I'm 51 years old and recently divorced. For many years of my marriage I was focused on raising three kids and being a good mom for them. They're now grown up and out on their own and doing well. My challenge is that for the first time in my life, I'm on my own, too. I want to know how to transform my life. I have some ideas about starting a business. But, I feel like I'm in a rut and don't know where to begin. How do you start over and become successful? Any tips you can share would be greatly appreciated. -Sarah M.
Dear Sarah:
First of all, be patient with yourself. This is a big transition you're making! You're learning to figure out the new you in a very new and different life circumstance.
I've written a lot on transition in blogs, videos and articles on my website:
The Top Five Ways to Manage Change
Step Into Your Greatness
Create a Vision Board for Your Life
And I've dealt with transition in several of my "Ask Lynn" columns.
I'd like to address the part of your question about how to become successful, by sharing my observations from almost 30 (!) years of doing intuitive readings.
Successful people...
... have a clear dream or goal. They pay attention to what makes them happy, enthusiastic and energized. They use that information to assist them in making the right choices and decisions.
They visualize and affirm their success. Not all of them sit down and formally focus on visualizations and affirmations. They picture their dreams and in their own internal dialog they affirm their ability to achieve their goals.
They trust their intuition. Whether they call it a hunch, an instinct or Divine guidance, they pay attention to their inner voice. They take action on the information their intuition provides and they follow its wisdom.
They take appropriate risks. They understand that they'll have to move out of their comfort zone at times and risk doing something unfamiliar. They know that everyone feels nervous and anxious when attempting something new. Despite this discomfort, they persevere.
They have patience and faith. To achieve their goals they have a long term perspective. They know they'll achieve what they desire. They enjoy the process of getting there as much as achieving the goal.
They understand there will be tough times but they keep at it.They trust that things will work out. They tell themselves that while they might be going through a difficult transition they have what it takes to succeed. They focus on any and all successes they had in the past as evidence that points to this truth.
They take action. They understand that small steps are important. They have a plan. If they meet with a detour or an impediment in their path, they simply step back and reassess the situation. They discover where they may have gone wrong, and proceed to take action again, this time in the right direction.
I'd also like to share an intuition exercise with you that may help you get started in your new and successful direction!
