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GuardYourEyes Chizuk E-Mail (No. 1221)  

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In Today's Issue 

  • Member Chizuk: Sweat It Out 
     
  • GYE Principle #9: Learning to love Hashem ... (p.1) 
     
  • Sex Addiction Basics: 10 Tips for the 1st Year in Recovery

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Category: Member Chizuk

 

Sweat It Out

By Anonymous 
 

We know that "biderech sheodom rotzeh lailaich molochin oso". We also know that if someone wants to be mitaher himself, HaShem will intervene and help along. 

Only one week after I came to GYE, my chavrusah didn't show up to Seder. So I sat down next to a friend of mine who was learning hilchos pesach and discussing matzah baking. We came to the Mishna Brurah that says that one should try to make his own matzah for the sedorim, and if one does it and sweats while doing this mitzvah (or does any mitzvah to the point of sweating), it's a kaporah for hatzoas zerah livatala.
 
I was so excited when I heard this: not only did I learn the Halacha but this is a chizuk to me! If one really wants to grow and be mitaher himself, but maybe he may not know where to find the information, HaShem is right there and He will hold your hand and guide you along to Hatzlucha. 

 

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Category: Announcement

 

 The Third Annual GYE Convention in Israel
"From Slavery to Recovery"
with keynote speaker, Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski
 

For registration, contact 

DPMZ.GYE@GMAIL.COM

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One-liner

 
    Let go of old ideas.

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Category: GYE Principle #9

 

Learning to Love Hashem through This Struggle
 Part 1

 

This struggle is the fertile soil that our "true" selves will grow out of. And through it, we learn how to give our hearts over to Hashem. And hopefully we will be able to look back one day and say that it was all worth it. After all, for what did we come down to the world for, if not to learn how to give Hashem our hearts? As the Pasuk says: "Ten b'ni libcha li - my son, give me your heart." Through this struggle, we learn how to "Let go and let G-d" and how to surrender our will and our lives over to Hashem in a very deep way. And this is something most people never merit to learn, even in 120 years on this world. So in a deeper sense, this struggle is truly a gift from Hashem and a sign of His love for us - if we only use it correctly!

 

No matter how much we have fallen, we must never view ourselves as "despised" by Hashem or imagine that Hashem is annoyed and frustrated with us. Instead, as we learn to give over our will to Hashem we will begin to feel that Hashem is truly our closest and most eternal friend.

 

As we progress and mature, we begin to view our relationship with Hashem on a much more intimate level. We begin to perceive how the lust is trying to get in between "us and Hashem" and interfere with the greatest love that can possibly exist!

 

To learn how to redirect our love to Hashem through this struggle, here is one helpful approach from the Holy Sefer, Noam Elimelech from Rav Elimelech of Lizensk (Parshas Bishalach):

 

Yakov Avinu A"H, used to serve Hashem with his midah, which is "Tiferes" (meaning "Awesome Beauty"). And from everything he used to see, hear, do, or eat, he took from it awesomeness of the Creator--Blessed Be He. For example, if he would eat something tasty, he would think in his mind: "This food is but a creation. Who put the good taste into this food? Was it not the Creator--Blessed Bbe He? And if this food is so good in taste, is it not obvious that all the good and pleasantness is to be found in the Creator--may his name be blessed--without any limits or boundaries?! And so he would think with each thing. And with this is understood the Pasuk, "and Yaakov kissed Rachel".

 

How uplifting and beautiful it is to try to apply this midah of Yaakov Avinu to ourselves. Whenever we see something that turns our hearts to these desires, we need to tell ourselves, "If this is truly so good and I desire it so much, how much more desirable it must be to connect with Hashem, for in Him lies all beauty, comfort, security, love and pleasure. (After all, if He didn't have it all within Him, could He have created it?) All of us have a "G-d hole" that we are trying to fill. Hashem gave us a deep subconscious need to seek Him out, for He is the source of all that we need. Our physical minds are simply messing up the signals of our soul's yearning. The beauty we see in this world is but a fleeting shadow of the real thing!

 

To be continued... 

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Category: Announcement

 

Good News! A special treat for GYE members.

 

12-Step Workshop by Dov on Phone

 

Monday (March 9, 2015) through Thursday, March 19.

The call takes place at 12pm EST (using Duvid Chaim's timeslot, phone number + PIN).

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Category: Sex Addiction Basics


10 Tips for Your First Year in Recovery

 

The first year is the hardest. Some would say it is the most important, because most relapses happen within the first year. When people first enter recovery, their mind and emotions are doing crazy things. Here are a few tips that can help you get through the first year

1 - Go to Meetings

SA may not be for everyone, but the benefits of 12 step meetings are without question. At the very least, meetings will help you build a support system. Having people to talk to is crucial in your first year. Believe me, you don't want to spend too much time with yourself. 

 

2 - Call People 

Just call them. Even if you don't know why you or what you are going to say. You will find that people are more than willing to take your call.

 

3 - Pray and Meditate

GYE members may know about prayer, but you don't have to be a monk to meditate. Sometimes meditation means just sitting in the quiet by yourself. You will find that the answers will come to you if you are still and silent.

 

4 - Exercise

There are tons of health benefits to exercising. In early recovery, it may be a way for you to stay busy and stay out of your own head. Going for a run, lifting weights, or even doing yoga will help build your confidence. It will also give you a natural "high" of endorphins.

Just don't over do it. Replacing one addiction with another isn't what we want.

 

5 - Help People

If you are going through the steps, we don't recommend bringing someone else through step work immediately. However, this doesn't mean you can't help them.

Random acts of kindness, like driving people who don't have a car, or even just listening to someone who needs to talk. When you are helping someone else, you are not thinking about yourself.

 

To be continued... 

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