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March 2014 - Catalyst! Newsletter
from Sue Cowan Coaching
                                                                                              Issue 32            
       

 

Spring seems a natural time to focus, like Mother Nature, on renewal and growth... whether it's a "spring clean" of our home, our schedules...even, our life!

Getting rid of things we don't need. Organising and cleaning. Updating. Clearing space for new things.  Letting go... all can apply to our mind, as well as our physical space, our schedules, our stuff and clutter.

 

This month,  some questions to get you thinking how easy - or otherwise- you might find it to "let go".  

Letting go.... in order to lighten up our life, to feel calmer and more in control. 

 

Spring crocus
Till next time,



    Sue
               

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In This Issue
* How good are you at letting go?
* Quote of the Month
* Poem of the Month
* About Sue Cowan Coaching
 How good are you at letting go? 

 

It can feel desperately painful to leave something or someone behind: a cherished dream, a person who took a place in your heart, a worthy goal, a vision of how you thought life would be. It can feel as though you're losing a part of yourself. And sometimes you might even feel attached to your anger and resentment, making it even harder to see letting go as an option.

 

Yet letting go can be an empowering act- it forces you to develop resources like courage, compassion, forgiveness and love.  

Consider the following questions.  Answer TRUE or FALSE to shed some light on how well you release what's no longer viable:

 

Set 1

 

1.   I have a hard time letting go of grudges. When someone does me wrong, they are permanently on my "hitlist".

 

2.   I somehow feel it's "noble" to never give up, and this has caused me to stay in unhealthy relationships or situations. 

 

3.   When an intimate relationship ends, it can take me years to get over it.

 

4.   I spend a lot of time living in the pas t- sometimes replaying what I wish I'd done differently, sometimes reliving old glory days.

 

5.   When I make a mistake, I can't stop dwelling on it and kicking myself.

 

6.   I feel paralyzed by my fear of the unknown. I can't let go of what I have when I don't know what will replace it.

 

Set 2

 

1.   When negative emotions arise, I can allow myself to fully experience all my feelings, and then I quickly find myself in a better emotional state.

 

2.   Leaving behind a situation that isn't working for me is the most self-caring thing I can do.

 

3.   Finding a way to forgive someone - and sometimes myself - allows me to release anger and blame.

 

4.   When I'm in conflict with someone, sharing my feelings allows me to feel heard, release my negative feelings and return to a place of peace and connection.

 

5.   Although keeping the status quo may feel safer, I am committed to making choices that help me get out of my comfort zone and grow.

 

6.   When dealing with the grieving process around the end of a relationship or the death of a loved one, ultimately finding a way to accept WHAT IS, even though sad, brings me greater peace.

 

If you answered TRUE more often in Set 1 and FALSE more often in Set 2, you may want some support to help you let go and move on.

 

   

 

 

 

 

What ideas has the exercise suggested for where you might clear space for new things in your life ....by letting go?


 

Quote of the Month 

" Some of us think holding on makes us strong...
but sometimes it is
letting go
."

-  Herman Hesse     
Poem of the Month

I am me

 

In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me
Everything that comes out of me is authentically me
Because I alone chose it - I own everything about me
My body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
Whether they be to others or to myself - I own my fantasies,
My dreams, my hopes, my fears - I own all my triumphs and
Successes, all my failures and mistakes Because I own all of
Me, I can become intimately acquainted with me - by so doing
I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts - I know
There are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other
Aspects that I do not know - but as long as I am
Friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously
And hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles
And for ways to find out more about me - However I
Look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever
I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically
Me - If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought
And felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
Unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that
Which I discarded - I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be
Productive to make sense and order out of the world of
People and things outside of me - I own me, and
therefore I can engineer me - I am me and

I AM OKAY                                                                      

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                          by      Virginia Satir (1916-1988)

                           Psychotherapist & Family Therapist
About Sue Cowan Coaching 
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photo Sue
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