and their images are evolving.
Over the past few decades, the roles of fathers have been changing as our society becomes more complicated. Since the end of World War II, we have seen major changes in the attitudes of men and their traditional roles. The topic of male roles will be a major focus in the future because there is a growing need for attention in this area. Men are adjusting to their new status in society, but it is not an easy transition, and it is one that I observe as a medium. Sometimes we do not get to know our dads until we experience their energy from the spirit world.
The dads who reveal themselves from the spirit world show their personalities and their weaknesses as well. I have to be careful when talking to a client about a dad because their reaction may not be positive. Nevertheless, from the spirit world, it is the dad who presents himself first in many cases even though he may not be welcomed. Dads want to express themselves and let their presence to be known. Often times, they want to mend relationships or apologize for their actions. When we find ourselves in spirit, we gain perspective and reflect on our lives. We see our loved ones prosper or have issues as a result of our behavior. This is a very important lesson I have learned from my work.
Dads, in spirit, want to be connected to us here in life. Whether or not they presented themselves positively or negatively while they were here on earth, they want to watch over us. They learn about themselves and grow in spirit by being near us. It is an amazing phenomenon to experience another person's dad coming in from the spirit world. Generally, they appear over a subject's right shoulder, and depending upon our relationship with them, they are either very close or slightly detached from us. They continue to influence us through memory and their presence around us. Usually, they continue to nurture us in their way.
The expectation for men to be a nurturing part of the family is not new, but for them to actually exhibit this aspect of parenting IS new for many. In former times, the father may have worked the fields all day, come home to eat and then retire to prepare for the next day. His focus was on work and the job that needed to be done. It was not changing diapers or participating in the lives of his children. Many times, the dad would be the final disciplinarian whose wrath was not pleasant or had many positive outcomes.
Parenting is a full time job for both mom and dad, but somewhere along the way, we divided our actions as being "mom's job" or "dad's job", and attitudes were solidified with stereotypes. It is never good to generalize, but my experience of working with spirit has demonstrated a special observance of the dad in the spirit world. Many dads frowned upon child rearing because their focus was elsewhere. The result was that their children did not get to know them very well.
Dad became an enigma in the house, and we did not interact with him because we did not know how he was going to react. Many dads did not develop many social skills because they were primarily in a work environment where they were focused on a set of tasks. They were not skilled at being sensitive to other people's needs. It is a rude awakening for many when, in spirit, they discover that they missed many of the joys in life. They have another chance by being with us in a new capacity, and they indicate to me that they learn about living while they are at rest in the spirit world. They communicate many things to me in spirit, but more than anything, they indicate a profound sense of love toward us. It is important that people know that their fathers do and did care for them in their own unique ways.
The scars of life appear to me from those in spirit. Illnesses, addictions, accidents or other imprints from life are often very evident from those who have passed on. This is the case with all of those who affected our lives, not just dads. Sometimes it is not possible to forgive a person for their actions, but many times we are able to gain perspective. Forgiving and resolving relationships with those who have crossed over allows us to grow and make ourselves whole.
This Father's Day, we need to celebrate the good men in our lives who remain with us and dwell on our relationships with other male figures that have crossed over. We live in a dynamic time, when so much change is around us and adapting is not easy. The lessons of life are many, and as we grow from them, we make the future brighter and the quality of life higher for mankind. Dads may just be the model for us to learn from as the "father's" role is sorted out over time. Happy Father's Day to all the dads and good men all around!
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this is the time we must face overcoming our greatest fear. Deep down we all know our greatest challenge . 
When I wrote my book, "Open the Mind Exercise the Soul," I wanted to present a different point of view of psychic ability and connecting with spirit. I felt there were several books saying much of the same thing and not really giving answers to questions that most people had about our gifts and metaphysics. The book had to have some value, at least in my mind, before I presented it to the public. 
presented in New Orleans this month and everywhere else in July. It is an in depth study of our dream profile and an extension of our recent clairvoyant class. We discuss the different kinds of dreams we experience and the relevance of them in our everyday life. If you want to understand your dreams and the reasons why you have the types you are having then, hopefully, you will consider this workshop. 
The interest in the paranormal continues to grow, but few have encountered a true phenomena. This is why Joy Kauf from Miracles of Joy and I have teamed up to create a tour to view the Marfa Lights ( a paranormal wonder), the McDonald Observatory, and a real Western Army Fort in West Texas.