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The Power of Listening

 

James 1:19 says, "Be quick to hear, slow to speak..." There is power in active intentional, and respectful listening.  It's the best way to help our kids have an open heart to receive what we have to say about faith in God.

 

Imparting faith to children involves listening to them, for that is the beginning of giving them an understanding of their value before God. It is an un-special need to be valued in this tangible way.

 

Josh McDowell has said, "Part of good communication is listening with the eyes as well as with the ears." Our culture moves so fast. As a special parent you are probably moving from therapy session to school meeting to doctor appointment, but nothing will touch the life of your precious child more than slowing down and listening to his words and to his heart. You might have a child who is nonverbal, but you can still "listen" by giving him or her your undivided attention in a quiet setting.

 

A while ago, Mike and I attended a memorial service that changed our lives. We didn't even know this person. His name was Jan, a man in his 40's who died of cancer. We only went because we knew his sister and wanted to be supportive of her. Little did we know how Jan's life would touch our own!

 

The sharing time came at the service, and thus started the most amazing accounts of a person touching people's lives, and it all revolved around Jan's giftedness to listen! There were homeless people, neighbors, couples whose marriages were in trouble, there were old people and young people, and they all were moved by Jan's listening heart. One friend of Jan's felt compelled to go up to the stairs of the church and demonstrate how Jan would listen. "He would hunker down and get comfortable, like this. Then he would set his gaze on me, and say, "What's going on with you, brother?"

 

It was the perfect picture of James 1:19 because Jan would be quick and deliberate in his "hearing" and then he would slowly share the truth of God's Word, which found fertile soil in the hearts of these individuals who felt so valued.

 

Have you ever had someone listen to you? I mean really "hunker down" and set their gaze on you and communicate through body language that what is in your soul matters to them? When that happens, life suddenly doesn't seem so bad. And you are much more open to whatever that person wants to share with you.  Kids are no different. Our kids with special needs are especially hungry to have someone care about what is inside of their soul for it's something they likely don't experience very often. Their young hearts will respond to respectful attentiveness and that will set the stage for you to tell them about the love of God.

 

 

Bev Linder

bev@special-heart.com

 

www.special-heart.com 

 

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