Whenever I see an event happen now within the world that brings with it an element of controversy or conflict my initial reaction to it, instead of getting caught up in the actual event itself, is to ask myself why has this happened? What has gone wrong in this person's life or that country's existence for this situation to present itself now? Soon an explanation or reasoning starts to appear where more compassion can be brought to the situation and understanding given.
In writing here today I don't aim to belittle or condone any events that have occurred. For those on the receiving end, great trauma has often been experienced at the hands of their oppressors, but this is normally as a consequence of some prior conditioning that the other has experienced within their family unit or from a societal perspective causing them to react in this way, creating the destructive path they are then placed upon, the deeper the suppression, the more extreme the violence as a consequence.
If we however are quick to condemn and persecute, reacting in a similar way we are in effect just as bad as the other and will never learn anything, continuing to break apart and separate rather than truly connect. We won't bring the necessary healing and ultimate forgiveness that is required so we can help prevent it happening again.
Our task in all circumstances is simply to seek to understand. In Jo Berry's own words at the start of her journey to forgiveness she says that 'two days after my father was killed I made a silent vow to bring something positive out of the destruction to try and understand those that killed him'. She now does peace talks all over the world with Pat McGee the IRA member that planted the Brighton bomb causing her father's death.
Kate McCann too, only this week, has stated she may now be in a place where she can start to forgive the abductor of her daughter Madeleine, in seeking to understand what brought this tragic event about.
With all of the scenarios I have mentioned above if there is any blame to be handed out at all then it needs to lie squarely at the foot of our current societal model and the system itself rather than the individuals who struggle to cope with it. Predominantly masculine in orientation, geared towards growth, thriving on a consciousness of fear and control, starving many of their basic needs and above all love, leads to very unhappy, separated souls, capable of doing all manner of things in desperation as a result. A collective conditioning that has a bearing on us all whether we are aware of this or not.
If we ourselves are to help start the change to a happier way of existing, we shall have to take responsibility for our own part we play in this scenario, seek to understand why it has come about, see what we can to do to alter the status quo and inquire into any conflicts that we do come across in our own lives and businesses. Not seek to condemn and fire people from our workplace or social circle but come to a resolution by stating our truths and extending a hand, arm or heart to the other, forming fresh bonds for we do not know what opportunity that may well bring for us as a community.
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