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Welcome New and Returning Members
 
Sarah Dimitriadis
McSwiney Semple Hankin-Birke & Wood, PC
 
Emily Feyrer
Nixon Peabody, LLP
 
Susan Hankin-Birke
McSwiney Semple Hankin-Birke & Wood, PC 
 
Stephanie Hausman
NH Public Defender
 
Stephanie Ilberg-Lamm
Greenland Police Department
 
Caroline R. Lefebure
Rousseau Law & Mediation, PLLC
 
Julie R. Morse
McLane, Graf, Raulerson & Middleton, PA
 
Valerie Raudonis
Raudonis Law Office
 
Kamee Verdrager
KBV Law 
 

  

NHWBA
Officers and Directors
 
Executive Director:
Gretchen E. Pyles
NHWBA
Gretchen@nhwba.org
 
President:
Holly J. Kilibarda
Nixon Peabody, LLP
 
Immediate Past President:
Holly B. Haines
Abramson, Brown & Dugan, PA
 
Vice President:
Karyl Roberts Martin
Sheehan Phinney Bass + Green, PA
 
Secretary:
Sabrina C. Beavens
Iurillo & Associates, PA
 
Treasurer:
Sheila J. Sturm
David G. Sturm, PLLC
 
Public Relations Officer:
 Christina A. Ferrari
Bianco Professional Association
 
Networking Director:
Erin Desmarais Wolf
Conn Kavanaugh
 
Programming Director:
Kathleen M. Mahan
Cook, Little, Rosenblatt & Manson, PLLC
 
Membership Secretary:
Kara M. Simard
Borofsky, Amodeo-Vickery & Bandazian, PA
 
Vice Membership Secretary:
Clara Dietel
Shaheen & Gordon, PA
 
Member-at-Large:
Heather A. Flanner
Concord Prosecutor's Office
 
Belknap:
Lynne Sabean
Boutin & Altieri, PLLC
 
Coos:
Sandra Cabrera
Waystack Frizzell
 
Grafton:
Viktoriya Kovalenko
NH Superior Court
 
Hillsborough North:
Heidi A. Ames
Devine, Millimet & Branch, PA
 
Hillsborough South:
Talesha Caynon
Bernstein Shur
 
Merrimack:
Marcia Brown
NH Public Utilities Commission
 
Rockingham:
Catherine P. McKay
Parnell & McKay, PLLC
 
Strafford:
Jeanine Kilgallen
Shaheen & Gordon, PA
 
Out of State Liaison:
Hannah Zaitlin
The McLane Law Firm
 
 
News and Events:
April 2013
Greetings!

I have been on the Board of the NHWBA for several years now.  I have served as Secretary, Vice President (twice), and I currently serve as President.  During my Board service, I have been asked countless times why we "need" a women's bar association.  This might seem like a question of less than grave importance, particularly in light of the horrific events of this week.  However, in the midst of the heartbreaking nationwide headlines being broadcast right now, I found a local headline that troubled me to my core and reminded me of the critical need for a women's bar association.

 

According to the Concord Monitor, New Hampshire State representative, Peter Hansen (currently serving his second term) sent an e-mail to the all-House e-mail list on April 1st regarding the bill to repeal the stand your ground self-defense law.  Representative Steve Vaillancourt had delivered a floor speech about the benefits of retreating instead of using deadly force, to which Mr. Hansen replied as follows:

 

"What could possibly be missing from those factual tales of successful retreat in VT, Germany, and the bowels of Amsterdam?  Why children and vagina's of course.  While the tales relate the actions of a solitary male the outcome cannot relate to similar situations where children and women and mothers are the potential victims."

 

Apparently, Mr. Hansen has since said he used the word "vagina" to make a point.  "I used it for, number one, as a factor for shock, and I used that word to bring people into the mindset of a perpetrator" - that is, "of a potential rapist," he said.

 

I only wish that Mr. Hansen's April 1st e-mail was a (completely un-funny) April Fool's Day joke.  Setting aside such minor issues as his politics, which are irrelevant to this discussion, and his improper grammar in the form of an apostrophe-s to improperly indicate the plural, the fact that in this day and age, a man of his stature and his age was willing to refer to women as "vaginas" in an e-mail which he sent to all of his colleagues is horrifying.  He should be ashamed.  Even if he is not ashamed, I am ashamed for him.

 

So long as there are people like Mr. Hansen, and particularly so long as people like him hold positions of power and authority in our society, we will need women's bar associations.  And even when there are no longer people like Mr. Hansen, we will need women's bar associations to remind us of why we must never return to the dark days when e-mails such as Mr. Hansen's are a part of our public discourse.


For additional coverage, you may visit 
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/16/peter-hansen-new-hampshire-vaginas_n_3095135.html.

 

If you would like to deepen the discussion regarding the need for women's bar associations, please join us at the NHWBA 15th Anniversary Celebration on May 9th, where you can hear Pamela Berman, the current President of the National Conference of Women's Bar Associations, address that topic.  I hope you can join us.

 

Regards,
 
Holly J. Kilibarda, President
New Hampshire Women's Bar Association  


NHWBA News
NHWBA Extends its Condolences to 
the Victims and Families Affected by 
the Boston Marathon Tragedy
   
NHWBA wishes to express its condolences to all those affected by Monday's tragedy in Boston.  Many local and national organizations are raising funds to help the victims and their families.  There is a local effort to help Jeff Bauman, the man pictured in one of the most publicized photos from the tragedy.  Bauman is the man from Chelmsford, MA who was photographed being pushed in a wheelchair after having both of his legs severely injured by the bomb blasts.  Bauman had to have both legs amputated from the knees down.  A group of Bauman's high school friends are raising money to cover his costs of living while he is out of work and to help his family make their homes handicapped accessible.  His family lives in Concord, NH and Bauman is employed at the Costco in Nashua, NH.  To read the Concord Monitor's article about Bauman and his family, click here.  To donate to "Bucks for Bauman", you can click here or visit any TD Bank branch and donate to the "Bucks for Bauman" fund.  To send a note of support to Jeff and his family on Facebook, click here
 
There are lots of other organizations raising funds to help the many victims including The One Fund Boston, Inc.New England Patriots Charitable Foundation, New England Revolution Charitable FoundationRichard Family Fund, and LU Lingzi Scholarship Fund.
 
 
Spotlight on NHWBA
 
Our spotlight this month is on our organization as it turns 15 next month.  NHWBA is New Hampshire's first statewide women's bar association.  It was incorporated in May 1998 by Maureen Raiche Manning, Jennifer L. Parent, Joy V. Riddell, Claudia C. Damon, and Julie Introcaso. Incorporation followed closely on the heels of the Hillsborough County Women's Bar Association program entitled "Why Have a Statewide Women's Bar Association in New Hampshire?," which was presented by Ellen Kearns of the Women's Bar Association of Massachusetts in February 1998. Women attorneys throughout New Hampshire were invited to voice their opinions on whether the women county bar groups should join to establish a statewide women's bar association. The consensus was overwhelming and piloted what is now the NHWBA.
 

In Spring 2008, we celebrated our 10th anniversary with a gala dinner celebrating women trailblazers in the law.  Our five trailblazer award recipients were:  Maureen Raiche Manning, the first president of the NHWBA and a leader on the issues of gender equality in the legal profession; Judge Jean K. Burling, the first female judge in New Hampshire; Justice Linda S. Dalianis, the first female justice to sit on the New Hampshire Supreme Court; Kelly A. Ayotte, the first female Attorney General and future Senator; and Jennifer L. Parent, the second president of the NHWBA, a highly visible member of the state bar and future Bar President, and a mentor to many young attorneys in this state.

 

Now, we are set to celebrate our 15th Anniversary on May 9, 2013.  The Celebration will take place at the Currier Museum of Art, 150 Ash Street, Manchester, NH.  We are very excited to have Pamela Berman, the current President of the National Conference of Women's Bar Associations as our featured speaker.  We will also hear from Jennifer Parent, one of our founders, past President, and Trailblazer Award recipient, about the creation and history of the organization.  Please mark your calendars and plan to join us on May 9th.  Tickets are $10 for NHWBA members and $25 for non-members.  To register for the Celebration, click here.

 
 
Nominations for the 2013 Marilla M. Ricker Achievement Award Now Being Accepted
 
The NHWBA is now accepting nominations for the 2013 Marilla M. Ricker Achievement Award.  The Ricker Award honors outstanding women lawyers in New Hampshire who have achieved professional excellence, and who have paved the way to success for other women lawyers, advanced opportunities for women in the profession and/or performed exemplary public service on behalf of women.  The award is named in honor of Marilla M. Ricker, who was the first woman to apply for admission to the New Hampshire Bar.  If you would like to nominate someone for this award, click here.  Nominations will be accepted through May 15, 2013.  If you have any questions about the nomination process, please e-mail our Executive Director, Gretchen Pyles, at Gretchen@nhwba.org.     
 
 
NHWBA's 15th Anniversary 
Membership Drive
   
Our Membership Drive is in full swing.  We hope to increase our membership and inform more lawyers, judges and law students about our mission and about the exciting programs and events the NHWBA provides. We can use your help!  Recruit new members and be entered in our raffle.
 
Prizes include:

1st Prize: Free one-year NHWBA membership
2nd Prize: Voucher for a free NHWBA CLE or Event
3rd Prize: NHWBA Gift Basket

All individuals who join during our Membership Drive and current members who refer new members will be entered into the drawing. The drawing will take place at our 15th Anniversary Celebration on May 9, 2013 at the Currier Museum of Art in Manchester. Please help NHWBA grow and flourish and invite some of your co-workers and friends to join! 
 
For a direct link to our online enrollment form, click here.
 
 
Food Drive to Help Feed Hungry Children has Started!
 
For the fifth consecutive year, the NHWBA will be collecting food and monetary donations to help feed hungry children here in New Hampshire.  Through May 10th, the NHWBA will be collecting all types of non-perishable food, including canned fruit and pasta items (boxed, canned or bagged) as well as monetary donations for the New Hampshire Food Bank. Checks should be made payable to "NH Food Bank" and sent to NHWBA at P. O. Box 915, Manchester, NH 03105. 

Food donations made within individual firms and offices will be collected by NHWBA representatives from May 10th to May 15th. If you have any questions about the Food Drive, please contact Gretchen Pyles or Heather Flanner.

All food items and monetary donations collected during the drive will benefit the New Hampshire Food Bank to help with the increased need for food during the summer months. Specifically, the New Hampshire Food Bank and local food pantries have the added strain of families needing more food because they cannot rely on the schools for hot lunches for their children.

Donations of all sizes are welcome and encouraged. Thank you to all who donate to the NHWBA's Food Drive!  
 
 
Thanks to all who Attended the 
Work Stress Relief Clinic!
 
More than forty people attended our Work Stress Relief Clinic at the Inns and Spa at Mill Falls in Meredith on April 5 and 6. Everyone enjoyed getting away for the weekend and networking with NHWBA members and friends.  To see photographs from the event, click here.
 
 
Upcoming NHWBA Events
Reserve a Seat at the 
Table for Eight with Susan V. Duprey
 
When:    Tuesday, May 7, 2013
 
Time:      6:00 p.m
 
Where:    11 Eleven Bistro
       36 Lowell Road 
              Manchester, NH

Cost:       Dutch Treat
 
Have you ever wondered what it must have been like to be a senior advisor to Ann Romney during the 2012 Presidential Campaign?  What does the Chief of Staff for a possible First Lady do?  Join our featured mentor for this Table for Eight, Susan Duprey, to find out. 
 
For the 2012 Presidential Campaign, Attorney Duprey served as Senior Advisor and Chief of Staff for Ann Romney.  
She is a sought-after political consultant.  She recently served as treasurer of the Ovide Lamontagne for Senate campaign and on the Finance Committee of the Guinta for Congress campaign. She was on the steering committee of McCain for President and formerly served as the New Hampshire Finance Committee co-chair of the Bush-Cheney 2004 presidential campaign and as a member of the Bush-Cheney 2004 Steering Committee.  
 
Attorney Duprey is a shareholder at Devine, Millimet & Branch. She concentrates her practice in land use and governmental permitting issues, and she specializes in obtaining approvals from local, state, and federal bodies, and guiding and positioning clients in difficult settings and for politically sensitive projects.  She has represented numerous individuals and local, regional, and national businesses in obtaining all necessary approvals for complex and multi-use projects. 
 
She currently serves as a member of the Board of Directors of Harvard Pilgrim Health Care Inc.  Attorney Duprey was appointed to the NH State Council on the Arts by the Governor and Executive Council and to the Board of Directors of the Manchester Development Corporation by the Manchester Mayor and Board of Aldermen. She serves as a trustee of the New Hampshire Supreme Court Society. She is a past board member of Heritage United Way and the Greater Manchester Chamber of Commerce, having been elected as chair of both organizations and serving on their executive committees for four years.

Attorney Duprey is recognized in Woodward & White's Best Lawyers in America 2012 and was named "Manchester Best Lawyer of the Year" for her practice in land use and zoning law in Best Lawyers 2013.  She was a recipient of the 2012 Outstanding Women in Business Award by New Hampshire Business Review, and was also named one of the "30 Most Powerful Women in New Hampshire" by New Hampshire Magazine. 
 
To register for the Table for Eight with Attorney Duprey, click here
  
 
Purchase Your Tickets Now:
NHWBA's 15th Anniversary Celebration
 
When:     Thursday, May 9, 2013 
 
Time:      Galleries open at 5:15 p.m.
              Reception to follow
 
Where:    The Currier Museum of Art
              150 Ash Street
              Manchester, NH
 
Cost:      $10 for NHWBA members / $25 for non-members
 
The NHWBA turns 15 in May!  Join NHWBA members and friends for an evening of celebration on May 9, 2013 at the Currier Museum of Art in Manchester.   We are excited to have Pamela Berman, shareholder at Adler Pollock & Sheehan in Boston and the current President of the National Conference of Women's Bar Associations, as our featured guest and speaker at the event.  We will also hear from one of our founders, Jennifer Parent, about the creation and history of our organization.  Please purchase your tickets now to attend this exciting celebration of NHWBA's important milestone.  
 
To register for the event, click here.
 
 
Join NHWBA's Team in the 
Walk Against Hunger
 
When:     Sunday, May 19, 2013  
 
Time:      12:00 p.m.
               11:00 a.m. - Registration
 
Where:    Veteran's Memorial Park
              Corner of Elm and Merrimack Streets
              Manchester, NH
 
Join us for a four mile walk through Manchester to help end hunger and homelessness in our community.  For the 23rd consecutive year, New Horizons' Walk Against Hunger will take place rain or shine on Sunday, May 19th.  Donations can be collected through May 19th and will benefit New Horizons for New Hampshire Soup Kitchen, Food Pantry, Homeless Shelter and Angie's Shelter for Women.  
 
If you'd like to be a member of our team, please e-mail our Executive Director, Gretchen Pyles, at Gretchen@nhwba.org by April 22, 2013.
 
 
Other News and 
Upcoming Events
ABA President, Laurel Bellows' Recent Interview with Chicago Grid Creates Maelstrom in Work-Life Balance Debate
   
Laurel Bellows was recently interviewed by Julia Williams, a Chicago lawyer, for Chicago Grid.  During the interview, Attorney Bellows said that "talking about work-life balance is fraud."  This caused a backlash by many lawyers around the country.  (To view the interview of Laurel Bellows, click here.) 
 
Pamela Berman, President of the National Conference of Women Bar Associations and our featured guest and speaker at the 15th Anniversary Celebration, had the following to say: 
 
"It is tremendous to see Ms. Bellows as the President of the ABA. We commend her for making gender equity one of her top priorities and working toward equity in compensation. There is no doubt that the tireless work ethic followed by Ms. Bellows has enabled her to achieve success. The model represented by Ms. Bellows is one of many models of success. 

As the President of the National Conference of Women's Bar Associations and a successful litigator who has practiced for more than 30 years, it is important to recognize that there are many different models of success. Many successful women (and men) have chosen different kinds of balances and paths to success. There is not a single monolithic way. The workplace must be flexible to support, retain, and recognize the successful bright talented stars who achieve success. 

By recognizing the different kinds of contributions individuals contribute and the unique manner in which they are made, work-life balance is not a fraud. As we all know, reasonable minds may differ. Ms. Bellows presumes a life where clients have children of comparable ages and interests, and have an equal desire to blend their worlds, and spouses are amenable to such "overflow." Neither of these is a given. 

In many situations, for both male and female attorneys, home is a haven. While the iPhone or Blackberry may come out on occasion, time spent with family is quality time devoted to family. Many professionals find they are better at all parts of their lives with at least some separation. 

Not all clients want to overlap their worlds either. Many would consider an invitation to a children's event on a Saturday to be an unforgivable intrusion, which would certainly not be a career benefit to the suggesting attorney. Others may want to hear comparable home stories over lunch, but limit the "personal bonding" to just that setting. 

I have no doubt Ms. Bellows' point of view works for her and I commend her for finding her personal solution. But it is just that, a personal solution. 

The danger of such conversations, and the reason for the unacceptable drop in female attorneys continuing in the legal profession at the point at which they could hold management positions in firms or companies, is that this is by no means a "one size fits all" issue. For a company or law firm to truly succeed at retaining qualified female attorneys, and for those female attorneys themselves to truly succeed, there must be flexibility. In the same way that women cannot succeed by trying to be more like men than the men, as some of our pioneers in the field attempted, women cannot succeed as professionals by trying to fit another mother's mold. This is no more successful than one trial attorney trying to memorize the closing argument and mimic the style of another trial attorney, simply because it worked well for the first one. The result is insincere and uncomfortable for everyone. 

Again, I am pleased to see this discussion and welcome it continuing. And as long as we as a profession allow our assets, those qualified women and men who also happen to be parents, to bend without breaking, we can all succeed." 

 
Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day is Thursday, April 25, 2013
  
On the fourth Thursday of each April, more than 37 million Americans at over 3.5 million workplaces participate in Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work Day. Originally called the Take Our Daughters to Work Program, founded by Gloria Steinem and the Ms. Foundation for Women in 1993, the concept was created in response to research that found many girls lacked confidence and were dropping out of school by the eighth grade.  Ten years later the name was changed to ''Take Our Daughters and Sons to Work'' so that boys, who are subject to many of the same problems, could also participate.
 
The theme for 2013 is "Work in Progress."  The day is designed to inspire future generations by inviting them into the workplace so that they can explore the many life choices they have.  
 
 
Constitutionally Speaking
An Evening with Ted Olson & David Boies
 
When:    Friday, May 17, 2013
 
Time:     6:00 p.m. 
           
Where:    Capitol Center for the Arts
              44 South Main Street
              Concord, NH
 
Renowned litigators Theodore B. Olson and David Boies, who recently argued against California's gay marriage ban before the U.S. Supreme Court, will discuss the case and their careers. The evening program, which is part of the Constitutionally Speaking series "How Does the Constitution Keep Up with the Times," will be moderated by New Hampshire Public Radio host Laura Knoy.

A yearlong pilot project, Constitutionally Speaking aims to promote meaningful civics education in New Hampshire schools and spirited, yet civil, dialogue about the Nation's founding document among the state's citizens. It is a partnership of the New Hampshire Supreme Court Society, the New Hampshire Humanities Council, and the UNH School of Law. Attorneys Olson and Boies presented arguments to the U.S. Supreme Court on March 26 in Hollingsworth v. Perry. This case challenged the gay marriage ban that was narrowly approved by California voters in 2008. Previously, the two were on opposite sides in Bush v. Gore, the U.S. Supreme Court case that decided the 2000 presidential election.

In 2010, both Olson and Boies were included among Time magazine's 100 Most Influential People in the World. Olson, who was U.S. Solicitor General from 2001-2004, is a partner in the Washington, D.C. office of Gibson, Dunn & Crutcher. Boies, who from 1998-2000 served as Special Trial Counsel for the U.S. Justice Department in its antitrust suit against Microsoft, is chairman of Boies, Schiller and Flexner. The firm has offices in New York, New Hampshire, Washington, D.C., California, Florida, and Nevada.  
 
Admission is free and open to the public, but advance reservations are required.  To register, click here.
 
 
Register Today for 
New England Women's Leadership Summit
 
When:     Friday, June 7, 2013
 
Time:      8:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m.
                  (7:00 a.m. - Registration)
 
Where:    Nashua Community College
              505 Amherst Street
              Nashua, NH
 
Cost:       $195.00 through May 14, 2013
 
This one day event is intended to "raise awareness of the personal and professional capacities and skills needed to advance in the competitive and changing world of the 21st century."  The theme for this year's Summit is "The Courage to Lead."

The sessions are designed for women in different professions and with varying levels of seniority. They are intended to enhance motivation, build confidence and provide inspiration. There will be specific opportunities for professional development, skill building and networking during the event.

The keynote speakers include Jessica Jackley, a Venture Partner with the Collaborative Fund, focused on investing in creative entrepreneurs who want to change the world through emerging technologies; Chris Grumm, the CEO/President of the Women's Funding Network (WFN); Liz Walker, an ordained minister, a television journalist, a documentary film producer and a humanitarian most recently working in the war-torn country of South Sudan; and Annabel Beerel, Ph.D., an organizational consultant with expertise in Leadership and Change Management. For more information or to register, click here.
 
 
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