The Need for Closure and News from John Cappello

February 2013

News from
John Cappello

Happy Valentine's Day!

This month is a joyful time as we celebrate Valentine's Day and pay special attention to those we love in our lives. Celebrating and John 2012

recognizing special people is very fulfilling and goes a long way to strengthen bonds. The memories we create during this holiday and others are imprints that can last for eternity!

I want to invite you to listen to my first radio program on the Inception Radio Network on February 5th at 3 PM EST. Be sure to tune in and call me if you can for a free reading. It's going to be fun.

Below are articles for this month and I have moved my schedule to a new format. Please stay stay safe and in touch. I look forward to seeing you soon.

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The Need for Closure

by John Cappello February 2013

In today's world, it seems there is never a shortage of news stories that make us feel sad or cause us to empathize with others in a difficult John 2012 situation. The television, radio, internet and print media make a point to keep us up to date on the latest catastrophic event happening around the corner, in our country, or around the world. It is not the media's fault that so many sensational events occur. They are just doing their jobs by keeping us informed of the important matters of the day. However, the emotional price we pay while observing, listening, or reading about the tragedies of life can be great. This price is the focus of this article.

We often do not have time to grieve or process all of the information we receive before we learn of another painful event surrounding others. Our society is very rushed, and the news can keep us on an emotional roller coaster. And, if we are not careful, it can unconsciously train us to detach from serious situations. The normal stages of grief include: shock and denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining, depression, reflection and loneliness, the upward turn, reconstruction and working through, and finally, acceptance and hope.

Since we often do not have the time to process even the first couple of these stages, we are often "forced" to compartmentalize the process and emotionally detach. As a result, the practice of deferring grief is becoming more common. It is important to acknowledge that sometimes the grief process in never completed even though a person is willing to work through it.

Recent tragedies in the news regarding children, wars, and storms cause us to start the grieving process for those involved, but we may never completely finish it because the people affected are removed from us. What we need to acknowledge is that we do not have closure with our personal grief when we learn of these tragedies. Grief is harder to cope with if we do not have experience with all of the stages. Briefly exploring the first couple of stages are not the difficult part. It is the entire process that must be completed before we can truly gain or learn from the experience.

You may be able to relate to a period of grief in your own life. It may sound odd to say, but grief is good. It allows us to heal. The process is not easy, but moving through its stages makes us more human and compassionate. Learning to cope is a skill which allows us to have a broader perspective, and reaching the final stage of grief is liberating. Completion, if possible, allows us to become whole again. Grief does not have a time limit, but it should not be compartmentalized, nor should it be deferred indefinitely. The lessons of grief are many, and they stretch us to our limits. We grow, change and mature during the process. Furthermore, recognizing others in grief and empathizing with them is important and can be a bonding experience.

Metaphysical tools such as meditation, counseling, writing our thoughts in a journal, and/or receiving an appropriate reading from a psychic or a medium can help people with the grief process. However, these activities do not negate the difficult personal and internal changes that grief causes us to accept. Personal discovery never ends while we are here in this world. Our information society is a wonderful place in which to live, but we must remember that we are compassionate emotional beings and need completion. We need to laugh, cry, and be angry sometimes because it is part of the human experience. Grief is a big part of it, and we would all be wise to respect the process so that we may benefit from it.

For more information, go to: http://www.recover-from-grief.com/ to learn more about grief and recovery.

Astrology for

February 2013

Kaye Coffey ~ Astrologer

Everyone ~ February is the tipping point. Almost everyone sees the fact that major changes are needed. At the same time, those in power are Kaye Coffey against change. We see push come to shove. In our own lives circumstances will call for speaking truth to everyone, especially authority figures. It is critical to claim our power and stand at the center of our strength. Mercury goes retrograde on Feb.23 thru Mar 17. What appears to be finished, final or fixed may change, hit a delay or even be reversed. The most trivial mistake could lead to a larger problem. Eyes open, no fear.

Sign by Sign

Aquarius ~ (Jan. 20 - Feb. 18)Complex crosscurrents are at work in your finances. Legal developments can benefit you. It's a good idea to protect your interests from unethical practices. Just be aware, not all folks hold your standards. By the summer you could be looking at improvement or a move on the home and personal front.

Pisces ~ (Feb. 19 - Mar. 20) Pisceans are dealing with a mix of strong planetary energies. Powerful influences instill a desire for privacy and self healing. Others will question your inexplicable choices. You could be meet someone that changes your financial reality. Persevere and flow with your gut feelings during this period.

Aries ~ (Mar. 21 - April 19) Your concerned about work and career. It feels like you may want to change your life path, but you still feel conflicted about key issues. Just remember it does not have to be this or that.......it can be this and that. Listen quietly to your intuition. Solutions are on the horizon. Center yourself and meditate daily.

Taurus ~ (Apr. 20 - May 20) The future you have planned is almost here and prospects are encouraging. You could be planning a trip. Details are still unclear and specifics are not available yet. Protecting your financial interests during this shifting time is crucial. Steer clear of gossip and take the high road in all your relationships.....especially at work.

Gemini ~ (May 21 - June 21) You could feel the pull to look to the past regarding love. Resist the urge to paint a rosy picture that is not realistic. Rid yourself of unhelpful attitudes that suppress your natural idealism and optimism. A new cycle is beginning. Powerful supportive forces are available to you at this time.

Cancer ~ (June 22 - July 22) Change is in the air and you may witness some heated confrontations. Remain the observer. Use your powerful intuition this month. Give your input when asked.....your usually "spot on". Be aware of your surroundings and watch your valuables. An economic turnaround is possible midyear.

Leo ~ (July 23 - Aug. 22) You could be placed in a challenging situation and feel the need to tell others to back down. Use your charm and diplomacy and the solution will resolve. Some old and deep wounds could surface, bring yourself back to present time. Stay in the now. Positive thoughts and meditation are the key.

Virgo ~ (Aug. 23 - Sept. 22) You could feel like your mind is filled with hot button issues. Virgos are temporarily sidelined for now and the Universe wants it that way. It's a time to chill and observe. Help others with your fine tuned thought processes. Your budget has been tight, but this summer is a turning point.

Libra ~ ( Sept. 23 - Oct. 22) Libran's aren't sure how to conduct their relationships anymore. Partners are experiencing deep psychological changes. Demands may seem unreasonable. The planets are suggesting you focus on financial basics and the relationships with sort themselves out. Not glamorous, but it will work.

Scorpio ~ (Oct. 23 - Nov. 21) You have a heightened sense of purpose and ithas simplified decision making. The resulting simplicity and purpose is a good example for others, but try not to reach out at this time. The Universe wants you to focus on your own needs. Withdrawal and reflection make you stronger. Give yourself space.

Sagittarius ~ (Nov. 22 - Dec. 21) You have become more tolerant of others and yourself in the last few years. You are not that soft, but you have mellowed. Someone may test you this month and you feel the need to speak out. You will handle it with more tact than in the past and surprise yourself. Watch your valuables and be aware of your surroundings. Find time everyday to meditate and quiet time is essential.

Capricorn ~ (Dec. 22 - Jan. 19)Be cautious about investments and finances this month. It's not the time for any type of risk. Deep personal changes are taking place within and you are dropping patterns of behavior that no longer serve. New friendships are on the horizon to reflect this change, possible new love. A more cooperative and conciliatory attitude is emerging. Pat yourself on the back.

Kaye Coffey ~ readings by appointment

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