Dear Lynn: My husband just accepted a job offer that requires a move to another state. Part of me is excited, but mostly I'm scared, anxious and making everyone around me miserable. I worry about how my daughter will fare in her new school, whether I (and she) will be able to make friends and if my husband will enjoy his new job. You name it, I worry about it. Can intuition be helpful here? Do you have any advice for me?
-Sharon W.
First of all, it's normal to feel anxious when you're facing a significant life change. You're moving away from something known to something unknown. Our minds naturally seem to want to categorize and manage all the various possibilities of our future. For some reason, many of us are prone to negative expectations. You listed some of your own in your question.
But what if good things were coming your way? It's important to program your mind for success! The thoughts we dwell on have an enormous power. Our lives move in the direction of our thoughts. If you expect that people won't like you, that you'll feel lonely and defeated, you'll greatly increase your chances of that occurring.
My 95-year-old mother-in-law, when asked the secret to her happiness, responds with, "You have to be mentally tough!" She tells me she focuses her mind on all the things she's grateful for and keeps a single-minded attention on the good she knows is coming her way. "God wants us to be happy and if we live with appreciation and set our mind in the right direction, it happens more easily."
I'd also like to share with you one of my favorite techniques.
Envision Your New LifeWhat would your future life look like if you were happy and successful? You'd make some wonderful new friends. Your husband would thrive in his new job. Your daughter would love her new school, teachers and classmates, You would easily find a new place to live. Your community would be supportive and helpful. All would be well.
We move towards the images we hold in our minds. When I find myself becoming overly focused on something negative, I try this fill-in-the-blank technique:
"Wouldn't it be great if..."
- This move opened up all sorts of wonderful possibilities?
- We made lots of new friends?
- Our new home had a big back yard?
You get the idea. Complete the sentence with what you desire. When you do that, it's like giving a GPS coordinate to your intuition. Your inner wisdom will respond with just the right people, circumstances and opportunities for you to live your dream.
Spend a few moments every day envisioning your new life as you want it to be. When those anxious thoughts come, train yourself to be mentally tough. Turn them around. What do you want to create? What do you want your life to look like? What would you like to attract?
Sharon, I want to encourage you to enlarge your vision. Anticipate good things coming your way. Expect miracles. This could be the very time in your life when you experience them! I predict it!
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